I have low self-esteem with regards to my body. It doesn't help the fact that I can't get a date (guys barely talk to me) and my dad make fun of me by calling me fugly and stumpy.
I'm on the ice 6 times a week, I go to the gym often i eat 1000-1100 calories a day and work off about 700 calories a day.
But I don't wanna risk doing something stupid.....how can I bring my esteem up?
2007-02-16 07:44:12 · 12 answers · asked by toronto_leafs 4 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I don't like wearing alot of make up, I feel way too fake/ The picture I have up is the most I've ever worn in my life
2007-02-16 07:56:07 · update #1
I meant to add this earlier...what can you do to improve self esteem? I get depressed when I look in the mirror...how do you improve it?
2007-02-16 08:22:15 · update #2
I appreciate people taking time to offer suggestions, I've really been looking for help on this one
2007-02-16 09:41:41 · update #3
I had a father that use to put me and my sister down ALL THE TIME. Whether it was weight, makeup, intelligence, friendships, etc. I know all about the self esteem issues, when I was 16 I was borderline suicidal.
This is what you should try to do (take it from me). Let your father know that you are having a hard time hearing him (the man that is suppose to love you no matter what) call you names, and it is affecting your self image. If he can't accept you having a concern with how he speaks to you, then cut ties (if you are old enough or if you can move out on your own) Sometimes distance makes the heart grow fonder. Make sure you speak to your doctor about depression and if there is anything that you can do or take to help you out. Be strong, you are very beautiful and I am sure you have a good head on your shoulders.In regards to not wanting to wear make up......don't, you don't need to you are a natural beauty. And plus confidence comes before a made up face. Good Luck to you, I hope everything works out well for you. Surround yourself with positive people!
2007-02-23 02:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Carla S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aw, I really feel for you. I have been dealing with anxiety and depression for about 4 years. Go to the doctor and get on some medication. It literally saved my life. By the sounds of it, you are very fit and active and eat healthily. That is the most important thing. I'm sure you have a rockin body, but you can't get past all the little negatives, what your dad says and not talking to any guys. I'm 17 and home schooled (because of my anxiety). I am still waiting for my first kiss. I've never been on a date or even talked to a guy remotely date material since my crushes in grade school. Don't worry, I'm right here in the same boat.
2007-02-16 15:52:29 · answer #2 · answered by Horsetrainer89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you have the power to build your self esteem. Check yourself out in front of a full length mirror. Well, what do I look like? Am I fat? If I am, then it's time to drop the extra pounds gradually. You're not ugly as your picture shows. Don't let yourself down over the boys not asking you for a date. That will eventually come about. Just be yourself and smile a lot and enjoy life. Most boys today are dunder heads, a lot of egotists. Your father is proof of that! He shouldn't critize you. Pay him no mind. Maybe he thinks he is some kind of Greek God.
2007-02-16 15:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by Pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry you are going through this..
I have to say that I dealt with this mostly when I was a teenager, I'm now 28 with 2 kids. I had an eating disorder and I hated myself...I had no reason to. Counseling might help you..look in the mirror and force yourself to find things that are good about you, whether they are on the inside or out..ex: youare a good friend or you have pretty eyes and keep ot up, force yourself to say"I'm attractive, I'm beautiful" write it on yourself with a pen..I know it sounds stupid, but it works..
For me..I got in a bad car accident when I was 18, I HAD to eat if I wanted to get better and heal..and I realized that there were more important things than how I look.
Looking back on my youth, I was hot, I was perfect, for me..I wish that I could have appreciated myself, becuase now??? Now I have sagging, and wrinkles, and stretch marks...having kids has ruined my body, but I still force myself to find the good in it..as little of it there may be..APPRECIATE WHILE YOU HAVE IT!!!
2007-02-16 16:40:34 · answer #4 · answered by bluucantuinashoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
limit the time you spend with people who are down on you,
Spend more time with people who appreciate you
as far as you dad, maybe write him a letter telling him how much he is hurting you.
I imagine he will curb that behavior.
my own daughter, who is now 16 months,
I would not hurt her on purpose,
but I can imagine that some things we do now she will hate when she is older.
for example she has a little pot belly,
and we tickle and tease, but she is laughin,
I imagne she will not like that if did that when she was older....
you dad may be doing something that was "cute" when you were little, and not realize that its hurting you now.
tell him! a letter is best cause if you don't say it the way you want, you can change it before you give it to him
another think that always helps me feel better about myself is helping people who can't pay me back.
at the end of the day, you know that you did something good, for the sake of goodness.
2007-02-16 15:51:57 · answer #5 · answered by papeche 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are beautiful! and I mean that! It's a shame that your dad is putting you down. you're going to have to be the one that helps yourself. Everyone on here can tell you how pretty you are and give you all kinds of suggestions, but it starts with you. Look in the mirror and make yourself say, "I like me" and the heck with what everyone else says.
2007-02-18 12:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Geaux Tigers! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are awesome just the way you are. If you are working as hard as you say you are I am sure you are fine. Get dressed in something cute, do your hair and make up then head out to the local mall. I am sure lots of guys check you out, if you are like me you just don't notice!
2007-02-16 15:54:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're a pretty girl and no one should be making fun of you.the guys are just to shy to talk to you.skating and taking care of yourself should be helping your self esteem there is nothing wrong with you.
2007-02-16 16:59:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can put my bottom dollar that your probably a diamond in the rough and you just haven't broken out of your shell yet, when the time is right you'll blossom and you'll have everybody eaten at your feet OKAY!
2007-02-16 16:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweety don't worry OK I will get your self - esteem up. I love to chat with you .
2007-02-16 21:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋