I've been really good friends with a girl for a couple of years now,
But there's been a rumour going round that she once snogged a girl,
There was also a rumour that she fancied me and one of my other friends,
Also she's not intresed in talking about who she fancys or boys ... AT ALL!!!
And when we have sleepovers she keeps butting in on us as we get changed,
WHEN SHE KNOWS WE'RE IN THERE!!!
I've got nothing against lezz's or bi's but this is scarying me!!!
2007-02-16 06:03:45 · 9 answers · asked by Scooby_Doo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OK, this EXACT same thing happened to me in high school..!!
If you want to save this friendship, you CAN! You need to first tell her that her honest answer will not mess up your friendship, but that you would like an HONEST answer. Tell her you're wondering if she likes girls (dont ask if she's a LESBIAN maybe she's just curious or bisexual or maybe she doesnt know what to label herself yet and the L word may scare her). If she says "yes" then tell her that you're ok with it, as long as she doesn't hit on you.
As for the peeking during sleepovers, you should talk to her, but try to understand where she's coming from first...
I mean, if you were in a private room with a whole bunch of guys changing, wouldnt YOU want to peek? She's just curious...
But tell her that you dont want to be the object of her gaze/curiousity... tell her she needs to see you as a friend and no more than that, but let her know that you will happily be her friend in this platonic way if she wants... Good luck!
2007-02-16 06:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by The cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The reason why this issue is bothering you so much is because you keep hearing rumors about her. Don't get yourself involved in the he said/she said drama. Rumors are rumors, and you shouldn't believe them unless there was some physical evidence. Her sexual preference is none of nobody's business and she's probably used to seeing other females change clothes in front of her because she has sisters or other female friends. Continue to be her friend because everyone needs a friend, especially when it comes to being there for one another and being honest and trustworthy. If this issue is really becoming a problem, talk to her about it. Otherwise, don't worry about her. Be there for her. Be the kind of friend that she is looking for. Lock the door next time if you don't want her walking in on you while you get dressed. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-02-16 14:24:43 · answer #2 · answered by Lady S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know someone else said its none of your business, but if she is a really good friend, and she is making you uncomfortable, than it is. Now, if its only making you uncomfortable because other people are talking, or because you dont like not knowing, then you have to learn to deal with it. Is she busting in on individuals changing, or are there a few of you changing together? I mean, if there are more than one of you there, she may not see anything wrong with it because it is a group of girlfriends doing stuff that you girls do. if it is individually, then it deserves to be addressed. I dont know if you straight up ask her if shes a lesbian, but let her know that you've noticed how she constantly is walking in on you changing, even if she knows your in there, and ask her what the deal is. She might be looking for an outlet to tell about her sexual preference, and if your friendship is worth it, it might become all the more better if you are that outlet she can confide in.
2007-02-16 14:13:42 · answer #3 · answered by YouKnowImRight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should never believe Rumors without Proof. So many of them are started from trouble Makers. If she has Sisters then she is probably use to dressing in front of other girls and its not a big deal to her. Don't judge your friend . Talk to her and find out whats going on..
2007-02-16 14:12:53 · answer #4 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she's lez, AND thinks there's a reason you should know some-
thing about her sex life she'll tell you. You wouldn't want a boyfriend
spilling his guts to his friends -- what's the difference ?
If you're uncomfortable about her being around when you're
partially dressed or nude, shut and/or lock the door.
2007-02-16 14:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and let her know that you think she is feeling you and you ain't having it . Tell her you are sorry but you don't role that way . Tell her y'all can be friends but you don't carpet munch . Sorry truth is the truth be nice when you say it . Do not beat around the bush just come straight out and let her know before she falls in love . GOOD LUCK !!!!
2007-02-16 14:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by Me777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless you swing that way, then if she approaches you explain to her that you have nothing against lezz's or bi's ,that they can do their thing but you want no part of it ,just to be friends.
2007-02-16 14:16:25 · answer #7 · answered by skip3800 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is none of your business. Next time you are changing, lock the door.
2007-02-16 14:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by Question Addict 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be a good friend. talk to her. see how she feels and let her know how you feel. do not turn your back on her, everyone needs a friend.
2007-02-16 14:07:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋