I am a married female, very happy with hubby. He had this fantasy of seeing me with another man and was at it with me for the last 5 years. I finally gave in and we decided to try it our with his best friend so that we are not embarassed if anything goes wrong. Although i had mentioned to my hubby that i would want to have some emotional relation with the other man, i was not prepared for how it has turned out.
I am madly in love with the friend now and so is he, not being very satisfied with his married life. The sex life between me and the friend and me is non existent except that we do lay dow with each other and have kissed and groppled. We talk to each other daily and he comes over to spend a night every once in a while when i sleep with him alone.
Although my husband is very supportive and has not protested, he obviously is not thrilled either and despite the agony i see him in, i cannot get myself to end the love relationship with the friend.
Any suggestions?
2007-02-16 01:37:33 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you got the best of both worlds:a stupid,stupid *** of a husband and another jackass who wants your body-and getting it for free anytime.Mama should be proud of her little girl.
2007-02-16 01:42:49 · answer #1 · answered by 2u 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, well in my opinion u should ask ur mind and ur heart that what is ur priority in life? its not very clear how u feel for ur husband now, so ask urself that how strongly u fel for ur husband? if u r happy with him , if u feel bad for him , if it hurts u to see him in agony? also do u have children or not?
So dear the best thing to do is keep loving that freind but that should be a pure love where in both of u understanding that its not fair to hurt ur spouses. love can be turned into a very devine feeling then just enjoying each others company, because if its just a strong attraction it will end soon but by that time u might loose on ur long term relations too. This happiness is not permanent, u will keep on regretting and still not coming out, but m sure if u just start all ur attention and love towards ur husband then u will have a happy fruitful life. and that freind can always remain ur best freind but in its limit.
2007-02-16 02:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by want to achieve smthg in life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to ur hubby about this and ya stop seeing the buddy cause u are spoiling 2 families ur's and his ur's is spoilt by ur hubby but u have no right to spoil his if he is not happy with his married life let him deal with it ur hubby might have made a few mistakes but u are not giving him a chance to correct it so leave the other man go out of touch with him for some time and the time will correct every thing and ya make sure u talk to ur hubby and let thing out of u system and his system as well cause
the situation u are in will make u Dhobi ka kutta na gar ka na ghat ka so get out of all this and live a decent married life like every one god bless u
2007-02-17 07:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by siddharth b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is shy and doesn't want her to see him naked! It's really very odd. I think she should just say something to her husband. What's the point in being married if you can't talk about things? If someone made that request of me, I think I'd laugh. Keeping your eyes open can be exciting!
2016-05-24 06:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well done . you are a honest partner . enjoy life . try both at atime . it happened also in ancient times . well done . but what is
lacking is 3 more persons why not select them from here only.
he is not thrilled because he could not get another copy but you have managed .
allah ka naam le kar this time say triple talaak to your lover .
also you are not married you have lost the true essence.
ek sher yaad aata hai aur yyaad aake rah jaata hai.
arz kiya tha kisi ne
do (two) talwaar ek m......... mein nahi rah sak
hafiz hafiz shabba......... choose one. more satisfactory peace of mind , dont xperiment, already experimented by lakhs
and concluded and you might well know this,.
truth is sweet as poison......... have a small cup from meeeeeeeee
2007-02-19 04:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by harsh v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to feel bad,if your hubby asked you do sleep with the other guy.People tend to adopt western culture cannot give away their values if they do .later they feel guilty about it.Now you r nowhere.Neither your husband nor friend would respect you.Excuse me but you have spoiled yourself.Only suggestion I can give you is leave your friend,apologize to your husband.Otherwise in future your kids will also avoid you.You can't have sucessfull married life with your friend.
2007-02-16 05:45:17 · answer #6 · answered by pooja a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A poem to be shared with you
One way it's a great sin
an illegal partnership too.
These sleepwalkers drown in their fantasies
entangle with the string of passion.
and how can they let go?
This longing won't be an end
with a marriage or a separation,
unless they adrift uneasy
on the stream of endless suffering?
by >> nimal dunuhinga
from site :http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/adultery-2/
Long term effects will be disastrous.
AVOID AVOID
2007-02-20 00:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by PK LAMBA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well thats not a difficult situation,the simple solution would be swap your partners.
Your hubby not being so happy ,may be because he is not getting the other woman.just discuss the matter with his friend and arrange friend's wife for a date with your hubby.
Am 39 yr old woman and have gone through this,u can contact me if u want at terri_734@yahoo.com.au
2007-02-17 21:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by terri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur husband brought about all this issue,by encouraging u into it.have asked him his reasons of u being with another man.maybe there is something he is hiding.the best thing to do is end the relationship with his frien.this will be hard to do,but its for the best,cos if u encourage it ,u guys are going to get hurt and that wouldnt be a good thing
2007-02-16 01:46:48 · answer #9 · answered by o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel in your heart. It sounds like you have the best of both worlds and everyone wants to make you happy, so take advantage of that.
2007-02-16 01:49:19 · answer #10 · answered by Michael b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is have lots of sex with the friend, instead of just touching and kissing. That will get it out of your system
2007-02-16 01:48:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋