I Need To Reclaim My Childhood!?

Question

Ok. I have spent all my life in a house with a depressed mother and abusive father. At school, everyone picked on me and beat me up. So, naturally, I tried to grow up.

I am now 12 and have the intellegnce of a 23-year-old. My parents are getting divorced and I'm at a new school. Problem is, it's really hard for me to be a kid and do kid things with my new friends. I also have a hard time trusting people. How can I reclaim my childhood before it's too late?

Answer 1

oh wow. hunny i feel for you, i really do gurl :(

when you mean you cant be a kid with your friends..what do you mean? go to the cinemas with them..goof around. n your 12..you have plenty of time yet..a good 7 yrs left before you have anything to worry about. i mean i'm 15..n i act like the mentality of a 50 yr old. lol. but it dont stop me from being me.

you know at the end of the day..if being a 'kid' is not you..then you gotta learn to accept that. i reckon your family history is gettin in the way..you need to talk to someone about that gurl..its only gonna eat you up. and the early bullying...damn i feel real bad right about now.

but you know you've made it..you just gotta remember that. n your strong. i really recommend you talk to someone about this.good luck hunny. :)

remember..the sun gon shine with you.

~1~

Answer 2

Hope that any help will do:
Well , by starting , you are only 12 year old , that thinks that haves the intelligence of a 23 year old.....
To have a 11 year experience, you have to live and learn alot of everything, maybe you must have to know that you have mature in someway due to those experiences and thats allright.

Right now dont try to think that you are a 23 year old, you have to know that you are a 12 year old that has live in a way that others 12 year old people have not live like you.

You don't have to reclaim a childhood, you have a childhood right now!!!, enjoy!!!! really enjoy!!! , live by your age right now.

Hope is everywhere you look , you have to talk with another close family or somebody that is like 23 year old or more to help you, because you want to carry the weight of the world right now, and I prefer you to live life right now........

Yes , maybe you are smart, but doesn't have live a lot yet.YES THERE IS MORE!!!, more better , more harder , more crazier things in your life,

Right now focused on your problem with someone that is more closer to you that is more older than you.

Sometimes experience really don't matter what age do you have , but people that have lived the same situation as you are now , will tell you..... Live your life as what you are....
Congratulations again of being someone more mature, but it takes more to really say , i have the intelligence of a 23 , 30 or 50 year old

GOOD LUCK my friend...

Answer 3

You seem to have already reclaimed it with wild stories and skipping through Answers with abandon. This road ends in tragedy so why not find something less transparent. Some people come here for help. You must be very angry. Exercise will help anger. I think you need some friends or new ones. Get out of your rut. You deserve to be more intersting and thereby you will find a measure of happiness and hopefully end your boredom. You can't trust people if they can't trust you. Good Luck.

Answer 4

You can not reclaim something you never had. BUT YOU CAN START NOW A NEW LIFE. You need a good therapist, counselor or some type of guide. You are chronologically very young and dependent on the adults around you. Your parents are not able to take care of themselves, and have difficulty caring for you. Please look for help at school, talk to your pediatrician, or other doctor I am sure someone cares about you and will guide you on the right way.

Answer 5

From what you describe, you have an IQ near 200|

That is exceedingly high|


But it does not mean that you don't have great vulnerabilities and that there are many things you don't know|

What you have to learn is what the experience of life yet has to teach you|

Although your intellect is extraordinary, you still have the social skills of a 12 year old|


The thing with you is not to try too hard to fit into the crowd|

You cannot accept *their* value judgments of things, because many of them are plainly false|


Just be true to yourself and to your true interests, then you will naturally find the people that you fit well into, and much of your trauma will heal.





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Answer 6

Wow you have a lot of baggage for a young girl. You should try to get involved in school activities and connect with at least one girl that you can share your feelings with. It is ok not to trust at first but after awhile you should try to open up and trust friends, there are some good people in the world. Good luck.

Answer 7

Allow yourself to step back from all the complicated life that you have if you can a little. Do somethings with the kids your own age ... Allow the childhood to return to you slowly. It will take time as you are more mature than some of your friends.
If you can try not to be ahead of them and allow them to make decisions. though they may appear to be very immature.
You may not be able to relate well to them at that time.
I hope that watching Movies and going to social gatherings might help you out somewhat in regaining the child you can be.

Be patient with yourself and allow time to take over for you

Answer 8

Whew, I am so sorry this has happened to you. This may be difficult at first but it will get easier. First, stop doing adult things your mom has to handle her own issues...not you. Stay clear of your father if possible. Watch cartoons, listen to the music you enjoy. Attend school functions with your own age group. Try not to block gaining new friends because of your trust issues. Give people a chance.

Answer 9

It is obvious from your post that you're very intelligent.
If you could see a therapist to help point you in the direction of reclaiming your childhood, I think that would help tons.
Good luck!

Answer 10

dang i know what your talking about im sorry ive went through the same things almost my dad drinks alot and use to beat the crap out of my mom, my mom is my everything shes all ive ever had im sixteen now i went through that crap for 13 years it sucked bad now iam a very nervous person but im better than i used to be but i still act like a kid hun i dont know what you can do im sorry i cant tell you just ask yourself how you want to be and you will be exactlly that i hope i helped you i dont think i did but yeah -leann-