u see i have loved him from the begining and come to find out he feels the same he wants to devorve my sister and start going out with me there is a problem not only is he married to my sister but they have three kids who i practically raised i've known him forever and loved him just as long. he has never lied to me before and she cheats on him and i know that for a fact but there is a twist my ex wants me back because he loves and i don't know what to do here lately i've caught him in two liesbut i love them both so who do i choose and if that's not enough they both are planning to ask me to marry them
2007-02-16 02:25:30 · 20 answers · asked by hopelessly confused 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
FIX YOURSELF FIRST.
it is very obvious, you can not have a functional relationship.
what a sad person and life you must have, quite messing with your sister' kids life.
you are a horrible person.
ALWAYS COMPLETE ONE RELATIONSHIP, BEFORE STARTING ANOTHER.
2007-02-16 02:45:02 · answer #1 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all. Hands OFF with your brother in law. That's your sister and no matter how unfaithful your sister might be to your brother in law, that is still your blood. Also think of your nieces and nephews. You will destroy their lives if you decide to be with their father. All those "feelings" that you are feeling are all wrong and twisted. Get your mind off him FAST.
Regarding your ex, if you just can't trust him and you feel like you're not in love with him, then just don't go back to him. Maybe you need to be alone for a while to think everything through. Heal, mature, and grow up on your own. Being single can be a great experience. Try being single for a while and focus on you and what makes you happy. Get a hobby, travel, study, join a gym, etc. Do something that is going to take your mind off these unstable, dysfunctional relationships and make you a better person. In time, you will find an available, good, honest man that's going to love you, respect you and honor you. In the meantime, focus on you!! Good luck!
2007-02-16 10:35:59 · answer #2 · answered by jazz_lover_25 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to really look at how being with him would upset not only your relationship with your sister, but also with her three kids, not to mention friends and other family members as well. . Whatever problems your sister is having with her husband it is not up to you to rescue him. You are giving into these false notions of thinking he loves you when in fact he has to be a jerk for even attempting to be with his wife's sister, the aunt of his children. Can you not see how immoral this would be? Stop being so gullible. You need to stop leading your sister's husband on and let him know that under no uncertain terms is he to pursue even the idea of him and you ever being together. Remember, if he has such low morals as this, then you will have a very hard time to ever trust him. Try to work it out with your ex boyfriend, maybe the break up was making you feel lonely and an easy target for the attentions from your sister's husband. Please think of what I said over, and do make the right and moral decision. Best of luck to you!
2007-02-16 10:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like an episode of Jerry Springer! You know, you really have no business even considering a marriage proposal from your brother-in-law, or a relationship until he is divorced from your sister. Even then, no matter if she cheats or not, she is your sister. Would you throw your relationship with her away over a man who would cheat on his wife (even if only in his heart) with her own sister? What's to say he won't want your best friend when he is with you? He sounds like he lacks character. As for your ex wanting you back, obviously you shouldn't marry the guy if you are in love with your brother-in-law. Girl, sounds like you need to take a break from all men right now until you figure out what is important to you and what you want.
2007-02-16 10:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to step back from everyone and clear your head. You don't know what you are feeling because you are feeling something for everyone. Go away on a vacation by yourself (even if just for a few days). Think about each person separate and evaluate what's going on between you both. Does your sister want a divorce also? Sometimes we only want what we can't have - maybe you've been lusting for your brother-in-law because he's taken, but once you get him you may not want him. You can't even say you've had a relationship with him, when what you've had is based on lies also. The time you two spend together is stolen. You both are cheaters and need to get your act together before you hurt more people. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-16 10:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by tersey562 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are in a real bad sad situation. It's bad that your sisters husband has taken a liken to you. It's sad that you've taken him up on his offer. Sounds to me that you'd run off with him if you could, but are considering going back to your ex. Has anyone here had an HIV test? Even if your sister has or is cheating, thats her problem, fault , and business. Just because she cheats on her husband and thats a fact, according to her no good sister, .....you want her man? You sound like you've wanted him since the beginning. It's so much II could say, about everyone in this situation, but i don't have the time or space in this lil ole box. Be safe than sorry....you could get HIV or end up in a you know what. This love triangle has turned into a hexagon. Yuck!
2007-02-16 10:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by toonice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the hell is the matter with you? You back stab your sister by having an affair with her husband? Maybe you guys haven't had sex (and maybe you have) but what kind of woman destroys the lives of three children, stabs her sister in the back by stealing her husband away, AND THEN says that her ex wants her back and that she still sorta kinda loves him too? You need to find your OWN man. And if the one who wants you back isn't good enough, then at least have the common decency to stay away from the one who's married to your sister. The mere fact that you have to ask says a lot about what kind of a person you really are. No matter how many excuses you try to make about how great you think you are together.
2007-02-16 10:33:13 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Somebody may end up dead. Leave your sister's husband alone for so many reasons. The kids will hate that you broke up their parents marriage. They will hate you. Stay out of this even though she is cheating, let them work their own problems out.
If you are having a hard time with this, move to another state.
2007-02-16 10:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by Tumbleweed 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Move cross country! My god - not only will you loose all your self respect, but how could you even entertain this idea. What you have on your brother in law is not true love, odds are, you see your sister happy, with a family, and he represents what you are missing in your life. Do you really want to be the one responsible for destroying his life, your sisters life, their childrens life - not to mention your own?
2007-02-16 10:31:37 · answer #9 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First thing. Leave your sister's HUSBAND alone!!!! It doesn't matter if she cheats or not, that is still HER husband and you would only cause more drama on their realationship and yourself. Secondly, leave the ex alone because if he's lying now then he proably will lie later. If he lvoes you, he wouldn't lie to you. Remove yourself as far away from both of them if you can and learn to love you. You have to find out who YOU are before you can let anyone else love you TRUELY!!!
2007-02-16 10:31:08 · answer #10 · answered by newsgal03 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You will louse everything your sister,family,friends, You are creating a non reversible disaster. Forget him. How would you like to be your sister with 3 kind & cheating husband,if he cheats on her whats will he do with you.
Support your sister not hurt her.What goes around comes around. Find someone with some standards they may rub off on one. Best of luck Love thy sister.not her husband.
2007-02-16 11:42:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋