Moving in with a boyfriend/girlfriend?

Question

How does it affect the relationship both positively and negatively?

Answer 1

depends hun it will probably be all lovey dovey at 1st but then u find out each others habits and some are irritating and some not just make sure u still get some time to yourself and im sure it will be fine good luck

Answer 2

I believe it affects the relationship much more negatively because it gives the couple (and more often than not the female in the relationship) a false sense that this is a good way to "test" compatability for a future marriage. The problem is that marriage is not something that can be "tested" or "tried out" because of the seriousness of the commitment. That would be like a married couple "borrowing" someone's baby for a couple weeks the give parenthood a dry run. That sounds completely absurd, right? Because obviously having someone else's baby around and caring for it and pretending it's your own to see how parenthood will be is not reflective of actually having a child of your own in any way. The same logic should apply to marriage. An unmarried couple living together is not anywhere close to marriage. They are 2 completely different worlds and unfortunatly I hear a lot of people justify cohabitation by saying "we want to get a taste for marriage" or "we're gonna see how this works for awhile." But it's not the same and it gives the couple a false sense of the level of commitment they are at and, I beleive, is a serious cause of the high level of divorce that we now see both in the U.S. and other developed nations.

Just my opinion, I don't have any stats to back that up so take it for what it's worth.

Answer 3

I think that depends on the people involved, their maturity level and intentions. As for how it affects the relationship, it can be either positive or negative (although I believe it's more often, negative).

Today's society seems to think nothing of two people living together without the benefit of marriage. I think it's a shame that some of us put so little value on marriage.

I believe the woman, more often than not, ends up on the short end of the stick. Living together gives the man all the benefits of marriage, without any of the commitment. Why should he marry her when she is already providing him with everything he would get from her if they were married?

If you love and respect someone, and want to build a life with them (and your children), why wouldn't you respect them enough to marry them first?

I'm sure everyone else has their own opinions and they are entitled to them. Personally, I believe if someone loves me, and has good intentions, they'd want to marry me.

Again, only my opinion - best of luck to you.

Answer 4

If you are ready to take this very important step you need to both be mature about it. You realize that the every day nitty gritty of life settles in and it's not all fun and games. One of you might be a neat freak, the other a slob. You will have to work these things out. Who will cook, who will clean? Who will grocery shop, who/how will the bills be shared and paid? But it could also be a good way to determine is you are compatible for the long term. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 5

Best thing in the world.
I think all couples should live togther before getting married, thats when you find out if you can TRUELY live with and love a person for a long period of time.. Testing a relationship for marriage isnt a bad thing. If it was done more often, then the divorce rate would be MUCH lower

Answer 6

Alot of that depends on how well you get along with each other. You don't know what it is like to live with a person until you live with them. Once you get used to being on your own, it can be very challenging to live with someone else. If you can't live together then marriage is definitely out of the question. When I moved in with my husband before we married, it was fun! We spent alot of time discovering new things about one another. I am happy to report that we have been married for the last five years so undoubtedly it wasn't a bad move on our part.

Answer 7

It depends - you will find a few teething problems of moving in together and its just because you havent lived with them 24/7 before no matter how many nights you spend with them just now.

Best to put down a few ground rules before hand - so that its not just one of you that is doing the housework or sorting out when the bills get paid etc.

Ive found the teething problems to be that I have lived away from home for years and my boyfriend stayed at home with a mother who did everything for him. He didnt know much about housework and even less about bills being paid!! There were a few fireworks to begin with but we sat down and went through everything

Answer 8

I moved in with my boyfriend after 3 weeks! He is a great cook, cleans up after himself, knows how to do laundry and irons, too! Best of all that was over 12 years ago, now we're married with kids. If it's the right person, it'll work out regardless.

Answer 9

It's really hard. You start to notice the bad habits they have. Once you figure out a way to compromise and be honest, then it all good. The up side is that you always have someone to share everything with... Sharing everything is good but sometimes you need your space. That's what am going through right know... Good Luck

Answer 10

positively: You get to spend more time with your partner, which is important.

Negatively: Everyone needs there own space. You will be in each others face all the time, and more arguments will preside in due course for no reason, unless you are completely sure of this move.