immigration/custody?

Question

I'm 21, married, with a 5 month old son. My husband is abusive. He's also kept me locked in the house for two years, and cut off all my contact with friends. He also cheats.

I'd like to get a divorce. But I'm currently in the middle of spouse immigration. If we break up now, I have to leave the country. And if I didn't have to, I'd want to. That means a custody battle over my son, who was born here. Also, my having been locked away for two years while my husband worked, isn't going to look good in the "responsibility" area. Fair enough except that my husband honestly doesn't give a damn about his son, and will waste his last cash on booze while I'm scraping pennies out of the couch for baby formula. I can't leave my son with that.

I also have no cash of my own, and no access to his.

I need out of this situation before it breaks me, and I don't know how. I have zero proof. Any ideas, any knowledge of divorce/custody proceedings and my chances, would be very very much appreciated

I'm in Australia, originally from Holland.

Answer 1

My feelings go out to you
But sympathy isn't what you came here for So let's get to some suggestions

Suggestions:

1. Look at the Australian government web page on Family Law (Divorce, Child Custody etc...) @ http://www.australia.gov.au/149

2. Get (maybe borrow one from a friend) a video camera and when he trys to assault you next take a video of it... then you will evidence against him

3. Get a friend to come home with you and WITH your friend present have a conversation with him about the whole situation and then you will have a witness to his creulty

4. Talk to some friends about the situation.. about how you would have worked to support your child however he had locked you up... more witnesses for you

Summary:

--Find out what Australian law says about your situation @ http://www.australia.gov.au/149

--Get evidence... friends/witnesses, video evidence whatever you can get

Those are my suggestions

I do not know much about Australian divorce law however if you need to just talk to someone you could talk to me Excaliber0420(at)hotmail(dot)com

ATTENTION: I cannot be held responsible for my advice or any implementation of my advice, by implementing my advice you take sole responsibility for any consequences of it

(Sorry I have to do this to protect myself.... tort reform =\)

I hope this helps you,
-TBird

EDIT:
r m is right you should get a hold of your baby and go to your embassy ASAP!!
They will probably take care of you and your child while you are there

Praying for you,
-TBird

Answer 2

Go back home with your child. Make arrangements with a friend or family member to get out while you can. You can always try to document your husbands alcoholism with bank statements or receipts, pictures, or any criminal records he has obtained due to his drinking. Then you can fight your custody battle efficiently. I feel your pain as I left a useless husband who caused me a lengthy EXPENSIVE custody battle for only God knows what reason. I must stress that if he's truly an alcoholic, THERE IS PROOF!!!! YOU MY DEAR ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR FINDING IT! Take care of that sweet child, he needs you to protect him until he can protect himself. Best wishes and prayers to you sweetie!

Answer 3

Go to YOUR embassy in Aussieland, speak to legal councel there. Get them to help you and your baby back to holland.....Even if you have to make this statement to them " I am a citizen of Holland and am seeking assylum for myself and my baby" Once you say that, they cannot make you leave the embassy, DON"T tell your husband that you are doing this!!! Hope to see you on the news!! Good luck and God bless you and your Baby!!
ATTENTION: I cannot be held responsible for my advice or any implementation of my advice, by implementing my advice you take sole responsibility for any consequences of it

Answer 4

Try the sites below for research on this legal matter. Make sure to change the location/state in which you reside. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

Try contacting your embassy in Australia and ask them for help or advice.

http://www.netherlands.org.au/pages/index_en.asp

Answer 6

Why ask a question this serious on the internet? Are you looking for
more trouble?
WAKE UP!
You know what to do!