How can i not spoil my new born.?

Question

I am an expecting mother and i want the best for my child but how do i not spoil him/her while growing up.

Answer 1

you almost can not spoil a newborn for the first few months although it is good for them to cry on there own a little, they need you most all the times.
After that they need to learn how to be independent as well as spend time with you.

Answer 2

What a great question. These are my thoughts - When he's an infant it's impossible to spoil him, so this is not an issue until later. As he grows up, teach him that he can't always have what he wants by sometimes telling him "No." Even if it kills you to resist buying the toy every time you're at the store, it's best for him in the long run. Also make sure he knows that he will not get away with being selfish and greedy with other kids - praise him for sharing and for being a nice boy. Keep repeating praise when he does something right - even if you're praising him for the same thing over and over - i believe in positive reinforcement. When he's old enough to understand punishment, you can start enforcing punishment when he behaves like a brat - by taking away a toy or making him sit on the step for 5 min. Lastly, teach him that your family gives to those less fortunate by having him select a few toys each month to donate to a local charity. Explain that some children dont' have any toys and he has too many, so it's the right thing to do to donate the ones he doesn't play with anymore.

Answer 3

First and foremost, you cannot spoil a newborn. Up to three (3) months, a baby cannot be spoiled. If you carry your infant 24/7, the baby cannot be spoiled. Once you get into the fourth month, then you might want to get him/her used to spending time in a bouncy seat, swing, crib, tommy time.

I have a five-month-old at home. While I don't want to over indulge him by constantly carrying him, I do play with him a great deal. I do lots of activities with him such as spreading out a blanket in the living room and placing him on his tummy for tummy time while reading a book. Or I watch a Baby Einstein DVD together. Or I play peek-a-boo. While every baby is different, most babies crave attention. You want to make your baby feel secure and happy so going to him when he cries is by no means spoiling him. In fact, studies have shown that the old way of letting a child cry for 20 minutes or more as a means for him/her to learn to self-soothe is not effective. Children thrive on love, attention and constant care from parents/caregivers.

If you're a reader, some great books that will give you good tips on how to calm a crying infant and help your newborn sleep better. It's titled, "The Happiest Baby on the Block." It is a must read. The step-by-step guide actually works. I tried it on my son when he was just born and it worked to perfection. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

You can not spoil a newborn baby. That's an old wives tale. The baby cries because that's the only way it can communicate with you to let you know when they need something or when some thing's wrong. Newborns need to feel safe and secure. So, by all means, pick them up and cuddle to your heart's desire. A secure baby is a happy baby. There's no such thing as too much love. That doesn't spoil a child.

Answer 5

You cannot spoil a baby. that's what old people say to young mothers. It is sooooo important for that baby to feel secure and loved. You cannot spoil a baby. I have to repeat that, because you will get criticism if you hold the baby too much, etc. But this is wrong. Your baby needs this comfort to feel secure in life, not just as a baby but this stretches right into adulthood. Never let your baby 'cry it out'. that is so wrong, there's something wrong or the baby feels insecure to be crying like that. I loved baby is a happy baby.
Spoiling them is when you don't teach them morals or self respect and you buy everything for them. Make them do chores for allowances and the make their own buying decisions. i'm not saying deprive the kid, but that's my definition of spoiling. As long as they're learning and become good honest people, you are doing a great job. Do not worry about spoiling the baby.
I'm sure you will be a great mom. Love your baby. You'll both be happier and more rested in the long run.

Answer 6

You can not spoil a new born. Once they get to be about 6 months they start to develop the ability to become spoiled. AT this time you should still give them lots of attention, but work on teaching them that crying doesn't mean that they get whatever they want. You can try baby sign language and or words :) Good luck with your baby. And remember that at this stage he or she just needs a lot of tender love and care, it's an important time for bonding also.

Answer 7

Don't let anyone try to convince you that you are spoiling your baby. YOU CANNOT SPOIL A BABY!! I hate when people say that. You do what ever makes the baby feel secure and loved, and if that means holding them, rocking them, walking around with them or whatever else...then do it! By doing all of these things you are only give your child confidence to try new things on their own.

Answer 8

No, you can't "spoil" a newborn but it sounds like you're asking for advice for the future.

Set boundries and follow them. Don't buy the child every single thing s/he asks for and don't create bad habits (ie buying them a toy every time you go to the store). It'll all be a learning experience, one day at a time. :)

Answer 9

At this time you can not spoil your new born even if you tried. Your new born needs all of your attention. Congradulations on your New Born Child.

Answer 10

You can't spoil a newborn!

For your older child, give them lots of love, and treat them with respect. Talk to them, not *at* them, give choices, and remember, your little one is a person too!