I would find a way to get him OFF your mind, or quit THAT job, cuz it will only take you down a bad road. If you really love your husband and want to stay with him, Id find a way to stop these feelings for this other guy. Think about what made you fall in love with your husband, in the first place.*
2007-02-16 04:26:41
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answered by Check this out! 7
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You have a wonderful husband, & you would throw away what you have with him because of a crush on someone else? First of all, pursuing anything w/someone at work, whether you were married or not could get you fired or written up. Second, people act differently at work & so you are both seeing each other in a non-realistic light. Get in the real world with each other, see each other's flaws & quirks, & suddenly the appeal will be lost. Third, even if you & your crush pursued anything, if the fling ended, you'd be left w/being the subject of workplace gossip. Who wants THAT? Last, if your husband is so wonderful, then what on earth could he have done to you to make you want to even consider thinking about someone else? How could you allow yourself to continue to entertain such thoughts?
I'm not judging you here. I've walked in your shoes. I was married for many years to an emotionally abusive man. No, my husband wasn't wonderful, as yours is. Still, I worked with a man who in this case, was older - not younger than me. We clicked on so many levels. We were both attracted to each other & you could just feel the sexual tension between us. I found myself daydreaming about him all the time & thinking of him constantly. I finally realized that I had no right to think about him in that way because I was married to someone else. While my marriage was not a good one, I was still in it, & I had a responsibility to do all I could to treat my husband with the honor, faithfulness & respect that I wanted him to treat me with. I began to focus more of my thoughts & time thinking of good things about my husband, & less time about this crush. I made a point to be professional at work & to just go about my day as normal. He picked up on the change in my attitude & he backed off also. I divorced my husband long after I quit that job, but not for these reasons. Please, put this guy out of your head. Your husband, by your own admission, is a wonderful guy. He doesn't deserve this. If you have such a wonderful guy, then he must think you are pretty wonderful as well. If you are both wonderful, then neither of you deserves this.
2007-02-16 12:27:48
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answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6
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Need i say more. This is America, almost 75% of all marriges end up in a divorce. Your heading in that direction but you have achoice to not be like the 75% of idiot phuckheads out there. Look inside your heart, this new youger man is just an illusion of when you were younger adn used yto work, flirting w/guys and stuff. Your husband is actually the man you picked "forever"...i mean dont the wedding bows mena anything to you?
2007-02-16 12:10:58
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answered by Anonymous
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I have found that most people will do what they have already decided to do before having asked for advice, so this may be moot.
Make a list of things that might happen if you act on this "crush." Look at the ones that are disastrous and be certain that those will be the most likely to occur.
Think about that for 24 hours.
Another thing you might do, in the interest of domestic tranquility, is to imagine the object of your affection in a ridiculous situation, like hiding naked in your closet, or running down the street while attempting to pull his trousers up.
2007-02-16 12:14:35
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answered by Anonymous
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No problem, it happens, as long as you don't act on your 'crush' or become so emotionally into this guy that it affects your marriage. Soemthing may be lacking at home that this guy provides to you---like is he flirteous? Then he may be making you feel attractive. Does he listen when you speak? Then he may be making you feel that what you have to say is important. Not that your husband isn't, it's just that being married it may be so second nature to him that he doesn't overtly display it anymore.
Best if you try to figure out why you're so attracted to this guy and perhaps change the situation at home to take on these traits. Just remember that you have a good man at home and that your crush isn't enough to mess up your good thang!
2007-02-16 12:13:10
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answered by Survivors Ready? 5
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Isn't that hot...
I think it's just a phase. The longer you work with him, the more you'll end up looking at him differently. Crushes are normal and doesn't mean you dont' love your husband. We're visual creatures and appreciate a nice looking man or woman. Just don't worry about it.
2007-02-16 12:28:23
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answered by Anonymous
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If you have a wonderful husband ,why are you risking breaking his heart?And that younger man mabe he's bopping everone around there.He might be intrested in you for a little while but he will tire of being with some one older than him.And look for some young stuff.If you believe in Marriage, divorce your husband first.Save him the embarrassment.Best of Luck.
2007-02-16 12:14:17
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answered by walter_nahbexie 2
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that's very stressful however dont do anything stupid because you might lose a good man and your crush may not even like you firstly you should maybe see if he likes you what if he has a girl what would you say then.all i say is be careful and dont do anything wrong.but every one has a crush but when there married never heard that before.
2007-02-20 10:17:25
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answered by rachelle l 1
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A crush is one thing. It's normal to be attracted to other people. It's whether or not you act on those feelings that will show your true character. You made a vow, don't be a Sl*t!
2007-02-16 12:09:56
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answered by ♪ ♫Jin_Jur♫ ♥ 7
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Well a crush is a crush. Do you love your hubby? Banish all thoughts of an affair because it would ruin your marriage. It is not worth the damage.
2007-02-16 12:09:42
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answered by Gone fishin' 7
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