My 8 month old daughter has recently warmed up to the idea of being social with other adults. She loves children and always plays with them. She is a bright, happy baby who is already standing on her own. Im so proud! The problem is any male friend or family member is completely off limits with her. She cries, pulls away and doesnt even want them looking at her or talking to her. I try to encourage her so I will see what happens in the future. Her father has only met her once. He is definitely NOT involved in our lives and I havent talked to him in months. My father passed away 2 years ago, so she doesnt have any access to any males other than my 17 year old brother. I think she sees him as a kid because he gets down on her level and he looks very young. She has godparents who want to spend time with her, but she cries so much when her godfather comes around..any suggestions on what to do now? What about raising a little girl fatherless in the future? Thank you.
2007-02-16 02:58:10 · 2 answers · asked by confused346 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
My niece went through the same thing. Because she wasn't around men regularly (with the exception of my father), she was very wary and nervous around them. The only way to overcome it is for you to gradually get your daughter accustomed to being around others (bearing in mind that most children that age are clingy and shy around new people). Try easing her into it gradually. Start off by being in the same room with her godfather, while you hold her to make her feel secure. Don't make her interact with him if she doesn't want to. Assure her that everything is alright. Over time, start encouraging her to be more involved with her godfather by all playing together with some of her favorite toys, so that she sees that there's nothing to worry about. It will take time and patience, but eventually she will get used to being around him and it won't be so much of a problem any more.
2007-02-16 04:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by es_puro_instinto 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with the other answer, to gradually get her used to her godfather while you are holding her, but bear in mind, babies are very perceptive of our emotions, and can pick up on them. If you are nervous, she will be too, all though she may not know why. Try to be happy and cheerfull when he comes in the room and she gets used to him. That way she can know that it is okay and you'll be there.
2007-02-16 04:25:02 · answer #2 · answered by youngladyintxsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋