Basiclly, I have a friend here that I see as my best friend, there are time, in the way he acts that I think he likes me more than a friend, but I know he's not looking for a girlfriend right now, but he wants one all the same. Go figure.... Im 23 and have a crush...lol.... We've been friends since 2004, and now i'm really falling for him. But I dont want to ruin the friendship that we do have. I dont know.... He's everything thing I want in a guy and then some...
2007-02-16 01:21:24 · 12 answers · asked by Kristen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Basiclly, I have a friend here that I see as my best friend, there are time, in the way he acts that I think he likes me more than a friend, but I know he's not looking for a girlfriend right now, but he wants one all the same. Go figure.... Im 23 and have a crush...lol.... We've been friends since 2004, and now i'm really falling for him. But I dont want to ruin the friendship that we do have. I dont know.... He's everything thing I want in a guy and then some...
One more thing to add, we are already friends w/ benefits. Signs I think he likes me more than friends...1) Sometimes while watching TV or after sex he'll start caresing my hair and looking at me 2) when ever i'm gone for a long time, i get a lot of messages from him wondering when i'll be back. What makes me think i isnt interested in me 1) we never kiss
2007-02-16 01:51:15 · update #1
The best thing is just talk to him. OR kiss him and see what happens. You could do it after you've been drinking so if it doesn't go as planned you could always blame it on the alcohol! :) BUT leave it as a kiss the first time; let things go to far, and it will really be complicated...
UPDATED: Ok, so try to kiss him and see what happens. If you are already sleeping with him then talk to him about it. You need to comunicate with him and see his intentions before you get too attached and heart broken. If you are thinking that you want things to be more serious/commited, you need to tell him. If he doesn't then you may want to consider breaking things off. It sounds like you are falling for him and if he doesn't feel the same way you are going to end up hurt. The after sex things seems like he likes you. The calling you when you are gone might just be because he is jealous about you being with someone else or just needing his booty call... If you are as good of friends as it sounds then he must care a great deal for you and may want to take things further. If not he just wants sex and doesn't care as much as you think. Usually when a guy is like that with a girl but doesn't want a GF it's becuase he wants to sleep with other girls with out the drama... I wish you the best
2007-02-16 01:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by emce 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Ask him why he isn't looking for a girlfriend. Maybe he's a little fed up with bad dates, or maybe he's got a crush on someone.
After a little while talking about him, ask he what he honestly thinks of you. If he blushes or stutters, its a fairly good sign there's something going on that you don't know about. Then tell him that you like him, but don't lay it on too thick. That's where a lot of women go wrong early in a relationship.
I've also read somewhere that couples who agree on a lot of things will more easily stay friends if they ever break up. So, if this is you two, there's hope if something awful like that happens.
Talk to him sweetie, and tell him how you feel.
Best Wishes,
LB
2007-02-16 01:27:40 · answer #2 · answered by Love Bites 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
been there, done that. and what you think might be signs that he feels the same way could just be you reading his friendship wrong... projecting your feelings onto the whole situation. of course, it's also very possible that he does feel the same way. it's something that you both need to discuss rationally and not post-coital if it turns out you are both attracted to each other. your relationship would make a definite change if you two started dating and the real question is whether or not it would weather such change.
but if he doesn't feel the same, it's better that you find that out, too, so you can put those feelings to rest and not let it interfere with your friendship. because it can and will if you let it fester.
good luck to you.
2007-02-16 01:31:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok thats a tough one but i will try anyways. The fact that you guys never kissed does not mean that his not intrested in you but it may mean that he has alot of respect for you and the friendship you both share.
You only live once so take the chance if you made a mistake dont cry over it, but instead If you are worried than tell him that if his uncomfortable with the idea than its alright and that you understand and hope that you still can be friends wih him.
Hope this helps...
2007-02-16 02:04:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's the subject; it is perplexing for adult men to study those indications. This lady of course approves of you as a chum and individual, yet there is not any way of understanding despite if she is finding for greater or no longer. different than for one difficulty. you have customary one yet another for 2 years now. To me that announces that she sees you as a chum, provided that neither of you has made a flow on the different. however the only thank you to comprehend for specific is to ask her out, if she's well worth adequate to you to take the possibility. sturdy success and God bless.
2016-10-02 05:55:42 · answer #5 · answered by mattsson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummmm that's hard......... I would give him sometime maybe even though it seems like plenty of time already.Or you could tell him how you feel and brace yourself for what he says.
My friend had a relationship like that and it went sour but I have seen it go well too.Friendship is a must to a base of a relationship and I believe communication is next.
2007-02-16 01:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by butterfly_queen_19_2002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO FOR IT!!! Love doesnt wait girlfriend! Hopefully this is the man you have waited for all 23 years of your life! GOOD LUCK!
2007-02-16 01:30:55 · answer #7 · answered by bsbchic_101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
23 and still having crushes, awww. Get outta here.
2007-02-16 01:25:15 · answer #8 · answered by fatherf.lotski 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, u shld.
2007-02-16 01:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
invite him to your place and get naked... that should leave him in no doubt as to your intentions... :D
2007-02-16 01:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope - returned 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋