Okay am I interested in starting my own business so often my dad calls / ideas and I entertain him even if I am not interested because he is my dad. BTW....I am Christian and I am trying to live a Jesus lead life as much as possible...So he calls and says that a distant cousin of mine holds these parties for women....He then goes on to say that he was looking at some book she had with the items including toys....he says verbatim "there are toys here for one sex, same sex, and unisex" Mind you I am still listening, So after he finishes with his sales pitch he ends it with saying he doesnt konw how my pastor will except this or if he would agree with it. This is when I went off...the only reason I listen for this lonf was because I figured he didnt know that It would conflict with how I felt about God....So then he says well Sex sales and talking to me about white preachers...So I say to him that yes my pastor is white and so is his wife and kids..What does that have to do with anything?
2007-02-16 07:31:24 · 16 answers · asked by comingofage03 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Btw my dad is agnostic....and We obviously dont believe that same thing....I am his only child and we never had a good relationship....He says he didnt konw I would get this angry....I am his only child how in Hell couldnt he know I would get mad? I am soooo mad I dont know what to do! I equated this to me saying to a ex crackhead....Hey I know how you could make some extra money....but it's selling crack and I dont know how that wouls conflict with your recovery...This sucks...
2007-02-16 07:33:39 · update #1
I am sorry I was upset...I think that after I went off he needed a way to excuse himself...so thats when He started telling me about sex sells and how he doesnt believe in Jesus because the White man used it to enslave blacks...and Yes this is true but Black men were also selling slaves and besides all of that I am not gonna let the slave trade stop me from going to heaven are people crazy?
2007-02-16 07:43:37 · update #2
Took a minute to see what was going on here.
Your Dad is trying to give ideas to you about launching a new business, he sees a sex toy catalog and without consideration before hand for your values and ethics he tells you what a great deal this would be to invest your time in, and realizing, to late, this might go against your christian beliefs makes a slur against your pastor. Well, I can see why your mad. Your Dad is not a very tactful individual. Being mad and upset with him seems like a waste of energy to me for if he is like my Dad he will just come up with another idea. I just say to mine, thanks but I don't think that's what I want, and change the subject. He doesn't always get the hint but so far I have lead my own life the way I want.
2007-02-16 08:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by sassywv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your dad knows that you wouldn't morally approve of such a venture, I would wonder why he was "pitching" it to you, except to get to you. I wouldn't give him the satisfaction of knowing that he had got your goat, so to speak. Just smile and politely thank your dad for looking into this for you, and move on. I don't know why your preacher's race or ethnicity would have anything to do with this, and why that would upset you. I can understand your dad upsetting you over starting an "adult toy" business, but not about your preacher. Sorry. Hope you feel better about things soon.
2007-02-16 07:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your father that you are not interested in that kind of business.
You will find your own interest and go with that.
thank him for his ideas and tell him it is not for you.
It is important that you don't get caught up in his delirium with sex toys and party's for women. This is not you.....
As an adult you know what is best for you and do not need to go into this kind of business, just because he is offering it.
It is not important to him about your morals and standards which tells me he is very immature and disrespectful.
A bit of a cad I would say.
You do not have to get personal with him but politely decline his offer.
You pastor and family have nothing to do with this at all.
It is your decision and your conscience that you have to face every day.
I am sure there is going to be a wonderful opportunity for you in the future.
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2007-02-16 07:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you for being upset with your Dad, he is not respecting your way of thinking. I would suggest you set boundaries with him. If he doesn't respect your boundaries than he is being selfish. I have a feeling there has never been boundaries set nor does he even understand what they are. Talk to a counselor or a friend who can be objective about this. If you want to keep a relationship with your Dad and you see him heading in a direction where you know it will upset you, cut him off. Say well thanks for calling Dad I love you but have to go.
2007-02-16 07:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by jeannie_quin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. your dad has some problems that's for sure. I know you and your preacher have prayed for him a lot and you love him. He dos`nt know any better in a since. to suggest to you to sell things that are of that nature is totally absurd for any christian lady. Keep being the light and the salt and keep the prays for him going. and the white preacher thing that`s just as absurd god see the heart of the person and he made us all these beautiful colors.
2007-02-16 07:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by pheebe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he was just trying to help. Sounds like maybe he doesn't know too mcuh about your religion i was christened a roman catholic and i couldnt tell you half of the 10 commandments. What has your paster being white got to do with anything? You should just keep calm and say dad thanks for tryin to help but my religion wouldnt agree with that and i am trying to live by it. You only get one dad and you should try not to fight with him.
2007-02-16 07:47:04 · answer #6 · answered by kazz06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your faith in god. he will lead the way. Your dad is only trying to get your goat because he doesnt have the same spiritual beliefs as you. Pray for him and tell him that you love him.
2007-02-16 07:36:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're learning about your dad. It doesn't really have much to do with you. If he degrades you, just realize that is his own problem and know that he's not particularly disrespecting you. He disrespects all things in that way. Anyway, just try to get along with him in spite of his shortcomings.
2007-02-16 07:38:30 · answer #9 · answered by the Boss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I'm not sure I exactly follow all that you have said....
However, I don't think this is worth getting too upset with your dad over. Just tell him that you are uncomfortable discussing this subject with him and move on.
2007-02-16 07:39:27 · answer #10 · answered by tesla_styx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋