I think I'm bisexual. Ever since I was in kindergarten when all the girls had little crushes on guys I kinda had crushes on both...and its been that way for as long as I can remember. My mom found out and she flipped on me and told me I could be born gay or straight. No bi. Shes says that Bi people cant make up thier mind and they just want sex...and it bugs me because I dont want sex, I'm 15 and I just want a good relationship. Is that so much to ask?
I was just wondering if you really can be born bisexual..
2007-02-16 06:20:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Amber, bisexuality is a real sexual orientation. Your mother is very mistaken.
Many people around your age actually begin to realize what or who they are sexually. There may have been subtle hints beforehand, but around adolescence it begins to become apparent, especially for bisexuals.
Some people believe bisexuality is the default orientation and that some learn to be straight or gay and some stay bisexual. I personally do not believe in the theory that anyone is born with a certain orientation. I think our final orientation is the end result of both biology (genetics or fetal sex hormones) + social forces in our lives during critical periods. I have lived too long and have heard far too many stories from far too many people to believe anything else.
And by the way, people on here who give you really nasty, bizarre answers know very little about human sexual orientation at an intellectual level and probably know even less about human psychology overall.
2007-02-16 09:19:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom, like a lot of other people, is mistaken. Bisexuality is a real, valid sexual orientation and there are many, many bisexual men and women in the world to prove this.
Bisexuals aren't indecisive and don't need to 'make up their minds' (how can you make up your mind to be attracted to someone?), they aren't 'in a phase', or greedy, or sex-addicted, or cheaters, or anything else- they're just people who happen to feel attraction to both sexes.
Don't doubt what you feel you are. Sometimes people experiment at your age and find that as they grow older, their desires shift and they realize they weren't, in fact, bisexual. But that's not the point- right now you feel you are, and so you are, and your mother needs to understand that.
I suggest you keep stressing to her that you don't want sex, but just a good relationship, and tell to have no worries on that part, and maybe try sharing some good information with her:
Dual Attraction: Understanding Bisexuality by Martin S. Weinberg, Colin J. Williams, and Douglas W. Pryor
Bi Lives: Bisexual Women Tell Their Stories by Kata Orndorff
Bisexuality in the Lives of Men: Facts and Fictions by Brett Beemyn and Erich W. Steinman
Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out by Loraine Hutchins
In the end, though, if she won't soften up and try to understand and see things from your perspective, simply ignore her, and don't waste your time.
Good luck and I hope things go well for you.
2007-02-16 06:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sexuality is a spectrum, ranging from gay to straight, with bisexual right smack in the middle. Everyone falls somewhere on that spectrum, but you don't have to fall right smack onto one of those three options. Some girls make out with other girls when they're drunk. Does that mean they are bisexual? Maybe but they could just fall somewhere between straight and bisexual on the spectrum. Some people experiment. It doesn't matter. As long as what you are doing is consensual and not hurting anyone, don't sweat it. Date both if you want to. Don't get so hung up on the label. You are what you are.
2007-02-16 06:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by NIcole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 06:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can. True Bisexuality is rare, and many people hold the belief that it isn't real, but there are bisexuals. The problem is that many people claim to be bisexual but really aren't and spoil it for the real ones.
2007-02-16 06:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by mugenhunt 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your mom is wrong, it is possible to be bisexual. Tell her that there is a such thing. Show her my answer. I KNOW BISEXUAL PEOPLE!!! I am straight, and I try to accept all people, no matter what. Hope it helps.
2007-02-16 08:33:24 · answer #6 · answered by Busta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bisexuality does exist and is more common than homosexuality. I personally know about twelve bisexuals.
There is nothing wrong with you, and your mom is misinformed.
Good luck.
2007-02-16 06:28:57 · answer #7 · answered by Robin W 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can be born bisexual. If you feel like you are attracted to both genders, then you are bisexual and it shouldn't matter what your mom says. Hopefully, she'll love you no matter what. Just explain to her how you feel.
2007-02-16 06:28:32 · answer #8 · answered by PUtuba7 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OMG YES.....I, like you, have since I can remember have loved both men and women...ALthough I prefer women much more to men..Anyway...Be with whom ever makes you happy...Guy or Girl..Your mom sounds very uneducated in this area...SHe will someday accept you..It just may take time. Hugs n kisses !
2007-02-16 06:25:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm engaged to a man but I also like women. It's normal for a lot of people.
2007-02-16 06:25:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋