Is it considered cheating?

Question

I am married and I have this guy friend that I am interested in. He has made it clear that he is into me a well. I do talk to him frequently on the phone and I know that I can have him whenever and he is willing to share. I've entertained the thought in my head but nothing physical has happened. My husband has no idea and I know he would be upset if he did. Even though we only talk on the phone, am I cheating?

Answer 1

Cheating requires swapping fluids.
Is what you are doing smart, NO.

Take some time and think about what you are doing.
You have no idea how much pain you are about to inject into your life and the people around you. Is this really that important to you?
Why is it you have not worked on your marriage. Why don't you put some of that effort into your husband? Are you that shallow that you would screw your husband like that? Has he done anything to you that would cause him to deserve this from his wife?
Do you like the thought of being a Liar? Cheat? Whore?
Are you prepared to deal with being tossed out of your house with malice? Are you prepared for the possibilitry of being the subject of physical abuse? What does this guy bring to the table that makes you consider throwing you marriage away for sex?
How well can you trust a guy who will have sex with you whenever and is willing to share you with YOUR HUSBAND?
Do you really want to go down this road with a guy who does not want to support you just have sex with you and SHARE??????

Honey, you need to step back take a deep breath and answer some of these questions. Answer them honestly and realistically.
You need to understand that no you have not cheated YET.
You are about to turn down a path from which there is no return.
You will NEVER get back to the place that your husband holds you now. You have never seen the anger, hurt and spite that you are toying with.
Stop this foolishness. Get back to married. Fix this trainwreck before it happens because you are about to go off the rails.

Are you cheating? NO not really. Are you being stupid? YES.

Answer 2

It's more of what I would call emotional cheating. Physical cheating is worse of course. If you're all caught up with this "friend" then I'd sit down the husband and break it down to him. If your husband was thinking about having sex with another woman, or even calling her all the time how would you feel? I'm sure you would be upset and take it as a real slap in the face.

Answer 3

YES YOU ARE. Because you know in your mind that given just the right opportunity, you would go all the way. Stop what you are doing, it could lead to a lot of pain later, even though it seems to feel really good now. Trust me, you don't need that kind of agrivation. It will hurt your husband WHEN he finds out, and he will. Then your talking mistrust, anger, pain, sadness to follow. You haven't "done" anything yet. And your conscience is bothering you anyway, hence your question being asked in the first place, and you know that it is wrong. So quit while you still can. If you have problems with your husband, talk to him about it, maybe they can be fixed. And for god sake, seek counseling.

Answer 4

Yes you are cheating. You are cheating your husband of your heart. This can only start to get worse. You will start seeing your husband for what he can't offer and what this new guy can offer. You will probably start fighting with your husband, and put unfair expectations on him and run to the other guy who is so "understanding". Your husband will start fighting a losing battle with you, and you will only be giving yourself more reasons to justify talking to this guy. There is no way for your husband to win if you continue this, so try to see his point of view as well besides your own. I hate guys that come in and wreck a relationship, but what's worse is you are treading on very dangerous territory. Confusion. Just think for once if your husband was doing this and how would you feel. I believe in karma, and the more you do this you will get what's coming to you.

Answer 5

No but you will be soon you need to figure out what is lacking in your relationship that makes you want to be with someone else then try to fix it before you start an affair once you cross the line there is no turning back. On the other hand if your relationship is crap with no hope of repair but you need each other for financial reasons or you have children and you are able to get along I say go for it why be miserable? Some people are not meant to be monogamous maybe you could have an open relationship

Answer 6

Cheating is cheating, whether it is thought or deed. Your intention is what matters.

Let me put it another way. Would you say and do whatever you are doing with your "guy friend" in front of your husband? How would you feel if your husband was doing the same thing and entertaining the same thoughts?

Does that answer your question?

Answer 7

Not exactly, but this has developed into an inappropriate relationship. It is too late to scale back this from your friendship, so you'll have to cut him out entirely.

Here's an easy test about whether it's cheating or not: your husband has a relationship like this with some girl who is really hot for him. Does that upset you? Would you call it cheating?

This is wrong. Stop it immediately. Do not talk to this guy again, and don't let this happen again.

Answer 8

once you're wondering, it likely is. every time you experience an emotional connection with somebody else, any variety of contact that feels intimate - might want to correctly be basically speaking or texting, yet feels close, brings you in course of that individual - is dishonest. if you're not to any extent further emotionally in touch, then those self same issues are basically pleasant. also i'm assuming by potential of kissing you mean a kiss on the cheek, because on the mouth or deep kissing is unquestionably throughout the line.

Answer 9

It may not be cheating technically, but my rule of thumb is that if you're doing something your significant other wouldn't be pleased with, then it's cheating.

If you care about your husband and want to keep your relationship with him healthy, you've got to end all contact with the other man.

If that's not the case, you need to do some soul searching and choose one or the other and stick to it. There's no in-between.

It's hard for you, but it's much kinder to your hubby if you are straight up with him if you choose the other man.

I wish you luck.

Answer 10

Your husband would probably see it as cheating. Look at it this way, would you want your husband doing the same thing with another woman? You married your husband for a reason. If your not happy, then why stay?