i have lost interest in everything except my new 4 months relationship?

Question

I have met the woman of my dreams and all i want to do is spend all of my time with her . for the first 2 months we couldnt keep our hands of each other . things have really slowed down so much so its worring me . she has just moved house 3 weeks ago work is tough for her at the min and her devorse has just been completed .
i know all 3 things are the most stressfull things people can do , as i say the main thing that is worring me is the less she texts phones me the more i want to speak e mail text ond even be their . how do i control myself from adding presure all the time .
the last thing iam pretty sure she still loves my as we have known each othes for the last 6 years as frends . i dont want to spoil it . many thanks .

Answer 1

you are head over heels in love and you dont need to be told that. when you are to keen it can sometimes put a woman off. u need to play it kool but dont stop loving her. lay off abit and you will find she will come running to you. wait for her to tex or contact first, then tex her. the calmer you play it the closer you will become, trust me. but most of all, when you go to bed at night with her, love her then and cuddle her in your arms and ask her how she has been that day. night time is when we all relax more and she will be more open to talk to you. make her feel special but with subtle things and everything will come your way. good luck to you both xxx

Answer 2

I know it is hard but you are really in love. As a woman the worst thing to do is process her and smother her. You have to play a little unavailable. It keeps us women wondering. But just her ask her out each Friday and Saturday night. Or even a Sunday. Keep in your mind to give her some space to see her girlfriends or otherwise she might run. So you make sure you see your male friends too. Communicate with tell them and tell them how you feel. It is important to make variety in your life, so why not do a course. It makes you interesting and impresses a female that you have your head on your shoulders. You seem as if she is the one, so a course will enhance your career to keep your mind expanded in the future of your life that you could have with her or even another. I tell you if a male does't give a woman space she will be gone in 12 months. So space, a little of unavailabily on your side will do no harm. e.g. return her call the next day. Get a video or have a early night to get it off your mind. Or visit a male friend. Good luck

Answer 3

I know where you're coming from..I get that way, too.
You really need to back off and not be worried about the slowing down..that's pretty normal. You're very close to coming off as clingy and controlling. Yes, controlling...It's a sign of an abuser for a person to push for a quick relationship and want the other person's time all the time.

How to control yourself? Set a goal. Decide right now that you will only talk to her once a day. Exercise some will power and self control. It will make the times you do talk to her and see her more meaningful also.

Answer 4

Oh dear. What happened to that sociable, exciting man she grew to love? You've become a sap. Now if you don't want to lose this woman get out there and behave like you did when you were just friends. Show kindness and compassion but don't be clingy. Be there for her but make sure you have time for yourself as well. I know it is heady and wonderful when you first get together with someone you feel that much for but unless you both re-charge your batteries it won't last the long haul.

So take time out - go out with some buddies, go down the gym whatever - it'll be all the sweeter when you meet up again.

Answer 5

While it's great to be in a relationship for the first time, it's not healthy to obess about it or sit around waiting for your love to call. Keep your own life and have time for eachother. Keep that throughout the relationship whatever it leads to. Right now, it sounds like she's going through some stresses and the initial infatuation will fall, but that's not love. Give it time. Don't take it to fast. Renew your old hobbies and care for the woman.

Answer 6

Be patient, and give her some time and space. You need to do more than just be involved in your relationship with her. Go out with friends, or take up a hobby. You may be smothering her, so chill out a bit. The time you spend together will be better if you have some time apart. Good luck!

Answer 7

no relationship can keep up the lust and adrenalin rush you get in the first few weeks. She is having big life changes with a new house and a divorce. Why dont you ask whether you can do something practical to support her eg do her grocery shopping and cook her meals if she is stressed at work and make sure she knows you dont expect anything from her in return.

Answer 8

You are suffocating her. You say you are pretty sure she loves you so that must be something, hope you are right. Why don't you ask her outright the next time she has AGREED to meet up with you if you are annoying her with too much contact.? If she says yes ask her how she wants to play it? She may just want a little time to herself at present but if it's more you will just have to realise you are not the one for her.

Answer 9

Welly ou know things are stressful and pressuring now right? So send her texts reassuring her that everything will be okay, if she needs someone to talk to you will be there for her even if it is in the middle of the night. This makes a woman's self esteem sky rocket.

good luck!

Answer 10

Best thing u can do is give her some space, she's going through alot at the moment, she's trying to get her life on track again.. let her know ur there, but back off some.. let her call you..