Can this happen? If not resoved during the teen years, can they go to adulthood, ruining their relationships?
2007-02-16 06:15:31 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Oh yes! Take it from me. I'm now 20 years old and I still resent my parents from when I was a teen.
2007-02-20 03:27:32 · answer #1 · answered by sweetpea_2232 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can but you know I was a real strain on my parents when I was 16 to 17 years old. My parents tried not to be strict on me and gave me a bit of freedom and this helped. After I got through my horrible teenager stage my family and I became a bit like the Brady Bunch. Now I am 21- still living at home and we have the best relationship, it has now chaged to a friendship which is really different but great at the same time
2007-02-19 23:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by renee.emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if you don't resolve them while a teen you can carry them on to adulthood but why would you want it to. I say let love conquer all the hurts and cherish your parents because you will only have them for a little time, and time here in this life is so precious, why rob yourself of the joy of their love and the happiness of sharing good and bad times with them will be with you throughout your life. Cherish those moments and put aside any resentment and allow God to help you to find love to replace it.
2007-02-17 01:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately - it's up to the parent to take the initiative to resolve conflicts in relationships. Teens may not make it easy, but the parent has to try. If the parent thinks they will just "wait it out" and try to resurrect the relationship when the teen is an adult, please be warned: There is such a thing as "too little too late." A young adult whose parent suddenly comes out of nowhere and wants to bond with them is likely to become even more resentful.
2007-02-16 06:23:07 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Lucky♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep. Very poor parenting and mistreatment as a child has ruined not only my life, but that of all my siblings as well and left me bitter.
I've worked hard to free myself of "stuff" that didn't get healed--and which family members, including my parents, refused to participate in getting resolution/healing for, much less acknowledge.
I've known, from the moment I left college that I had "issues" and saw how they played out in my relationships, from work situations to boyfriend situations--even though I desperately tried to not "be that way", "respond that way", etc.
It's now nearly 3 decades later, I've worked hard on myself and have come a very long way in terms of having and maintaining friendships for example as regards trust and respect.
But, the damage to me and my adult life and my life potential has been done and, quite frankly, I can't figure out how to stop being angry and bitter and self-destructive--which is my next big hurdle.
2007-02-16 06:29:07 · answer #5 · answered by answerme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a possibility its a fact. If you are the mom you need to start making things right asap. My mom has not been my oldest in 3 years and not once has seen my 2 year old. She treated me like crap when I was little. And not just *my mom wont let me stay out late* sorta crap. Like she would hit us and call us whores when we were only 10 and had no odea what that word ment yet. She refused to let me see my dad and then told him if he wanted to see us that he had to give her money then she would go and spend the money on her bfs and not on us. And sometimes she even left us at the house for over a month long by ourselves to fend for ourselves. Yes as you can see things need to be fixed before they go to far
2007-02-16 06:26:20 · answer #6 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. Resentment isn't washed away by turning 20, 25, or even 40.
2007-02-16 07:11:53 · answer #7 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Very much so, in fact they may also prevent their parents from seeing any grandchildren. Young adults will simply move and refuse contact towards or by their parents it can get very bad besides not seeing grandchildren not being invited to their wedding, allowed to see them if ill etc.
2007-02-17 00:16:18 · answer #8 · answered by badmikey4 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DEFINITELY. That's where most problems start! Teen years are the hardest on the kids and parents. If you make it through that, you're pretty much good to go. You gotta start fixing it now...
2007-02-16 06:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by Erin D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, but, once a teenager grows up and has children of their own, then, they tend to understand where their parents were coming from. I didn't appreciate anything my parents did until I had my own children. Let me tell ya, my parent's were saints for putting up with my crap.
2007-02-16 07:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋