just want advice and people opinions?

Question

am 14 and been with my boyfriend 4 a while and i no were onli young but wer all loved up!! lol dat sounds silly but we are. we have done 'stuff' and we have talked about sex... hes not presuring me atall..... but when i talk 2 my friends they all sey sumfink differnt!!

my boyfriends the same age as me!

Answer 1

ignore your friends.. if you and your boyfriend trust each other then just go along with that.. only get down to business when you feel so so ready! Your friends are probably jealous

Answer 2

It's a lovely time and there is nothing like your first love but don't have sex at 14 because you are mature, not immature. You don't want the boy to get in to trouble apart from anything else. Also some relationships starting at 14 last for ever but the majority as they get older for various reasons just drift apart. Although you certainly are in no way a loose girl in a couple of years time having lost your virginity so young doesn't give out a very good message to a respectable guy. Another thing whatever you decide to do DON'T discuss it with your friends. I know it's difficult and it is good to have people to confide in but life being what it is one person only needs to tell another and suddenly the whole world knows your business and sorry to sound hurtful but you can be branded as 'loose' when you aren't at all but I am afraid as the saying goes 'Mud sticks!' Take care and think carefully before making your decision.

Answer 3

I met my first boyfriend when I was your age, and we were together for 5 years. And we did stuff too.

I tihnk this is a question only you and your boyfreind can answer. Do you feel ready to have sex - not just physically ready but do you feel eomtionally ready. Have you talked about contraception? Have you discussed what you would do if your contraception failed? Have you talked about your expectations from this relationship - to be faithful? How long you see it lasting? Etc etc.

The stage you are at now is lovely, I remember the days of experimenting and getting to kow my and his bodies. I would say don't rush things but enjoy this moment, once you step over that line there is no going back but here you have a perfect opportunity to learn about your own sexuality with a boy who loves you very much and when you both feel it is right then you can move on.

You sound very sensible and I think you will take a decision that you won't regret. I don't regret giving my virginity to that first boyfreind of mine and I hope you will feel the same when the time comes for you. Good luck.

Answer 4

It doesn't matter whether he is the same age as you or not, at 14, neither of you are emotionally mature enough to handle a sexual relationship. Heck, I think most guys of 18 are still not emotionally mature enough.

There is a legal age limit on sex for a reason. It's not just the government trying to be mean because they think under 16's shouldn't enjoy themselves. You wouldn't believe the amount of kids I've talked to, who regret having had sex underage.

You and your boyfriend may think you're in love right now, and trust me, I know how that feels, but I would really like to push that you keep your childhood for as long as it is possible, because before you know it, it will be gone, and you can never regain that time back.

Personally, I was 21 before my boyfriend and I had sex. It wasn't that we waited, it just hadn't occured to us before to do it, because we were too busy enjoying our youth, hanging out with friends and enjoying the company of each other without the added pressures of a sexual relationship.

Kids are so eager to grow up too quickly these days, it actually makes me sad, because even at the age of 23, I still long for my childhood back, when life was more simple and boys were an alienated species.

Bottom line is, I would say don't do it. Enjoy your childhood and if you two still feel the same at the legal age of 16, then perhaps talk about it then, with the advice of health care professionals at your local clinic.
But at the end of the day, I could be battling a lost cause. If this is the case, then please please make sure you're both protected. If you think you're mature enough to handle sex, then you're mature enough to walk into a chemist and buy a box of condoms.

Be safe.

Answer 5

Sweetheart Im not that much older than you im 18 years old,but I was 14 before! And I lost my virginity to some Loser when I was 15 and now hes no where to be found.There is nothing wrong with having a Boyfrined at your age to spend time with and hug and stuff like that.But dont consider having sex with him just becuase u think your in love,I mean you are so young.Ive been dating this Guy for 2 years now and he is means everything to me he is also like My bestfriend,We also talk about getting married in the future! And now I regret having sex with that guy when I was 15,I should have kept my virginity to this Great guy Im with now! The only reason I had sex with that guy when I was 15 was because my friends were all having sex and they picked at me and sayed I was still acting like a baby!! So if your friends are trying to persuade you to have sex because they are,DO NOT LISTEN TO THEM,because you have your whole life to find someone special to share that moment with.Dont let these young guys use your body,because most of the time once they get your sex they move on to the next girl,These young guys dont understand being faithful and loving someone,They are too young!!

Answer 6

I made my first boyf wait a year. (exactly we did it on our aniversary) I knew he really loved me, I just wasn't ready. And by waiting a year it was really perfect. I was 14 when I met him and 15 on our first time. It worth to wait til you are ready then you can never regret it. I'm not saying wait a year but its between yourself and yourself. Not even your boyf can tell you when you must do it, and especially not your freinds. Ignore them, they will get over it. True friends wouldn't care what you were doing in bedroom. Throughout my life I made more friends by doing what was right rather than following other people, I've never taken drugs although my friends did and I went to all the parties. They respected me for that.

The only thing you MUST do is protect yourself. Even if he says he's also a virgin there is also pregnancies to worry about. Just have fun, with a condom!!

And as a responsible adult (lol) I must say maybe you should wait untill you are both legal. Funny once your older you will wonder what the rush was about, you've got loads of time.

Answer 7

im a lot older than you im 45 now but i was young once i have 3 children 2 of them girls and ile tell you what i told them enjoy your lives whilst you can dont rush into a sexual relationship enjoy being in love and having fun doing ordinary everyday things yes kiss and cuddle thats normal but dont take it further wait till your older if hes the right one he will still be around when your 16+ dont listen to your friends they are still young and the main thing is if youve got to ask whether to have sex then your not ready when your ready it will happen naturally but even then make sure you use contaception

Answer 8

My daughters 14 so I asked her advice. She says that at her age she isnt thinking about sex with her boyfriend. she is quite happy the way things are, He hasnt pressured her to have sex, but he has mentioned it, and she has said no because she doesnt feel old enough, or confident enough. Sex should be natural, and you should feel comfortable. Wait until you feel right about it, 14 isnt the right time.

Answer 9

14 is quite young to have sex. why don't you take the time out to know each other properly. you only get your first time once and there will be no doubt in your mind when the time is right. sex is not important if you really like each other... never rush

Answer 10

At 14 you're legally too young to have sex and if you do you could put your boyfriend in danger of being arrested and labelled a sex offender - do you really want this to happen?

Answer 11

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