Though the situation is kinda complicated.They've known eachother for like 4-5 years and it was 3 years ago or so when they used to go out, thing that only lasted for 4-5 months, when they realised it's not working so they both agreed on being just friends.She's from England, we're in Germany.She could come over for 2-3 days and it's all gonna be like a good-bye, cuz we're gonna move pretty far away from Europe.She doesn't know me, but she does know about me.He didn't insist on her coming, he just wants to know my sincere opiniong about this and he asked me about it today.
He said he'd like to see her again, but he's not gonna cry if that's not gonna happen.It's mainly my decission.
What should I do?I do trust him, it's just the fact that they did go out, even for a few months,3 years ago.(obviously sex was involved)I'm tempted to say that it's ok.
Would that be a mistake?I really need a lot of opinions.
2007-02-16 01:09:14 · 10 answers · asked by Luminita 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Like some friends told me, he did have a life before he met me and that's not to blame.They've been friends for some years now and I don't think that'll change in a couple of days, with us being married and getting ready to leave Europe next month.I will stay with them and I know that anyway he will ask me to join him/them everywhere.I guess that says it all then.
2007-02-16 02:39:09 · update #1
Ya sure its ok, even though ur husband and her may have gone out together, it does not mean they cant just be friends. I have a friend whose ex helped him to chase a girl so i could say that its pretty much alright. And if its a goodbye, why hold back? I mean its like a last meeting and I would know that ur husband would appreciate it.
And if he did ask your opinion and the descision lies with you than you really have nothing to worry about cause he obviously respects and loves you to ask and let you make the descision. But you will definately have to lay out some ground rules with your husband like not to do certain stuff but not to the extent of like to stay 5 feet away of each other. But if you do feel uncomfortable with her coming over than just explain yourself and tell him that you love him and you are afraid of certain things.
Thats all I can say and hope that you will also follow your heart...
2007-02-16 01:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would, but keep an eye on them and watch his behavior around her. You'll get a feeling whether or not everything is fine in the first couple of hours. I have an ex that I still keep in contact with. We were friends before for years and afterwards we became friends again. My husband completely trusts me and I don't feel an attraction to the ex anymore. It is possible to just be friends with someone you went out with before. Unfortunately, there is usually some attraction still there. I don't think he would invite her into your home to stay if he had any real attraction to her. If he did, he would feel guilty and would just say something like, "do you care if I go out to eat with her? She just wants to see me before we move." He wouldn't be so willing to have you around when he is around her. Make plans for all of you to go out together the nights she is there. Don't leave too much room for them to be alone.
2007-02-16 01:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lady in Red 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a lot of trouble for two people to go through just to see each other.
I suggest she stays somewhere else and you chaperone them at all times... except brief moments.
He can be trusted. She can be trusted too. I just would not trust emotion and lust. Both are probably temptations. Just help them avoid the temptation.
Alternatively. Offer him the threesome thing but I suspect you like having the guy all to yourself. Which is nice.
2007-02-16 01:16:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 05:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by mattsson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say no way, if there relationship was only for a few months then why the oh i want to see you stuff. if she wants to come over fine she has her own motel room and you are with them every minute and watch them like a hawk.
they can say bye over the tele.
2007-02-16 01:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by picture 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No there's no problem in that.You believe and trust in him then there is no problem at all.Let her come.If he wants to visit her let him.Since he has seeked ur opinion i think he is trustworthy and faithful.so no problem.But keep an eye on them when she is here just dor safety.
2007-02-16 01:52:22 · answer #6 · answered by SE7EN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad idea. A dinner or something in a neutral location with all of you would be ok
2007-02-16 01:28:53 · answer #7 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you trust him. good for you. is it her you dont trust. stop it. its not like shes sneeking into town. hes not hiding anything from you. let him say good bye to an old friend. who knows you might make a new one out of it.
2007-02-16 01:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by zsaffireblue2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should be OK as long as you're there all the time and you're comfortable in your relationship.
2007-02-16 01:35:28 · answer #9 · answered by bad_bob_69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LET HIM CRY
2007-02-16 01:22:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋