Is it True that teen marrages dont last?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been wanting to get married since our freshman year of high school. Now that we are seniors in high school about to graduate also with a child is it possible we could get married in another state and come back to our home state or something?

Answer 1

Not always. My parents were married at 16 & 18. They were married for 38 years....until my mother passed away from cancer. Loretta Lynn was married at the age of 13 and was married for almost 50 years until her husband passed awy.

Statistics are against you, but there are people who beat the odds.

Answer 2

Yes, it is true that teen marriages fail. It will fail because both of you are young and stupid and have no idea what you're getting yourselves into. You think you're in love because he's the greatest thing you've ever experienced. The truth is, you have nothing to base this off of because you have not experienced anything in your life yet. So you get married at 18 and for a couple of years everything is great, until you turn 30 and realize that you haven't experienced anything in your life and begin to wonder what it would be like to do certain things, meet certain people, try new things that would not be conducive to being in a marriage. You try and try to justify why you should have the right to experience these things, then you'll remember that being a wife is about more that what YOU want to do. But you wont be satisfied with that conclusion and you'll probably just cheat on your husband, or try to blame him for why you have no life experiences as an "out", so that you can justify to yourself that you can either have your cake and eat it too, or just roll out and do what you want anyway. Add kids to the mix, and they end up losing more in the long run. They learn how to be good husbands and wives from watching their parents, so yeah, it's totally a good idea to have some now. If you're lucky, you might get to screw their lives up along with your own. But you young folk know everything though, so there you have it.

Answer 3

Since you have already made the bigger mistake by having a child in your teens most states will let you marry. Also if your parents sign papers you can marry - you must be almost 18 so you could just wait till then. Some teen marriages last but not many and I am guessing the odds are worse when there is a baby before the marriage begins!

Answer 4

Not all teen marriages work but some can and do. My sister was married at 19 and they have been married for 35 years. My nephew was married while he was a senior in high school and he was only 18.They have been married for almost 15 years. Some teen marriages can and will work out. I also know other young teenagers who get married and the marriages did not work out. You need to do alot of thinking about this.

Answer 5

Wait to get married! Don't rush anything. I know that there is a child involved but if you are really in love you will still get married after college. You are in high school?? Trust me, you don't fully know yourself or what you want in a man. I am 24 years old and when I look back to my high school boyfriend, whom i thought i was going to marry at the time, I would never never never give him the time of day now. I'm not saying that you too won't end up together BUT only time will tell...... DON'T DO IT!

Answer 6

The reason they tend not to last is because the person you are now is very different from the person you will be in ten years. You may not think this now, but I promise you change about 2 or three times before you know who you are.

If the two of you change in different directions it is not going to work. Also you feel deprived of having a fun young adult life the way your friends will.

But you have a baby so that puts a slightly different perspective, personally I would give it a few years, you have nothing to lose by not getting married and everything to lose if you do.

Answer 7

Teen marriages, generally, don't last. Yes, you could marry in another state, or get your parents permission to marry. I would suggest that you both wait until you're older. You have a child, and you can both still parent the child. Get an education so that you can provide, adequately for your child. Finances is frequently the cause of marriages, especially teen marriages, breaking up. Take your time; if you love each other, you can wait until you're financially able to maintain your own home and the life style you want to have for yourselves.

Answer 8

U shuldn't have 2 go 2 another state.Every marriage is different.Iy doesn't matter how old or how young u r,it takes work.My ex & I got married when I was 16.We were married 4 about 6/7 yrs.The reason that it didn't work out was because I hadn't grown up til after I was married.Along w/growing up came growing apart.Good Luck!

Answer 9

My first marriage failed and we married at 18 years old. It lasted 7 years and we ended up resenting all the missed things our other friends got to do like college life, hanging with friends and just being independant. He also cheated because he felt he didn't get to be a normal guy and date around before he married me so that was the icing on the divorce cake.

Answer 10

there is nothing wrong in getting married at a very young age... personally i also don't believe that getting married at such age won't last long... it's actually base on the the couple, no matter how hard life would bring them it's really up to both of you to make things work, making a relationship work is base on the love and trust you had for each other, as long as you had it, don't be scared. Besides, people can say everything that they want, you know the truth... its gonna work, cause you want to make it work, won't you? Good luck...