I'm asking cuz HE is 34 and I am 23 (yes, I'm a girl, my avatar is a guy though). Do a lot of people have issues on dating someone more than a few years older/younger? I want to hear people's opinons on it! Thanks!
2007-02-16 05:32:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Sorry, I was having fun playing dress up with my avatar LOL! I made it be him! And no, my name isn't Laura...
I don't have that big of a problem with the age difference. He does. Some of your answers are already helping. Thanks!
2007-02-16 05:55:38 · update #1
It isn't the age that matters (unless a minor is involved with an adult), but rather the level of maturity and compatibility. So what if he's older. If you both care for each other, get along well, have common interests, enjoy each other's company, then go for it!
2007-02-16 05:41:10 · answer #1 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age ain't nothin but a number... to a certain extent. I think 10 years is about the maximum age gap that I consider reasonable for someone in their 20's. When considering age, you have to think about maturity and life stages. For example- a 15 year old and a 25 year old will not make a good relationship because they are in separate stages of life. (Picking out prom dresses vs. starting a career) A 25 year old and a 35 year old are more likely to be on the same page if they are both settled down and know what they want in life. A 50 year old and a 60 year old are very likely to be at the same level, since by this time most people know who they are and what they need. It all just depends on how young/old you are.
2007-02-16 13:40:55 · answer #2 · answered by maggielynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a serious relationship with a man that is 8 years older than me. It is working wonderfully and we don't have any issue with our ages at all. But, when I was 19/20 I dated a man who was 40/41. I thought there was nothing wrong with it because I was mature. Little did I know how much maturing I still had left to do and that I would pass him up in maturity. I feel for him now. He doesn't have a chance with an older woman. It's really kind of sad. It is possible that the two of you will work out great. But if there is doubt because of your ages on either side then I think you should pass up the opportunity and find someone you are more comfortable with. Good luck and God bless!
2007-02-16 13:40:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
False - Age, in addition to its effects on the body, has a lot to do with a person's maturity. A lot of younger girls think that they are more mature than they really are, and they feel that if they date someone who is much older than them that that reflects on them. If a guy is 34 and feels comfortable dating a girl that is 23, he is either immature himself or just finds younger girls hotter than girls in their 30s. It would be different if you were 35 and he was 46. BTW - Is your name Laura?
2007-02-16 13:42:18 · answer #4 · answered by Art Vandalay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age aint nothin but a number...true. Why does he have a problem with it? I personally would try not to date in the 11 year range because there is infact a difference but if your happy Sweetie... do you. Just make sure that the two of you know what you are getting into. but try it... and i wish you the best!
2007-02-16 14:13:39 · answer #5 · answered by {{...Ladi...}} 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is a number plain and simple, it is ones maturity that determines how 'old' they are. I've met people twice my age who act like five year olds when they don't get their way, and ten year olds who see the world in a more mature way than most adults I know do. And yet relationships with large age gaps are kind of unique... I guess you have to ask yourself how mature am I and how mature is the other person.
2007-02-16 13:49:48 · answer #6 · answered by All 4 His Glory 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
34 and 23 isn't that bad but when people are like 78 and 24 then age is more then just a number. some people take that quote to literately so differences can be bad . i guess it depends on how you look at it
2007-02-16 13:38:12 · answer #7 · answered by Christelle M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more things a couple have in common, the less friction there will be. This is especially true regarding who/what you worship, but in all kinds of areas. Food, money choices, where to live, city/country, dogs in house,. what kind of a car, use of free time. It really is kind of a mathematical formula. Age is a piece of it, though certainly not the biggest piece.
2007-02-16 13:38:06 · answer #8 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is just a number. What matters is maturity. I've dated very mature 19-year olds and childish 55-year olds. The key is to find common ground: likes, dislikes, hobbies, activities that you both enjoy.
2007-02-16 13:43:45 · answer #9 · answered by behrmark 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's just dating and for having some experience with some1 older then it's ok but if u think of it as a serious relationship then no it's not good for u ..... i mean think of future he will be kinda old for you and if u would have kids he will reach an age that he won't be able to raise them correctly ....
i think it's good for you to marry some1 in your age or older just about 2 or 3 year (max.) cuz if he older than that your IDEAS and MORALS will be from different eras , and you guys won't fit ...
i hope i helped
2007-02-16 13:41:01 · answer #10 · answered by Wing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋