if u marry someone.Is this right or wrong to tell abt ur past to him?

Question

If u r going to marry someone.Is that right to tell him /her abt ur past affair or not.If not thn may be it create problems in future. he/she come to know in future by someone else .and if yes thn it create problem from present to future.Wat should a person do

Answer 1

MEGHA i think you should tell him about your past.............

because he is your jeevansathi..............understnd what i want to say...........

Answer 2

I think that ur past has nothing 2 do with ur future. The minute u mention ur past they use it against u and I really don't understand y. If it ever comes up once u r married u need 2 let ur spouse know that, that was the past and u didn't even know him back then and he has 2 understand that people change. No one has the rights 2 hold ur past against u regardless of what ever it was. If he wants 2 marry u it's 4 a reason and it surely isn't because of ur past. He didn't know u then so what is it of his business he knows u 4 who u r now so keep it 2 urself and GOOD LUCK.

Answer 3

Dear Friend,
You seems to be a little confused. Any way, the best way is not to have premarital affairs; if you have one its better not to keep the burden of past with you.

The appropriate way is not to lie if your other part put this matter in to discussion. You should never initiate it. If something happens in future then we can deal it then. Because he/she have the confidence put by the life you had together. There will be a better bonding between you two. I have experienced that later on, you two will feel it just as a joke, which you can enjoy together, sometimes to tease each other.

Have an affair is good because it shows that you are not a boring character. But to keep the limits is your responsibility.

Don't reveal if you are not forced to.. Reveal modestly if you have to.
All the best.

Answer 4

I answer this from experience!!! When my ex-wife and i first met she told be about an ex-boyfriend but told me they where just friends. I believed her. After we were married I found out they were ALOT more than friends and even thaught about marriage and children. It caused alot of problems in our marriage and a huge loss of trust. Considering we lived in a small community I seen her ex alot which just kept the mis-trust in my face; it ate at me alot. Understand one thing...... the minute a person lies to another the rest of the relationship is a lie because you spend the rest of the relationship still trying to cover it up. Trust is the foundation of ANY relationship. Without trust you have nothing!!!!! One needs to feel that when in a relationship their partner always has their back. The past is just that....PAST; but the choice to share that past and the choice to understand that that is a former life is the fundamental building block to a long life of love and trust. If your partner truly LOVES you they will live and let live!!! I wish you the best... I've been there!!!! God bless!!!!

Answer 5

IF YOU HAD AN AFFAIR, DONT MARRY and RUIN THE LIFE OF THE OTHER PERSON as WELL as YOURS.

Why live a life telling him the truth and he torchering you and you divorcing him?

Why live a life hiding things from him, someone coming and telling him after you've a baby and then at a point you and your baby are in the middle of the streets or a burden to your OLD AGED parents?

Answer 6

Only if they want to know. I think some things should be kept to yourself, for example how many people you've slept with. If you're saying you cheated during a past relationship, then I'd be up front about it, as long as you can tell your soon to be spouse WHY you cheated and the plan of action you'd take now before ever doing that again.

Answer 7

I think u should tell.But tell that matter in correct way of words at appropriate time.Consider all your circumstances now u r facing and play according to that.

I think its better to admit yourself now and explain in a way that there is no mistake with you and due to some unavoidable situation u have commited this mistake.Expose more love and affection to your wud-bee before revealing the mistake.Dont openly tell everything.just tell a overview abt that matter.Make some reharsal how to speak before admitting.

Answer 8

Dear Megha!
Never tell about ur past. That will be fun when u talk at that moment but latter on, one day when u'll have dispute... he will point out all those. There is no worse pain than that.

When I was about to get married my hubby's sis-in law advised me this n it really saved my life.

All the best!

Answer 9

I think you should tell them,because you never want to start a marriage off with secrets.What was done in the dark always comes out in the light.The other person will understand if they love you,but if they don't then you don't want them anyway.We are all human,we have all done things in our past that we aren't to pleased with,but time heals all wounds,and change comes slow or not at all.

Answer 10

Take him to church first with a "lota" of "ganga pani". In front of Father superior throw yourself at his feet crying profusely. Have your friend turn on a nice song in the background .. preferably of sacrifice and broken hearts. Then pour the "ganga pani" over hubby's head while dancing before a flabbergasted Father. Then climb on top of confession chamber and tell him in a song that your hubby made you leave your last love. It will work like a charm. Always does in movies (Bollywood ones). Then tell him to kneel on one knee and extend his arms so that you can jump into them. THE END.

Answer 11

Nooo not at all. What ever may be the understanding people will not tell the true feeling what they are having in their mind after hearing the message. which may leads to problems only if they came to know also u should denay that it was not like that.