what can a wife do if her husband suddenly lost interest in her after 2 years of marriage however all her efforts to make him happy????
2007-02-16 02:14:35 · 14 answers · asked by rasha k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I'm very conflicted on this one. On one hand, if your already having a problem keeping his attention, then he is the one with the problem. My y first instinct would be to saw screw it, life's too short! Leave, if only for a little while, and show him what he's missing.
But,then again, I understand the instinct of wanting to "stand by your man" so here are some tricks I know:
1. Striptease: I know from first hand experience this never fails. Go to a lingerie shop, get the wildest outfit you can stand, go all out, and perform! They love it! My husband forgot about the Superbowl!
2. Ask: And even if you don't care, pretend to. Men love nothing more than to talk about themselves.
3. Need Him: By human nature men want to solve problems for their mates. Not to mistaken with being too needy, but just needy enough for him to feel like the MAN
4.Mystery: make him guess. No matter what it is, if you make them wonder just a little bit, they want you even more. "YOU ALWAYS WANT WHAT YOU CAN"T HAVE " Good Luck!
2007-02-23 01:35:18 · answer #1 · answered by jenniferjwhite1979 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Somethings going on here, either he's not in love anymore or there is someone else. He's your husband you should be able to talk to him, sit down and have a good long conversation about what's bothering him. If he won't then tell him you are left with no other answer than he wants out of the marriage if he doesn't want to talk and then give him space, lots of it, leave for a while and if after a week of being gone he doesn't call or anything then you know he doesn't love you. Good luck, I hope it works out.
2007-02-16 02:25:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are the same characte, have not changed from before then the ball is not in your court. Sit him down and ask him what he really wants. Have both of you write the 'goods' and 'bads' of each other on a piece of paper then exchange them with prior agreement of not hitting the roof later. Do not try too hard either, nothing pisses a man off than a smothering and nagging wife, ask me, I know!
2007-02-22 00:12:44 · answer #3 · answered by BujuB 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. There are a lot of up and down times in a marriage. Meanwhile , don't nag or sulk but be pleasant . Get out and get some exercise or find an interesting hobby. Don't waste your energy on whats eating him .. maybe its his job ... don't think the worst. He'll come around eventually and things WILL get better.
2007-02-22 20:40:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know what to tell you I'm in the same situation ever since the minute we got marry. Maybe because he is no longer afraid of losing you to another man. If he See's that other man put interest in you then he will see what he might lose. No one knows what they have until they see it lost. Me I join the gym I need to get other guys attention so that my husband will notice and notice me.
2007-02-22 14:28:09 · answer #5 · answered by mexlavanderlover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In life, you can only truly make yourself happy. You can't force anyone else to be that way. If someone is truly unhappy, its something from within and nothing anyone else can change for them. You can try to do anything you want, but make sure you are getting what you need out of those attempts. If you are not, then there is an altogether bigger problem. Your choice is to try to go to councelling to resolve what is making him so unhappy, or you can stop and just go about doing what it is that you need to become happy.
2007-02-16 02:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by Tyerant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not make anyone care for you. However, the problem may not be as bad as it seems. He may simply be in a rut with his life and finds no interest simply because it is the same-old, same-old every day. Time doing things a little differently and add some spice to your day. Meet him at the door with plans for a night together doing something he likes. Do things out of the ordinary, not only for him but for your sake as well. You may find this is all it takes for him to look up and see whats been in front of him all along.
2007-02-16 02:21:21 · answer #7 · answered by fly guy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink ; what about your happiness; that is the only portion that you have control over; invest in yourself and do things to feel good about you and if he is half a man he will step up and notice; if not , don't waste a lifetime with someone that just isn't that into you.
2007-02-16 02:18:44 · answer #8 · answered by sml 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what effort you have done to make him happy
okey once upon a time im planning to leave my wife too
she like to stay at home all the times,weeds her garden
do household chores always wear this funny looking slippers
and read books at night she wears this daggy outfit in bed
3 years before that shes very active she wears this beautiful stocking on her beautiful legs she got trim and beau body
nice make up but not too flashy
after 3 years shes changing a lot no more movies no more
long drives no more romantic time
so i start going out my self going to the clubs meet a lot of sheilas
then got an affair screw here screw there
i think thats the wake up call on her shes back on all my favorites stockings,minis,long drive movies
i think now i have a better relationship with her
for me no more one night stands IM HAPPY
2007-02-16 02:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave - that will get his attention. You can't "make" him do anything, so take care of yourself. If you have exhausted all your efforts, and he still has no interest in you or the marriage, it's time to move on.
2007-02-16 02:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by buggsnme2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋