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2007-02-16 02:15:56 · 6 answers · asked by jinx 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Marriage enrichment is when you do things to improve up or strengthen you marriage to make it better. Sometimes there are marriage enrichment weekends that couples go away to through local churches and places like that. There are also couples retreats and things like that available through places as well. Go to http://www.marriagetoday.org and email Jimmy Evans from the page and he can explain this to you better then what i can. I think there may also be marriage enrichment classes available places too.

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2007-02-16 02:55:08 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0 0

Some marriages are that approach...And those are the sorrowful ones. Sure, you ought to compromise in a marriage to make it work. Nevertheless, it are not able to be all about him or all about you either. I believe i have compromised in my marriage however, nothing that will make me say i'm sad. I compromise due to the fact that I need to out of affection. For instance: I would really like to head to Spain (my husband knows this). However, right now is not the best time. So, alternatively of doing that we can each take a small shuttle this yr or put money toward the condominium. Or example two: I really enjoyed theatre in high college. In school I could do theatre now but, if I did then i'd have 0 time with my husband. So, I gladly compromise that b/c it was a interest greater than my passion in lifestyles. What is going to I never compromise on? My education. I'll certainly not stop going to institution unless i'm capable. I consider it is so unhappy to peer so many women stop considering their husband wishes them to work or does not consider schooling is fundamental. My extra job. I work four hrs additional tutoring on campus. Why? It's quite a lot of work emotionally and bodily and i put in additional time often. It's rather a lot even though it is now not a lot. However, correct now i'm now not in a position to offer it up. Of path once I graduate i will ought to so I wish to get essentially the most out of it that i will. You aren't anticipated to push apart your emotions. You speak about the way you suppose and your husband and you come to a compromise. (see above! Lol). Do not supress your feelings...Speak about them in a peaceful approach. For those who supress them they'll be resentment. I believe whenever you do anything for your self it's considedered selfish. However, you have got to attain your pursuits and he wishes to support you achieve your objectives or happiness (just like you for him). If i am going have a night with my acquaintances I think it is selfish but, i do not go each weekend either. Marriage is a steadiness. It can be enrichming in my opinion. However, each ought to need the exceptional and help them get the first-class for each and every different. Should you consider oppressed and have communicated that and it's no longer working then do not enter into a wedding pondering it can alternate or you'll get used to it. Excellent success!

2016-08-10 16:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

If you're talking about a class.....people who have good marriages want to make them better and they sign up to take a class.

The class could be just a day or sometimes a whole week...usually they last a weekend.

They could have just one counselor or a few....they can be fun or boring waste of time.

2007-02-16 02:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0 0

to show each others that you both still care for one another, still love each other, still need each other presence, to share in everything ,to talk much, spend much more time together, candel-light dinners, movies,romantic journeies.....

2007-02-16 02:30:08 · answer #4 · answered by rasha k 1 · 0 0

What in the world is the difference between loving a person, and being attached to them? Love is the sincere wish, for others to be happy and to be free from suffering. Having realistically realized other’s kindness, as well as their faults, Love is Always focused on the other person’s welfare. We have no ulterior intensions or motives to fulfill our own self-interests; or to fulfill our own desires, we love others, all people, simply because they exist. Attachment, on the other hand, exaggerates others’ good qualities, and makes us crave to be with them. When we’re with them, we are happy, but when we’re separated from them, we’re miserable. Attachments are always linked with expectations of what others should be, or what they should do for us. Is love, as it is understood in most societies, really love OR attachment ? Let us examine this a little more. Generally speaking, we are attracted {drawn to) people because they have qualities we value, or because they help us in some way. If we carefully observe, through introspection, our own thought processes we’ll notice that we very often look for specific qualities in others. Some of these qualities we are drawn to are qualities within our parents, or qualities which society values.
We examine someone’s looks, education, social status, financial status, and so forth. This is how Most of us decide on whether or not the person holds any true value, or not. In addition, we judge people as worthwhile according to how they relate to us. If they praise us, encourage us, help us, if they listen to what we have to say, if they make us feel secure, if they take care of us when were sick, unhappy or depressed, we consider them good, or sometimes righteous people, and these are the people we more drawn to, whom we are most likely attracted to, and the people we choose to be around with.
In all honesty, this is very biased, for we are judging them, only in terms of how they relate to us, as if we are the most important person in the world & thinking the world revolves around us! After we’ve judged certain people to be good for us, whenever we see them, it appears to us as if goodness is radiating out from within them, but as we are more mindfully aware, we realize that we have projected this goodness on to them.
Desiring to be the people who make us feel good, we become emotional yo-yo’s, when we’re with these people, we’re up, but when we’re not with them, we’re down. Furthermore, we form fixed concepts of what our relationships with these people will be, and thus have expectations of them. “When they do not live up to our expectations of them, we’re unhappy, disappointed or may even become angry. We want them to change so that they will match what we think they are. But our projections and expectations come from our own minds, not from other people. Our problems arise not because others aren’t who we thought they were, but because we mistakenly thought they were something they were not. We often use a type of Checklist also. Checklist: “I Love You IF ___________ !” This Love is Conditional and what we call love, is most often attachment. It is actually an attitude which overestimates the qualities of another person.
’Then we cling tightly to that person, thinking our peace and happiness depends on that person. We even often blame that person for our unhappiness.’ Love, on the other hand, is a very patient, calm, optimistic and relaxed attitude. We want others to be free from suffering and to be happy simply because they exist. While attachments are uncontrolled, and too emotionally sentimental, Love is Patient, powerful, and controlled(disciplined). Attachment obscures our judgment {our ability to make sound, wise decisions), and we become impatient, angry, and impartial – helping our dear ones, and those who do us no harm. Love clarifies our mind, & we access a situation by thinking of the greatest good for everyone. Attachment is based on selfishness, while love is founded on valuing, & cherishing others, even those who do not look very appealing to us. Love always looks beyond all the superficial appearances and dwells on the fact that they are just like us: they want peace of mind, happiness, and wish to avoid suffering. If we see an unattractive, or unintelligent people we most often feel repulsed, because our selfish minds want to find attractive, intelligent, and talented people. On the other hand, Love never evaluates others by theses superficial standards and looks much deeper into the person. Love recognizes that regardless of the others appearances, they’re experiences are they same as ours: they want inner mental peace, happiness, and wish to be from suffering. When we’re attached, we’re not mentally, emotionally, & spiritually free. For we overly depend on, and cling to another person, to fulfill our emotional, mental, and spiritual needs. We fear losing the person, fearing that we’d be incomplete without them.” This does Not mean that we should suppress all our emotional needs, or become aloof, and totally independent, for that too would not solve the problem. We must simply realize our unrealistic needs and slowly, gently and patiently – seek to eliminate them. If we try to suppress them, pretending they do not exist, we become insecure, anxious, or possibly depressed. In this case, we do our best to fulfill our needs, while simultaneously working gradually to subdue them. The core problem is that most of us seek to be loved, rather than to love. We yearn to be understood by others, rather than to understand them. Our sense of emotional insecurities comes from the selfish obscuring of our own minds. We develop confidence by recognizing our inner potential to become a Selfless human being, having many magnificent qualities, then we’ll develop and have an accurate perception of ourselves, gaining self-confidence. We’ll seek to increase true unconditional love, to increase compassion, to cultivate patience, as well as generosity, right concentration and wisdom. Under the influence of attachment, we’re bound by our unstable emotional reactions to others. When they’re nice to us, we’re happy, but when they ignore us or speak sharply to us, we take it personally, and are unhappy. But pacifying attachment doesn’t mean we become hard-hearted, rather without attachments, there will be space in our hearts and minds for genuine affection and impartial love for them. And as a result, we’ll be more actively involved with them. As we learn to transform our minds & lives, through subduing our attachments, we can definitely have successful friendships, and personal relationships with others. These relationships will be richer, more meaningful because of the freedom and respect the relationships are based on. We’ll really care about the happiness and misery of all human beings equally, simply because everyone is the same inside: we all want inner peace of mind, Happiness, and to be from suffering.
However, of course, our lifestyles and interests may be a bit more compatible with some people. Our friendships and our personal relationships will be based on mutual interests, and to help other people. Having such an attitude, we’ll be much More Patient, & tolerant toward others; will remain mentally calm, having Peace of Mind and Happiness, and we’ll communicate successfully with others in life.

2007-02-16 10:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0 0

no idea!

2007-02-16 02:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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