I was driving speedily and accidentally jam a young lady passing by and ran away because of fear of getting beat-up by the crowd, I visited her in the hospital and show a lot hospitality, pay her bill and decided I have to bear her cross as my paralysed wife, she now walk on a wheel chair and wonders how I show an unimaginable love to her despite her handicap, but never knew I’m the man who knocked her down, I’m still feeling guilty and when she went pregnant for me I use to cry in the secret feeling she’s suffering twice for me, I don’t know how to let her know or what it can bring to our 5yrs old union, please I need your opinion.
2007-02-16 01:36:59 · 17 answers · asked by Emerald 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I’m sure I’ll be the only one advising you to not tell her in the world where everyone believes in doing what is best for themselves. I think what you have done is admirable and though nothing can make up for the accident, you are doing the most that can be done. You went above what anyone could expect and you have a good kind soul. If you tell her, you will devastate her life again. She will think that you don’t love her and only pity her. What you did originally was an accident and even though it may have been reckless it wasn’t intentional and you should forgive yourself for it. If you destroy her life again - then that would be bad.
2007-02-16 01:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by Nobody Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The quilt is eating you alive. And the best way to make that feeling ease a bit, is to tell the truth. But then, you have to ask yourself...
Do you love her in a way a husband should? Or was guilt your motivation for marrying her?
Could be that after you have revealed to her such a horrible thing, that she will forgive you, and then you will realize that you don't really love her.
I don't doubt that after some time, that she would forgive you. She will be angry and hurt, but, she will come to know your guilt by what you have done for her.
But I think you will end up leaving her because the accident and the guilt at being the cause of it was the reason you married her; Not because you loved her and wanted to spend the rest of your life with her.
2007-02-16 01:44:55 · answer #2 · answered by summer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so. Of course the man had a right to the handicapped spot, but there are fines in place to deliver justice for the people who park there without a tag. That man should have called the police or store security or a tow truck or have spoken to the manager of the building, but he had no right to vandalize the vehicle himself. There are things the store manager, security or police could have done, mainly towing the vehicle, or setting a fine, or giving the handicap man a discount or special parking space other than that handicap spot. Though the people did not have a right to park there, at all, they do not deserve to have their tires deflated because its going to cost them a ton of money to get it towed elsewhere and fixed. I think he overreacted and should have sought help.
2016-05-24 06:37:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't, if you at this point feel love for her and not just guilt then I wouldn't tell her unless you're looking for a way out. It's a horrible secret to bear, but you chose to do this why make her suffer more by knowing you only married her to alleviate guilt? Especially if you have kids, focus on them and being a family and if you can't seek counseling to assist you in your feelings.
2007-02-16 01:41:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know some of us have serious quistions . i just seen one of your other quistions . r u gay , really, you know after knowing that i would tell ur wife what is eating at you . she'll either forgive u or leave you and if she leaves then thats for the best then u could roll in your guilt then you could decide if your gay or weither you love your wife . god help you cause i don't think yahoo answers can .good luck tell your wife . that will be the best for you
2007-02-16 02:08:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you would have saved yourself a lot of grief and agony yourself if you had done the right thing.. but i wont berate you for the past.
Set up a good night, nice dinner, at home of coarse.. leave all weapons away from the general reach.. and just start talking..
and hope she forgives you.
2007-02-16 01:41:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is true, it's quite a story. It was noble of you to look her up and try to help and eventually get married. It would make a good book. I don't know how to answer the question, though. Why would you have to tell her.
UPDATE: Thanks Alene below. This azzhole is full of poop.
2007-02-16 01:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Trust me, its bad enough that you are the cause of her disability, but if you tell her it could crush her world and she would look at you different.I know that you got to be truthfully but this one you just can't do it!
I think you have to leave with this one, im sorry.
2007-02-16 01:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by Doc Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This one is beyond Yahoo answers. I'd recommend seeking professional help.
2007-02-16 01:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by Aidan J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come clean she will forgive you,you cannot live with a clear conscious. This will haunt you forever.If she loves you she will love you forever
2007-02-16 01:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by peg42857 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋