I am a lesbian who has been with my partner for 9 months. The problem is my partner doesn't want to meet my parents. My parents are really old fashioned and do not believe in our lifestyle. They haven't disowned me or anything they just ask me to be respectful around them. Should I be upset that my partner refuses to meet them?
2007-02-16 02:10:47 · 13 answers · asked by beachnsun17 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I wouldn't be too upset. She's probably scared that she will be welcomed with less than open arms.
2007-02-16 18:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can sometimes be hard for parents to handle. I'm not a parent but a lesbian. When I told my mom she flipped out. Although my g/f did and still does come around, my mom doesn't agree with my lifestyle but decided she wanted to be a part of my life. So therefore she deals with it. I told my mom this is who I am so what can she do?My g/f and I have been together for 3 years. We live together so she is very much a big part of my life.My mom has told me that she likes my g/f friend but didn't want me to live this lifestyle as she says.Just hang in there.I hope everything works out for you. Talk to your parents and tell them this is what you want your happy.They should be happy that your happy. Good luck!!!
2007-02-16 08:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by lez23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Milk bone is so right what advice he has given you.
I'm a straight lady, and exactly what I read pretty much spelled out my life or should I say family beliefs Until one day:
Please read on,
My son's best friend of many years , grew up together and this boy called me,"Mom".
This one day my son and I went into this cafe to see Joe having lunch with 2 ladies. (age each around the 40 mark). Joe haulers over here, join us. So we do, about 1 hour of laughing and an enjoyable time Joe's mother friend get up to leave and gives Joe's mom and big wet kiss.
WELL my jaw dam near hit the floor!!! OMG they are gay!
But how could I have a blast with these 2 women, and my son's best friends mom.
All these thoughts ran rapidly threw my head, over and over again.
So later (of course alone) I say to my son," Why didn't you tell?
I have a right to know?
H-E-L-L-O, mom you are not the only one who has the right to live their life as they see fit.
I never told you for that fact alone, I knew you act out like this!
My son said it like that, enough to realize HE WAS RIGHT!
WHO WAS I.
To make a lone story short, 20 years later and the best of friends.
They come over and my husband and I both enjoy going places with them.
Yes in public and couldn't give a sh#t what other think.
So like Milk bone leave it alone, things happen in the strangest ways.
^j^ Sandy ^j^
2007-02-16 02:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by Bluelady... 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, she should be upset that you want to subject her to hateful people. Think honestly about why you want them to meet each other. Is it really that important? How involved in your life are your parents?
I doubt your parents would be thrilled to meet her, although that is only a guess.
Talk it over with her. Try to make it a rational, truthful discussion. Honesty is important in a relationship.
2007-02-16 02:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by FTW 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are the reasons why she doesn't want to meet them? Why are you so insistent on introducing her to your parents if they are that old fashioned? You two need to talk this out a little more.
2007-02-16 02:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give it time. She might feel differently some day.
Don't stress about it. The whole parent thing can be difficult enough for some even without homophobia. It will happens when it happens. Or not. It's ok either way.
2007-02-16 03:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She obviously has more common sense than you do, and is trying to avoid a very stressful situation. Both for Her and your parents.
I don't think you really have a reason to be upset since there seems to be a mutual disinterest in their meeting.
2007-02-16 02:23:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be disrespectful for you to being your partner into your parents' home if they are against it. I don't blame your partner for bing wary of meeting them.
2007-02-16 03:09:39 · answer #8 · answered by country_girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to force a meeting between people who obviously do not want to meet. I suggest you drop it.
2007-02-16 02:21:50 · answer #9 · answered by castle h 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your parents dont want to meet your partner either. let it go.
2007-02-16 02:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by R L 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋