Im in a great relationship with a guy,but ive had a steamy fling with a girl and i drool over girls that i find attractive.my boyfriend is worried that if we have a threesome,i might 'cross over'.maybe im jus kinky but i think im bi-sexual.Forgot who,but some old scholar claims humans are all bisexual.
2007-02-16 08:21:16 · 15 answers · asked by La Vixen 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i think you are bi. and if you are kinky thats a plus too..
as long as you are having fun:)
hit me up if u wanna chat.!
christy
2007-02-16 10:48:50 · answer #1 · answered by ceecee800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is insecure (meaning jealous) and worried that if you enjoy sex with someone besides him (female or male) that you'll leave him. He doesn't see that what you feel for him goes beyond just sex, that he is more than that to you. You know that you can have great sex with others besides your boyfriend - I'm sure you have in the past - but only your boyfriend can be your boyfriend because he fulfills all your other needs, i.e. friendship, companionship, emotional support, etc.
But, some people feel that sex = love and love = sex. That because they are sexually attracted to someone that they must be in love with them. Some people also think, subconsciously, that sex is the primary reason you are together and if it is better with someone else that you'll leave for them. They don't realize that sex with others isn't better, it's just different. Nothing more.
It's not that he doesn't trust you, or thinks that you are so shallow as to leave him over sex, it's just that he's insecure in his worth to you. He is afraid that he's not "enough" and that someone will be preferred over him. You know that's not the case... and he probably does too on the surface. But deep down he's still trying to convince himself.
As far as do I think you are bi? Yes. And there is nothing wrong with that. Alfred Kinsey once said “The only unnatural sexual act is that which you cannot perform.” So it's not so much as being "bisexual" as simply being "sexual". The label is for those that have to separate things like this for their own emotional comfort.
2007-02-16 18:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your BF is a little late weighing in with his opinion and worries if you've already had a "fling". I think you are bi if you have really done it with a girl and loved it but loved the guy relationship too. I agree with the scholar, wish I knew who it was.
2007-02-16 08:47:35 · answer #3 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the scholar ur thinking of is Freud
he thot all humans were innately bisexual b/c..
well look at it this way
if u were deeply, deeply in love with someone..would it really matter if they were a boy or a girl
he thought we do not fall in love with a gender, but with a person
i think that really depends how much of ur relationship is physical/sexual...
and lesbian sex is pretty much the hottest.. i mean we all know how it works down there thus we should be best at giving ourselves pleasure
so maybe u r bi/ will cross over
2007-02-16 08:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by NemotheFish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yea, your bi. There's nothing wrong with that tho. The question is are YOU worried that if you have a threesome you'll crossover. There's nothing wrong with a female being attracted to other females.
2007-02-16 10:13:12 · answer #5 · answered by smurf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably just bi. If you decide to join the other team, but still like guys...are you straight?
2007-02-16 10:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself what you really want, now and in the long term. If you have a threesome , you may lose the guy. Are you prepared for that?
2007-02-16 08:52:16 · answer #7 · answered by juneaulady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are bi and also sounds like you aren't really ready for a relationship if you have to cheat on your bf in order to be happy..
2007-02-16 08:40:42 · answer #8 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are Bi... If your Boyfriend has a problem with it.... Find a guy who has no problem with it..... I'm free
2007-02-16 08:41:36 · answer #9 · answered by Stephen G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely bi.
;)
2007-02-16 09:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋