The same reason men get married and have kids, then leave for another man: Trying to achieve the only "American dream" that was made available to them until they just couldn't make it work any more.
I'm not sure it makes any difference to kids if one of their parents leaves for another man or for another woman. It's the loss of a parent that hurts, not the why or who. It's only adults who get hung up over the sexuality issue.
2007-02-16 06:50:13
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answered by Anonymous
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Oh! I can answer this. I am this woman. It's not easy to be this woman. I am actually still married and living two different lives. It's hell. The man I married is a great guy. He's caring, loving, a great father to my two beautiful kids. My kids are great, out-going, smart, funny, happy. I put up a happy front. I have to say, I probably identify more as a lesbian than as a straight woman. I am a feminine woman and I am attracted to women that are not very feminine. I have had several relationships (yes, I've had these relationships during my marriage and I'm not proud of that). I fully expect to get ripped up one side and down the other about that from people posting on here. I wouldn't change any of the experiences I have had. If I hadn't have gotten married, I wouldn't have my children, if I wouldn't have made that first step in my curiosity about women, I wouldn't have many of the wonderful experiences I've had. I just love everything about women. I just didn't realize it at an early age, unfortunately.
Anyway, I feel like I've babbled and set myself up for a barrage of answers from people that are going to tell me that I need to either leave my husband or stop seeing women. I know that I need to make a decision. I'm working on it. It's a slow and painful process. It's not an easy one to do. Thanks for your time. :o)
2007-02-16 08:01:28
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answered by Confused Woman 1
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society brianwashes us all into thinking that we "must" be straight. so many men and women assume this and get into relationships.. once they mature and reach adulthood, then may realize they are actually more interested in same sex.. it's sad but it's just the way it works. it took me 33 yrs to realize i am bisexual, and also 33 years to realize i have transgendered and transsexual feelings.. i always knew something was different about me, but it just sorta hit me recently..
luckily, i haven't married or have kids yet. and the main reason was i always felt uncomfortable in dating/relationships/sexual situations.. now i know what the problem is and i will take steps to correct things before i get into love situations again..
as far as child suffering, well, i don't think orientation of parents matter so much as the simple divorce. my parents are both straight, but the dirovce hit me hard. seeing dad with another woman hurt at first..
2007-02-16 06:53:10
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answered by Jeff 4
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Excuse me, but I am a "sufferer" of your prostieses and you just sicken me!!! My mother has been a lesbian since i was only a few years old. she left my dad for very good reasons and was alone to raise my sister and myself alone and eventually turned to women for comfort. she has only had two girlfriends both serious relationships. one was a 12 yr relationship the other a 7 yr relationship and still going strong! I turned out to be a wonderful wife and mother same as my sister. just dont talk about situations you know nothing about. Oh and thanx for offending me and my mother!
2007-02-16 15:07:52
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answered by jus_a_lil_crazey 1
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That happened to me. After 10 years of marriage and 2 kids, my ex decided to leave us for the "other team".
She wasn't able to cope with the pressures of raising children, and this was her way to escape reality and responsibility.
2007-02-16 06:58:29
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answered by radical4capitalism 3
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Good question but You have to think of the women too....She probably had family and friends that would have never accepted her. Now that she is an older woman she doesnt have to care as much what they think.
2007-02-16 06:51:44
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answered by ...J 2
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It is a woman's prerogative to change her mind; and there is hardly any psychological hindering on the child as much as the mother getting a divorce from the father. It is not the child's fault.
2007-02-16 06:50:45
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answered by grumpyfiend 5
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You're just repeating yourself!!
GET OVER IT!!!
SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU ANYMORE!!!
Just accept it, I didn't come out until AFTER MY DIVORCE FROM A GUY! I've already told you that many women and men don't learn to accept that they are gay/lesbian until later in life. Why is that SO HARD FOR YOU TO UNDERSTAND?
2007-02-16 06:56:27
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answered by DEATH 7
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