I know that the ideal is to love and to be loved, but what happen when they love you more than you love them. Which one would you choose to be; the one that loves or the one that is love? In other words would you stay in a realationship where the other person loves you a lot but you can't love him/her the same way, is it fair for you and them?
2007-02-16 05:50:44 · 15 answers · asked by Susu 3 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
To be loved is what everyone hopes for, but it is really outside your power. It depends on the people around you.
I prefer to love, because that depends on me. It says I have made a decision. Love is a feeling, but it is not something that you have no control over. You can love more or you can love less, it's up to you.
Sometimes when kids become teenager they seem to love their parents less. They find so much fault in them. Then adulthood comes alongs and teaches so many lessons about life and responsibility, that the parental loves comes back with a new awe of respect, and a regret for not loving those who cared the most about you all along.
A person who loves does well to the beloved, does well to the family. A person who prefers to be loved more, is sometimes kind of self-centered. In my relationship with God, I know he loves me more than I love him, yet somehow God is pleased that I do have love for him and that my love is growing. Love is not static, it moves and stirs one to action, and it grows.
2007-02-16 06:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by ignoramus_the_great 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it wouldnt be fair, to either of you. You would be living a lie. The other person thinks you love them as much as they love you, but you are lying to yourself and you end up unhappy. You would be happier if you had someone you could love the same back. Otherwise it is wasting time.
On a different angle from your question, i would rather be loved (ie from family) than to love someone and have no one love me in return.
I hope you are not in the situation you have presented as I have been in that one before. Love is a tricky thing. Sometimes we forget what it is once we already have it. We make it into something bigger and better. Sometimes we learn the hard way that what we already had was love and that it was enough. I was lucky, i learned the hard way, but got him back. You dont know what you had untill you lost it. Cheers!
2007-02-16 14:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's the wonderful love of a beautiful maid,
And the love of a staunch true man,
And the love of a baby that's unafraid --
All have existed since time began.
But the most wonderful love, the Love of all loves,
Even greater than the love for Mother,
Is the infinite, tenderest, passionate love
Of one dead drunk for another.
-- Anonymous
2007-02-16 15:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by BlueFeather 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call me cynical, but I think being loved is more important than loving. I think that simply because we humans require a long period of dependency before we can survive independently. The caregivers who enable our survival during that dependency do so because of love. Now when someone loves you, the decent thing to do is love them back. Although, people don't always behave decently, and that is because we don't need to love people in order to survive. We only need them to love us.
2007-02-16 15:54:35 · answer #4 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the love for one another is the highest love there is.
of course everyone defines love differently and so that should be the bigger question ?
who has the accurate knowledge of what defines love ?
Im sticking with Gods revelation to us from the scriptures
as he defines love as being un selfish and a genuine concern for others.
to give rather than get. to serve rather than be served.
when we have love for one another we are "one love"
2007-02-16 14:04:45 · answer #5 · answered by lovin_livin_laughin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is really hard to choose i am always stuck beetween one lately i have been the one loved so i want to try to be the one in love! x3
2007-02-16 13:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's more important to love because the energy that you send out is the energy that will return to you in kind.
2007-02-16 17:08:10 · answer #7 · answered by Lettie D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course, we'll go the unconditional way- to love and i did that=), and i am happy=), and i am complete=)
but if it comes to a point that you're already emotionally hurting, confused and being taken for granted, might as well let go of that love, sadly:(
2007-02-16 15:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by oscar c 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i prefer to be loved cos if i love wth all my heart i'll b in a lot of pain...cos i just broke up after 3 years and it pains a lot cos i loved with all i had
2007-02-16 13:55:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been blessed to know love but not the pain of not to know love at all.
2007-02-16 15:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋