me and some of my friends are going on vacation together one of my friends mom wont let her go because of her grades and homework average. she is grounded till the end of the school year. what are some thing that she can say to her mom to let her go.she is in the 9th grade.help i need answers fast we are leaving at 500 tonight
2007-02-16 02:31:54 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Hate to tell you this, but mom's word is the final word. Take lots of pictures for your friend and bring her back lots of souvenirs.
2007-02-16 02:35:07 · answer #1 · answered by Snickle Beast 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mom.. I see your point and mom's point.. Yet I would take into consideration that plans were made before hand..and that it would be letting down the other friends that your friend made a commitment to.. But your friend (with the poor grades) should have thought about that so she would have to face the consequences of not going.. That's along time to ground someone! Unrealistic if you ask me, but every parents has their own way of disciplining!
I would call her mom and say:
"I understand the reason for you grounding (what ever you do don't accuse her of being unfair she will just get more upset) her, yet your daughter made prior arrangements and a commitment to me and our other friends. Could you please make an exception..? Having already given permission to this event (if she did), yet I know that your daughter failed you, could she be able to do some extra chores and study when she gets back every night to prove herself (your friend should at this point follow through with the agreement) to justify her actions instead of not going on vacation with us? It would be like you are not giving in but that we made prior arrangements and you want to honor that.."
Have a serious talk with your friend and ask her why she did this because she just made it hard on everyone and that you all were looking foward to going together..AND if by any chance is gets to go, she needs to respect her moms wishes and follow through..Because actions cause reactions whether positive or negative.
Her mom may have never really wanted her to go in the first place and this is her way out of not letting her go....
Good luck to you, I hope you can work it out, have fun and be safe on your vacation....
2007-02-16 10:54:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. Your friend made a mistake and she should fix it by getting her grades up. She needs to learn responsibility also. A parent cannot and should never give into thier child by letting them go anywhere if they are grounded. That is life and you need to learn that now because as an adult there is no second chances, no grounding, RESPONSIBILITY!!!!, please learn now or it will be harder for you while you are older. TRUST ME i am 26
2007-02-16 13:21:12 · answer #3 · answered by big pappy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your fiend's situation. Please think honestly about this - did she try her hardest for her grades and homework - or did she do other things instead of homework and studying?
I don't know her or her mom, but if my daughter was capable of A/B work and brought home C's she would not be going on a vacation with friends. But if she was a C student and brought home C's I would praise her and allow her to keep her plans.
Please think on this before getting 'something to say' to allow her to go. Hard work earns rewards.
2007-02-16 10:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by g-lady 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
There's really nothing you can say or do. Her mom set some rules and she's sticking to her guns on this one. This is between your friend and her mom. Her mother may have warned her about slacking off in school. And your friend chose not to listen maybe. Who knows. She needs to tell her mom that she is sorry for not doing her homework and not working up to her potential in school. Sounds like she's lazy. Unless she's got a learning disability or something. My hat's off to her mom for following through with the rules and expectations of her daughter. Sorry.
2007-02-16 10:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I am sorry, but you need to just go without her. Her parents have the right to say no. And I know that when I say no and my kids do not take that as the final answer I get more angry. Have fun on your trip and encourage your friend to bring up her grades so that she can go next time
2007-02-16 10:38:59 · answer #6 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
if you're really a friend to her then you must understand what she has done and what her mother is doing to her right now.Now,that you're friend has failed her mom then there's no reason for her to have a grand vacation.Her mom has all the right in the world to know what is the best for her daughter.You'll soon understand when you,yourself become a mom.
2007-02-20 03:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's spending too much time with y'all as it is. Next time, spend some of your meetings doing some studying. Your friends mom is only looking out for her daughter's future.
2007-02-16 12:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have her write her mom a note-trust me it might work but read through this carefully- "dear mom, i really need this vacation as a stress relief, I'm tired of my cocaine dealing bf n i fighting all the time. Due to the fact that I'm four months pregnant, he believes i shouldn't be doing crack. I just cant handle it anymore I'm thinkin about running away n eloping.*new paragraph* see mom non of the above is true. my grades may b bad but i can get worse. now can i go on vacation..."
2007-02-16 11:10:41 · answer #9 · answered by Stefanie-Marie 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's not your problem, it's your friend's problem. She created it, she has to deal with the consequences. You're in the 9th grade, now. You're too old to whine. Grow up.
2007-02-16 11:13:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋