I'm 25 and been with my b-friend for 3 1/2 years. This is the 3rd time we are breaking up and he is always the one to break up and then after a couple of months, he wants to get back together. I've just about had it but I always seem to go back to him because I feel he is the best one out there. He's very good looking and extremeley funny.. We also used to live together and now I have got my own place and a lot of extra time since all we did was were with each other all the time. I know that I need to keep busy, but wanted to know if there were any good ideas on what to do to keep busy especially when his life is always full of things to do and he is constantly surrounded by people and I use d to be part of that "busy" life and now I'm not... ...thanks!! :)
2007-02-16 06:01:58 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
ahh I think we've all been through that. Even though it is hard in some ways. It sounds like you are realizing this is not something to continue with. In other words, you are ready to move on. It also sounds like you just seem to settle for just him. You have to also remind yourself, is this really worth it? Give him no attention from you no matter what, no phone calls, no nothing.
It really the only way. GO COLD TURKEY! Just keep reminding yourself there are more good guys out there.
If your still ok with dating others, go to an online dating service. Get involved with a local community group. I have seen diff clubs in my community to join. Like, the tall club, etc. Go out with some coworkers after work. Sign up for a local community college class. There is so much you could do. Just sit down make a list of what you would like to do with your new again freedom. Youd be surprised what you may put.
Ive been there done that more than I want to admit so Im right there with you girl!
Good luck!!
2007-02-16 06:16:48 · answer #1 · answered by AB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most likely reason for him to break up and then want to get back with you is that he has met someone else and it did not work out. You are just something to fall back to until he meets someone else and again repeats the cycle. He has broken up with you three times and is not willing to make a commitment to you. It is time to move on.
You need make a clean break. This probably means making a new set of friends and this is the difficult part. What are your interests? Here are some suggestions to meet people. Join a health club or the YMCA. Join some groups and get involved in interesting activities. Check out the local park activity centers and other community events. If you attend a church, check out their singles groups. Go out with some coworkers for a girls night out.
I'd suggest online dating, but it is really hard to truly get to know someone and there are often too many expectations. Hasn't worked for me, but I still try it now and then.
Good Luck!
Sloop
2007-02-16 06:33:24 · answer #2 · answered by sloop_sailor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not take a class at a community college or your park district? Or how about a class at a craft shop? They are always fun, usually cheap, and are a great way to meet people with similar interests. Have fun with your new life and don't look back!!
2007-02-16 06:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by pookiemct07 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't comprehend in the experience that your fascinated yet you're able to discover some style of craft there circulate sewing, drawing, making issues,, connect a well being club, there is alot of stuff to take your strategies off of him and occupy some time i picked up a 2nd activity
2016-09-29 05:04:19 · answer #4 · answered by truesdale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do decide to ever take him back, tell him this is the last time, because your heart is not a yo-yo. The only thing I could suggest in the mean time is to make the most of your life, don't let him get to you.
2007-02-16 06:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Third times a charm... I would not put my self through any more hurt with this guy no matter how good looking he is. Get some hobbies and some new friends. It is one of the hardest things that you will have to do... but do it.
2007-02-16 06:07:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just forget him. you should have done that the first time itself. if he doesn't respect you, you need not either. as for him being good-looking, funny, or whatever that makes him special, just look around and you will finds many people. who knows, you may find a better person.
2007-02-16 06:09:24 · answer #7 · answered by Deepak S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him tell him how you feel , Tell him that you miss him and you love him very much, ask him about living with you again if that was working out for you that is. Just tell him how much you mean to him that you cannot leave with out him I hope that helps alittle bit
2007-02-16 06:08:04 · answer #8 · answered by j13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consider yourself lucky. He is leaving to have sex with others. It gets boring and goes back to you, until you're boring and he finds another.
Go do things you like and believe it or not you'll end up finding the one you want to be with.
2007-02-16 06:06:50 · answer #9 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well girl 4 get him look 4 another guy ther r alot who would like to go with u
2007-02-16 06:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by Norvis C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋