i am scared i am pregnant and never wanted to get an abotion, but i am 18 and scared to raise this baby on my own. i told the father and he said he wants nothing to do with it. i am really hurt! and scared should i just get an abotion( which i never belived in before) or should i just try and make it with out him???? please help and no smart answers
2007-02-16 04:51:03 · 23 answers · asked by lil mama 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Your options are to either raise the child, abort the child or put him or her up for adoption. If you choose to raise the child know that you will not ever be able to count on the baby's father to help you. I would suggest talking to your mom about the situation right away. You may be afraid to do so but you will need her help. Also, I do think you should seriously consider adoption as an option. There are a lot of good people who would love to give your child a home and there are open adoptions where you can still have contact with the baby. If you choose abortion it is something that you will have to live with for the rest of your life. You will have to decide if that is an option for you or not.
2007-02-16 04:59:38 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ur definitely in an undesirable situation.
First: Although your baby daddy does not want any part in the upbringing of your child, he still has responsibilities. Don't let him think for one second he's off the hook that easily. Go through the courts, he hurt you and u can hurt him right back, BADLY!!
DO you have a job??
Who will support this baby??
Will the baby be better off with adoptive parents??
There are other options besides abortions, maybe you should look into them.
There have been plenty of females in ur situation; its nothing new.
Have the baby if you have strong feeling against abortions. Help is out there, just do your research and you will be fine. You can make it without him, just make sure he pays for what he is doing to you.
2007-02-16 05:14:28 · answer #2 · answered by GodMa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please talk to your nearest adoption agency ASAP to learn what that would be like. For almost every heathy child born in the US and given up for adoption there are long lists of great couples waiting and praying. You could be giving the best gift anyone can give to another. Do NOT go to a shyster lawyer or try to arrange on the internet.
If you do not think that you can go through with being pregnant and finishing high school, then abortion may be your only option. You are mature enough to realize that you cannot raise a baby on your own, and I applaud you.
2007-02-16 05:02:44 · answer #3 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is the story of my sister. She was 10 years older than you when she got pregnant with her married boyfriends baby and she had an abortion! None of my family knew and we only found out years later when she suffered a massive nervous breakdown because she couldn't deal with the fact that she had terminated her pregnancy. That was 3 years ago and she still isn't totally recovered. The frightening thing is, she was a very stable, intelligent career woman who was adamant she didn't want children but having the abortion totally destroyed her. Be very sure that you want to be rid of this baby before you go for an abortion or it may destroy you. And make the decision for you, not your boyfriend, family or community!
2007-02-16 04:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the father is a deadbeat, get rid of him! any man that would deny his own child is a piece of sh*t and you are better off on your own anyways...being scared is NORMAL....I dont care who you are, when you find out you are pregnant so many questions come up like " what if " and " how " only you can make this decision, it is either have the baby and be a wonderful mommy, or put it up for adoption..I dont see abortion being a choice because honestly the way I see it - IF YOU PLAY, YOU PAY!!! Things seem bad right now but it will get better, not sure of ur faith but I was always told that GOD will not put anymore on you than you can handle....and what doesnt KILL you only makes you stronger....hope this answer helps...
2007-02-16 05:14:13 · answer #5 · answered by Heather _ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not give you a harsh answer. You are asking because you need advice and help. Would you ever consider adoption? Believe me..........you can give your beautiful baby a lovely home with 2 parents who cant have children and have the money to spoil your child and you can even see your child if you chose an open adoption. I really think you would regret having an abortion. Talk to some adults you can trust. I wish you and baby the best!!
2007-02-16 04:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can do it on your own.....no problem. I have a friend who recently went through the same thing. The dad left when she was 6 months pregnant and she was scared. She is now the best mom in the world. You have no idea what your capable of when you see that little baby and you just love it more than you understand. You will do anything for and it will be perfectly fine. I say do it....... you will be great!
2007-02-16 04:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 18 so you are somewhat old enough to take care of it. Abortion is murder. I could not do it. You do not need a man to take care of your baby. Do you have an understanding family. Maybe they can help you. There are ways to have this baby and take care of it. Just think about it and the consequences before you decide on an abortion. It is a life. Precious and loving. Good Luck!
2007-02-16 05:27:15 · answer #8 · answered by doodersmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what YOU know is best. If you abort your baby, you will regret it. It's hard to be a single mom, but you can do it. If you don't feel you can raise a child alone, consider adoption. I had my first child at 16 (pg at 15) and it was hard but I now have a bright healthy intelligent 9 yr old that I am thankful for!
2007-02-16 05:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to have an abortion and don't feel that you are capable of raising the child by yourself, why not check into adoption? There are many couples who cannot have children of their own and would love to adopt a baby that needs a loving and stable family.
2007-02-16 04:54:25 · answer #10 · answered by mark my words 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋