I have a daughter who thinks the world revolves around her. She has been rude, sarcatic and ungrateful. she is upset that I can't be there for my grandson's first birthday. I want to be but we live in two different states I can't fly there everytime she wants her way Her Dad and I are divorced and he can give her what ever she yearns for. I on the otherhand can't I have a very limited budget that I live on. But that doesn't matter to her. She has destroyed two of her Dad's relationships because she finds fault with everybody. I love My Daughter and miss my grandson. But what I'm I suppose to do. Miss work run everytime she snaps her fingers. I don't think so lots of families have kids grandkids all over the place why do I have to be the bad guy. any suggestion?
2007-02-16 06:42:05 · 7 answers · asked by tink 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first you need to stop letting her make you feel guilty for not bowing to her every whim... secondly instead of running to see her for "un important" things, explain to her, that as an adult she should be able to respect & understand that limited budget means just that "limited", and while you miss her & your grandson terribly & think of them daily, you can't come everytime, so the two of you need to talk about which "holidays & special occassions" are the most significant to you both, and work out who will fly where. Like you go to her for her sons b-day, she comes home to you on Mother's day, etc..... This is the best thing to do...what she does in her in dad's life, is beyond your control, you must concentrate on your relationship with her, & making it a more healthy one. It's difficult to break old habits, but they can be broken, my granny called it "tuf love"....
2007-02-16 07:26:41 · answer #1 · answered by rjsluvbug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her deal with her own snottiness. She's been the center of attention so long and perhaps you are partly to blame for this. Don't call her for a while. See how long it takes her to call you. Make the next meeting on your terms.
Be prepared to love in a tough way for the long haul. But in all honesty, nothing is going to change the way she is. You either can accept her or cut her out of your will and leave your money to your grandchild.
Now that will get her attention. Just make sure that all money is put into a trust fund until he's 21. Leave her a dollar so she's not left out.
2007-02-16 06:50:40 · answer #2 · answered by upperclassman1956 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The divorce was a good idea. see what he did to her. By (snap) your lobster ma'm. She thinks she can have whatever she wants. You may feel like the bad guy but it's her fathers fault.
2007-02-16 06:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by darrkadlubowski 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to tell you this, it may sound harsh, but you are reaping what you've sown. She learned this bad behavior young, and it's too late to give her a good spanking. If she can't understand that you can't be there, it's her problem...too bad you are the one to have to suffer....I'm so sorry.
2007-02-16 06:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by maimatt7 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you told us. She is acting like a spoiled child.
2007-02-16 06:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im glad its just not me. good luck.
2007-02-16 06:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by tracieisland 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU MUST GET SOME COUNCELING FOR HER
2007-02-16 06:49:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋