I'm on the west coast she is on the east coast with family. she just past away this morning. I didn't want to go see her suffer so i didn't rush to her death bed. but i was caled and told that she had past. I'm happy for her she is in a better place and i fell relived about that..
2007-02-16 02:00:02 · 14 answers · asked by bobnobster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Something I wrote when My mother passed. I find that weeping and mourning at Funerals not my cup of tea. But it doesn't mean I don't care.
Thank You
Just wanted to say Thank You
For all the things You do
Her earthly life is over
Her time with us is through
But it gives us all great comfort
Just knowing she’s with You
We prayed for Your guidance
We knew not what to do
You relieved us of our burden
And took her home with You
We’re really going to miss her
It’s so hard to think she’s gone
But knowing that she’s with You
Gives us, the strength to carry on
You decided that You’d take her
Oh she would have suffered so
And although, we know it’s best
Our earthly hearts just can’t let go
Give us the strength to go our way
Even though it’s not the same
Help us all to understand
So that we might lose the pain
Fill our hearts with all the memories
Of the times that we have shared
Remind us of Your Glory
So that we’ll not feel despair
Merciful Father, we thank You
For hearing our prayers
(God Bless Those Left Behind)
-aaw-
2007-02-16 02:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by nalla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're not wrong -- you're human.
My sympathies on your loss. I'm sure that relief isn't your only feeling, and you say that your relief is for her (not yourself). Allow yourself to feel this way, but don't be surprised if grief catches up with you later. Love and family is a very complicated mix, indeed. I would suppose from your question that she had been ill for a while, so the end of her suffering in this life is the central "positive" to find in this. (And since you say "in this life," I expect that you feel she's gone to a better place -- so maybe faith is sustaining you.) You also say that family was there, so that is probably another comfort to you. And, it may be that her passing wasn't unexpected, which would be another reason for you to feel like, "okay, it's happened now," and focus on the relief.
My wonderful mother-in-law was ill for several years before she died, and she had said more than once that she was "tired of fighting." As much as we missed her, for her (and all of us who loved her and cared for her, even from a distance) to finally be released from her physical prison was a burden lifted.
I hope that you and your family are lifted up by happy memories and people who bring you comfort.
2007-02-16 02:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by jacketprof 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly that is a very posative thing that you are doing by looking at it like now my mother is in eaven where she belongs and isn't here suffering with pain im sure she didn't deserve. If your very excited jumping around wanting to celebrate, then i would be worrying about why your taking it so lightly. But if your just thankful your mother has no more pain then i respect you.
2007-02-16 02:05:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sammi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grief is different for everyone and your choice to remember your mom as she was is not wrong in any way. Don't beat yourself up for your feelings and don't let anyone tell you how you should feel. I'm sure she knew how much you cared about her and if she was suffering then I am sure she is in a better place now. I'm sorry for your loss, take care of yourself.
2007-02-16 02:07:30 · answer #4 · answered by Michele T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its your way of coping with it. There is nothing wrong with it, I know you are going to miss her. But she is truly in a better place with no more pain and you will see her again one day. God bless and I will pray for you family to give them comfort through your difficult time.
2007-02-16 02:05:48 · answer #5 · answered by **baby~doll** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems u totally don't love ur mum at all! this's very bad.don't u realise where were u without her?she had suffered so many to bring up u of today n u feel so happy she's dead.r u a human?i w'd say here u w'd repent deeply on her one day.
2007-02-16 02:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes that feels so much better than the sadness from them being gone, I felt that way when my dad died last december.
So no, it isnt wrong, It's actually quite normal- there not in pain any more...
2007-02-16 02:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by marcsnothere 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats ok that u feel that way but u should hav at least went to go see ur mom when she wuz about 2 die
2007-02-16 02:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by leelee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess ur not wrong to see ur mom suffering ur happy maybe coz of her bad situation.. and u want more her to die than she suffer.. just pray for her and she will understand u.. condolence..
2007-02-16 02:15:26 · answer #9 · answered by lene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about ur loss..
I think thats what she wanted you to know
that yes she is in fact in a better place.
~may her soul rest in peace~
2007-02-16 02:04:56 · answer #10 · answered by Gõlden angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋