My mom is so annoying she won't leave me alone! Im only 12 I know but already shes getting to overprotective. You see heres an example: I was in Victorias Secret the other day looking at the "clothes". Not bras or anything else! Then she said Its not meant for your race or your age! Well all my friends shop there WHY CAN'T I?
Second: Whenever I see a guy I know from school or talk about boys at random she starts giving me the talk! I wasn't even talking about them or to them in that way!! She won't listen to what I have to say! So instead of saying it I have to sit there listening to her blabber away when shes lectured me a MILLION times before about it!
This can get dangerous. You see if she won't let me express my opinions about certain stores or boys I'll start doing things secretly behind her back because she won't let me do anything! I know she doesn't want that to happen Im a little concerned about her. I love her...how can I tell her to go on the down low b4 things get wrse
2007-02-16 05:13:11 · 16 answers · asked by Nithya r 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Definitely a bad situation. Typical, but not one to be liked. Only thing I can think of is to tell her that you feel that you're mature enough to understand what she tells you. Tell her you love how much she shows her need to protect you, but let her know that she shouldn't worry so much. You listen to and respect the wisdom she shares with you, and apply it to your life. Even when she's not there with you, you still hear her words. Somethings she'll probaly lighten up on you about, others will be set in stone. Unfortunately, no matter how much parent's want to protect their children from this world, we all grow up and experience things on our own. Most of us DO listen to our parent's advice from their mistakes, or just the general rule of thumb, and it keeps us from getting hurt in the long run. Just remember it's in your best interest and there will be times that things you do are in secret. You have to live your life, just like she has and is still doing. Just be smart, that's all we can honestly accept from anyone.
2007-02-16 05:25:04 · answer #1 · answered by reincarnated/beauty 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, IM 14 and i've been there. Gosh that must really suck. I don't get why she said that Victoria's Secret isn't for your race? Hmmm...I'm Hispanic and I go to Victoria's Secret. Victoria's Secret is for everyone ! As for the "talk". I would hate that. But I just got that talk yesterday. It's really annoying I know. Whether you tell your mom how you feel or not she'll still hae to give you that talk. My mom does it alll that time. She does it because it's just me and her and i could undestand why. But annnyways ! Just try talking to her and see waht happens. Tell her how you feel honestly. But don't tell her that if she doesnt let you express your opinions about certain stores or boys that you just might go out and do it secretly behind her back. BAD IDEA. That will just cause her to get mad at you and she will yet again give you ANOTHER (longer) boring lecture!
Good LUCK!
2007-02-16 05:32:14 · answer #2 · answered by cookydo12 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, sweety but you are ONLY 12. You have plenty of time. You are way too young to be hanging around with boys. She's absolutely right about Victoria's Secret. You are WAY too young. Just because your friends shop there doesn't mean you should.
Many times when a mother seems over protective it's because the kid has done something to give the mother reason to be concerned! Are you hanging out with much older boys?(RED FLAG). Are you on the phone constantly with your friends/boys? (RED FLAG) Do you try to dress like the older girls? (RED FLAG)
You are the one that would make things worse, not her. She is just concerned about you. If she didn't love you she wouldn't say anything!!!
There were things I wouldn't let my daughter do and she was pissed (no spaghetti straps, no "hanging out" at the mall) When she was a little older she realized I was right. BTW, when we realize that we could trust her (she EARNED trust) she got more privileges!
2007-02-16 05:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by Dizney 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Stop acting like an immature little brat and realize that your mother is doing these things for your benefit. Once you start growing up and acting like it, showing her that you are smart and responsible, she will start easing up. As of right now though, you haven't done so.
Perhaps you could ask her why she feels this way about Victoria's Secret and then suggest some sort of compromise. Compromise is the key to behaving like an adult and earning respect. Since you know how she will react to see you talk to guys, just don't do it in front of her. Or suggest that you and one of your guy friends go out to lunch with her so she can get to know your friend and maybe feel more comfortable about his "intentions".
I know it is easy for me to say, looking back on my teen years and dealings with my mom, but I wish I had been more flexible and nice to my mother. Trust me, you hate what she is doing now but you will learn to appreciate it!
I would like to ask why Victoria's Secret "isn't for your race"... I thought VS was pretty much an across-the-board sort of thing? From your avatar, I'm guessing you are black... I always see black ladies shopping in VS and they use black models (Tyra was HUGE for them!) and it never even occurred to me that VS was a store for only one race (seriously, we all know that some stores are but the undie-shop? c'mon!).
2007-02-16 07:09:47 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are 12 years old you dont need clothes from victorias secret and all parent worry about boys when it comes to their daughters. Sneaking behind her back with backfire on you when she catches you and then you will be doing nothing. You should mind your Mom.
2007-02-16 05:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you kid with your Mom? If so, can you sit down at the table one day and say "Mom, I am just DYING to hear that boy lecture one more time - can you give it to me one last time and from now on we'll just give it a number? So when you feel like telling me again, just holler out "number two?"
I agree with her that Victoria's Secret is not for girls your age. Plus it's very expensive.
2007-02-16 05:25:15 · answer #6 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i'm truly no medical professional, yet considering she is going Tuesday, i am going to offer it a shot. I actually have 4 youngsters, so I actually were to an OB..that did take position to me with my first being pregnant, and the medical professional informed me that it grow to be possibly the position the fetus is hooked as a lot because the uterine wall.. i can not keep in suggestions what she suggested as it, besides the undeniable fact that. I did actually have a miscarriage, and that felt like i grow to be going to initiate my era..you understand, crampy and recognizing. enable me understand what you discover out.
2016-12-04 06:25:46 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have been in the same situation when i was that age(i'm 15) and i have did things behind her back but it just made me feel worse and good at the saem time so i don't know about this you should be the 'parent' for a bit and tell her you need to talk with her my mom is proctective still but she's improving she's not like she was b4 and she was pretty bad then too!
so speak UP and tell her what you need to say!
2007-02-16 05:19:21 · answer #8 · answered by nunofurbiznass 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
So many girls are going out and getting knocked up and then not taking care of their babies. She doesn't want that to happen to you. Try telling her that you won't go into certain stores that she doesn't like and you'll be home at a certain time ON TIME.
2007-02-16 06:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
To get more freedom from your parents what you have to do is respect them in all ways like example help them out at home to be so bossy dont have bad attitude and stuff like that they will trust you way more hope this helped
2007-02-16 05:23:05 · answer #10 · answered by babypimpette*inthehood 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋