A single woman, who would like to have love and sex, keeps hoping to meet her soul mate one day… Time passes by, life… I don’t say she is unhappy…but it’s not her scenario.
God has conceived a man and a woman to be together, created them to be a couple, but finding a partner seems to be beyond one’s will or opportunities.
‘The quest for love--and for that perfect partner--is really a quest for wholeness’.
In such a vital point of life designing, we are helpless, aren’t we?
I know there is a lot of sense in the way our lives go, to teach us lessons we must learn, but maybe there is something to be realized and fulfilled, instead of humble waiting and having to recognize:’ This is not my scenario’?
Today is my best friend Irene’s birthday, who has also been single for many- many years... I always encourage her to dream about love and her dreams would come true one day. Am I fooling her (and me) around?
2007-02-16 03:57:42 · 5 answers · asked by Lika 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thanks a lot for your kind response! I was weeping while reading your answers!
It is God’s will for sure; we can only graciously accept whatever is sent to us and live totally here and now. It can never be my scenario, but among the options I choose the best one at the moment. I’m happy to realize it has been my preference to be single …so far, but you have wished me so much luck that I feel lots of optimism! Thanks again!
2007-02-16 07:48:12 · update #1
I feel sad for one of aunts.
She never had boyfriend.
She has never been kissed.
She never had sex. (imagine dying a virgin)
And she is most locing person you'll ever find in this world. She helped to raised all my cousins including me..her little brother too. And now she takes care of he sister's twins. She definitively loves babies and I am sure that she'd die to have a baby of her own. And Im sure that she has loved too, but who has loved her? She is 45now.. her chances of having a child are gone and possibilities of having a man? 1 in 1 0000 .
I say to myself why God wouldn't give her a loving man. She deserves it so much. and I hate all the women who have loving men and cheat on them. I only wish that My aunt would feel love. I know she wants it.
2007-02-16 04:07:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your romantic vision of love is getting in the way of true love. Which is the love that is hardwork and dedication. It is easy to fall in love it is much more difficult to stand in it. Also, You should allow more time to see if you grow into a relationship with someone. Remeber Prince Charming does not ride a white horse. He may be the little guy with the glasses or the quiet guy on the bus. The nervous guy in church or the shy guy at the mailbox everyday. If you want love, as you say you do, do not be afraid and go after it. Get on the bus, go to church, try something new, out of your comfort zone, and forget about all of the romantic fantasies. That is for immature little girls. Grow up a little. No man can live up to a womens unrational fantasies and vice versa. Good Luck
2007-02-16 12:14:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who's bothered more by the situation you or Irene?
It was my personal experience that love happens when you aren't really trying or looking for it. It just happens. My husband and I were acquaintances for years before we got together.
On the opposite end of the spectrum my mother and father divorced 10 years ago and Mom's been single ever since. I've encouraged her to get out there and find someone new but she just doesn't want to. She likes her life as a single person and really isn't interested changing her single status.
With all that said, my answer is a resounding neither. Being single is what you make of it.
2007-02-16 12:19:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mandy43110 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow what a great question. But I really have no answer. I'm in the same situation, been single for years, not unhappy, would like to be in a loving relationship. I've often wondered if God just meant for me to be alone. It would be so nice to have someone to share life with. But I try not to dwell on it. Meanwhile, time and life passes me by, too.
2007-02-16 12:10:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lynne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All good things come to those who wait.But you need to be looking if you just sit there and do nothing I don't think a good man is just going to fall on your lap.Live laugh and love !!
Now go find a man to spend your life with!!! Good Luck
2007-02-16 12:09:31 · answer #5 · answered by Dew 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋