I am posing this question because this was asked by a guy who is having sex problems in his marriage and he had no idea why women bring up the subject of chores in regards to sex. I agree with the women. You see guys, when a guy is sitting around watching sports or whatever it is you aren't doing, women are doing it. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids, etc. We get tired and frustrated. We work too. My ex's excuse was he was working 70 hours a week. Well, I was working 50 hours a week and another 30 hours a week at home. I couldn't even get him to take out the garbage. This led to a serious decline in our sexual relationship. I was exhausted and angry that he would never help. And, it wasn't that I was withholding to get back at him. It was the fact that there was nothing left in me. So, now I find it, in an odd way, a turn on when my boyfriend is mopping the kitchen floor or cooking dinner. Agree or disagree?
2007-02-16 01:15:54 · 10 answers · asked by Groovy 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Clearly Yoga K has missed my point.
2007-02-16 01:24:45 · update #1
Aparently, John H doesn't help around the house even though the relationship should be 50/50. Why don't some people get that? It's not being exhausted John. It's having no desire for you. And, yes, my guy turns me on when he does those things. I don't lie.
2007-02-16 01:32:43 · update #2
Being married for 5-1/2 years, and having gone thru this, i would agree. I was the jerk of a husband that was working 60 hours a week, and used that as an excuse to my wife who has been hame most all day with three cranky kids. I wouldnt lift a finger. Almost cost me my marraige. And it defanitly took a toll on our otherwise great sex life. Were better now....Working all day or not, sometimes the littlest of gestures to help out is all it takes to make a lady happy.
This sure would explain why she comes rubbin up on me when im cleaning!
2007-02-16 01:45:39 · answer #1 · answered by marcsnothere 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's more of a bad habbit than anything. I was the same way, but we found a solution, we turned it into a big sex game. This was the best thing we ever did, if I cooked dinner she would be making little suggestions that she had some desert for later. It just got better and better, I ended up with everything in order and a smile on my face. I remember that my wife asked for a favor when I was outside working and of course there was a trade off at that very moment, threw her in the car and had at it. She got real embarrassed the next day, because some friends of mine were riding in the car and she had been bare foot that day before and foot prints were all over the ceiling and the windsheild. So it's what you make of it.
2007-02-16 10:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by frosty62 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good question - women understand, but the majority of men probably just don't "get it".
It's not that dishes have anything to do with sex, however, when a man does chores around the house, it is a wonderful way of showing his woman that he loves her, so the consequence is that she will feel much more warm & friendly (if you know what I mean) towards him at bed-time.
I know, I don't find it sexually arousing to be doing dishes, laundry, etc, while my hubby sit's on the couch resting, I think that is how a lot of resentment builds up in a marriage. It's great when he takes the initiative and does some of those jobs with me.
2007-02-16 09:27:07 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Men see things as black and white. I guess that goes along with the inability to answer a direct yes or no question. I don't think they understand that the cause and effect issue here is not didn't do dishes=not sex. It's a build-up of not helping out. I'd like to put my feet up and lounge when I get off work too, but someone's gotta do the cooking and cleaning. It would go faster if you had help.
2007-02-16 09:22:09 · answer #4 · answered by lesmodee 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can argue all you want about who is doing or not doing there share of the work in a relationship, but don't say you are too tired for sex because you used all your energy washing the dishes.
There's always enough energy for sex if you want it. Seriously.
Be honest. He may very well be a lazy bastard. You are using sex as a manipulative tool to get your man to do more work.
And that thing about a husband doing chores being a turnon is a complete and total lie.
My wife complains about many things, but never about me doing my share of the work around the house. I've even been the stay-at-home Dad and did ALL the chores around the house for almost a year. I'd much rather do that than a real job.
You are an angry and bitter woman.
2007-02-16 09:26:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Plain & Simple: the less time have to spend in the kitchen the more time I can spend in the bedroom. When a man cares enough about ME to help around the house then I care to help him out in the bedroom. If I have to do everything around the house then he can take care of his needs himself.
A man putting away clean laundry, doing dishes, mopping, or giving the kids their bath is an afrodisiac! Trust me on this one.
2007-02-16 09:54:05 · answer #6 · answered by wwhrd 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Agree
2007-02-16 09:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, but sometimes that don't even work if there are other issues at hand.
2007-02-16 09:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree - a home should be a partnership.
2007-02-16 09:29:30 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do your house work in exercises manner, because exercises will help in sexual life.
2007-02-16 09:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by yogasun2002 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋