how to deal with daughter getting bullied at school?

Answer 1

either you go to school and tell those kids something, I mean really scare them, or teach your daughter how to defend herself. and I don't mean tell her to start bullying...

Answer 2

Is this primary or secondary school? It shouldn't make any difference to the help you get but your daughter may feel different. First, make sure that the Head and teachers are aware of the situation and keep an eye on it during school time. They should interview the bullies and warn them off at the same time so that they know they are being watched. If you feel that you are not getting the support from the school that you need write to the Chair of Governors.

Don't be afraid to involve the Police - speak to a community officer, tell the school and ask them to let the offenders know that you will press charges if the situation persists. This will also deter them from continuing bullying out of school.

My youngest daughter suffered like this and this is how we solved it. It is nice to know that what goes around usually comes around - the last I heard, the bullies were having a very hard time in other ways; strangely, we had no sympathy for them!

Good luck, it will pass and your daughter will be a stronger person after.

Answer 3

Bullying is a social epidemic right now and a key word to use when you call the principal of the school. During that conversation just mention calling the press (you can say you want to know if any other schools in the area are having this problem and what they did about it) and the fear of heaven will force the administration to keep a better eye on things.

I know that teachers are underpaid and overworked, I know that they are shorthanded and do the very best job they can but I also know that kids being bullied when they are young are becoming murdering teens when they can't take it anymore.

Please also get counseling for your daugter. You have no idea how much she has tolerated before telling you and don't think you know your child so well that you can guarantee she won't show up in a trench coat with a machine gun in a few years.

I'm sorry to put that on you about your child but I can't imagine that the parents of the rampaging teens so far really had any idea their children had reached the limit either.

And, don't hesitate to contact the media if your daughter doesn't get relief. Or change schools.

Answer 4

First things first, talk you your daughter and find out what is happening, it may be a spat between friends.
If she is being bullied make an appointment to meet with her teacher, your daughter should be present also. Get your daughter to explain in detail what has happened and who is involved.
The school should have an anti- bullying policy,(If your in the UK it's a legal requirement). The school should take over from here and solve the problem. Give this course time and the problem should resolve itself, don't expect over night success, these things take time. If she is still being bullied talk to the teacher again and perhaps ask to see the head.
Whatever you do don't go in shouting at the teacher and making accusations, this will get you no where and will complicate matters because no one in the school will want to talk to you.
Solving bullying requires a calm head and a workable action plan.

Answer 5

Some schools really need an update on their bullying policies. Enough is not being done and i see a lot of children falling into severe depressiosn because of these unresolved problems. A lot of the times bullying can because even worse if a complaint is made and the school does not follow up sufficiently enough. I would advise you to take up the matter with the school and to not take no for an answer or any type of excuse. Self defense classes will also benefit the child - obviously not to physically destroy these monstrous bullys but at least to scare them. Good luck!!xx

Answer 6

I got bullied before at school, and I know that it is not anything fun.
First, have your daughter or yourself talk to a teacher, or a counselor, or the principal. I have gotten decent help from school authorities, and thereby avoided a less-desirable confrontation.
If this does not work, or the school officials are not available, try to trace the bullying student to his parents. Usually school districts provide directories to contact parents. Confront the parents about this issue and suggest that they discipline the child. Don't be too aggressive; maintain a friendly personality as much as you can and don't attack their choices in raising a child, but do not be submissive either. Let them know that you are concerned for your child and do not let them make you back down. Make them know that you will not accept your daughter's treatment by the bully, and suggest a mutually beneficial solution.

Answer 7

This is a serious issue.

The school has to be notified, you need to voice your concerns.

Most school have anti bullying policies. But you as the parent may have to push the issue with them.

My daughter was bullied by up graders while she was in 5th grade. I had to go as far as talking to the school systems superintendent and visit the school board meetings to be taken seriously.

I was not about to allow my child to be swept under the rug and the bullies allowed to continue their ways.

Don't give up..stand your ground..know your rights and your child's right..use the right channels and always keep your cool. A clear strong voice will win out over a screaming emotional parent any day.

I wish you luck.

Answer 8

first off, i am glad your daughter knows that she can come to with these kinds of issues and that you support her. second, if the teachers or principle aren't doing anything about this matter. go over their heads and talk to the school district regarding this matter. if the students that are bulling your daughter have no problem with doing this and the school staff doesn't either, then these bullies need to be called out so that know that there are consequences for there actions. ask other parents if this is occurring with their children. bring the subject up at the next parent meeting. you may be surprised at how people are effected by this everyday. all it takes is one person to stand up and the rest will follow

Answer 9

As a teacher, I think it could be handled like this: Talk with the teachers- call or e-mail them. If it is happening in their classroom, they may not see it. I have 35-40 students in a class, and it CAN be missed. If they don;t notice anything, or it is happening outside of class, then you need to talk to the Dean or whoever is in charge of discipline at the school. They will be able to take care if it, and if they don't then you take it to the superintendent of schools in your district. In fact, if it is not handled to your satisfaction, you should "Threaten" to do that-- it is your right.
Also, I have had a number of parents go to school with their kids- like to all of their classes. They just sit in the back of the room and observe. Sometimes parent s do this when they're kids have bad grades or are misbehaving.
You have the right to get involved and make sure that the school knows that you want it taken seriously.

Answer 10

Go to the school, have a confrence with the principal and do whatever it takes to protect your child.

That happened to me and the school first said, it wasn't happening on school grounds so there was nothing they could do... so I told the principal I would call the police and then all of a sudden the school did everything in their power to help out and it stopped!

You need to stand up for your child in some instances, I think bullying is one of them!!! I truly believe in some school instances, it's the squeeky wheel that gets oiled!!!

Answer 11

I was bullied for about 12 months when I was in primary school, it's the most terrifying thing for a child, I should have been happy, looking forward to going to school and playing with friends. The problem is with the school bully, is that he/she has a lot of people that look up to them, mainly because they are afraid of them too.
If your daughter doesn't retaliate, then I advise she change schools.By telling the head teacher can be more of a hindrance than a help and can make matters much worse. once my mother took me out of that school, I changed so much, I enjoyed my lessons and I got back to worrying about the things a child needs to worry about ....and that's nothing.
lots of luck.