Am i being greedy or not trusting him; if i keep bugging him to give me his password to his myspace account.????.. he said that he doesnt trust me to give me his pw. and i offered to give him mines but he said that he doesnt want mines...
- Do u think it's wrong of me to not trust him?? He n his ex still comment each other now and than....i see it all the time...it mades me so mad when i see that.... what do u think i should do?? im trying to find out if he's message any gurls on myspace..cuz he told me that he doesn't..
2007-02-16 04:33:40 · 10 answers · asked by miss_xiong03 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if the relationship is at the level where you are ready for complete openess, but he is not...... you have a choice to wait a little longer or take it that he is not ready to move forward & look for someone else.
2007-02-16 06:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by dharp66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, you are not his wife, you are just a girlfriend, so asking for his passwords is OFF LIMITS. You don't have the right to even have his password or keep asking him for it. It's up to him, if he doesn't want to give it to you, then don't bother him about it. Yes, it's in the matter of trusting him. If you can't trust him, then maybe you shouldn't be with him. Also, if he is still comments his ex girlfriend then, maybe they are friends, if it makes you uncomfortable, you should tell him, if he doesn't care & still leaves comments when he knows you don't like it, then i guess he's not the guy for you. Find someone who you can trust & who will respect you.
2007-02-16 04:45:14 · answer #2 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you're being greedy AND you're not trusting him. That's why passwords exist in the first place, so the creator has absolute control over his/her creation and what it says. That's why it's HIS myspace account (or email account, or bank account...) and not YOURS. Doesn't matter if he's your boyfriend, fiancee, husband, lover, fling, whatever.
I'm a huge believer in keeping privacy in a relationship. I don't have access to any of my girlfriend's private information, her websites, email accounts, bank accounts, credit statements, medical records. Why should I? They're not mine. They don't arrive in the mailbox addressed with my name on it. If she wants to show me something, then that's her option, but I'm never going to look without explicit permission.
He says he doesn't trust you. At this point, I wouldn't either. It makes me (and probably him) extremely suspicious that you're bugging him for the password - what is it that you're looking for. To you, it might be an issue of curiosity and communication. To him (and me), it's an issue of power and control.
You already admit that you don't trust him. Tell him why, but asking for his password is a manipulative way to "check up" on him. Remember that the next time he drives by the club that you're at with your friends just to "check up" on you.
2007-02-16 05:04:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust him til you find better proof if there is any. What is the big deal about people staying friends with their ex's. They still care for one another but that doesn't mean they are messing around. If that was the case he'd probably break up with you.
If you don't trust him you don't need to be with him. How can you be happy with someone you don't trust?
2007-02-16 04:50:09 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's his personal business. He shouldn't have to give you his password. So what if he talks to his X or other girls on myspace? Leave him alone about this. You seem insecure and jealous.
2007-02-16 04:40:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anne B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is none of your business to be on his accounts (ony of his accounts). It wouldn't even be your business if you are married. You wouldn't like it if he went through all your personal belongings and stuff would you?
2007-02-16 04:41:08 · answer #6 · answered by nshappe 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
c'mon. what for do u need his password. it's his. it's private. relationship works ut when people have private spaces and respect private spaces of each other.
don't put pressure on him. it's childish.
2007-02-16 04:40:49 · answer #7 · answered by saxa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does he have your password?
I think it is wrong of you not to trust him.
Without trust...you have nothing.
2007-02-16 05:23:21 · answer #8 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its okay you have every ******* right to do that because he is your boyfriend and he shouldnt say no he should give it to you in 2 seconds
2007-02-16 04:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think he's hiding something if he doesnt want to give you his password.what he's scared of?
2007-02-19 14:48:46 · answer #10 · answered by misia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋