2007-02-16 00:50:22 · 19 answers · asked by ladylove 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You mean a lover while you are married? Simple answer is YOU DON'T. You made those vows to be faithful, if you can't stick to that then leave your husband first. Or pray that he is not doing the same to you.
2007-02-16 00:53:24 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to figure out why you are letting this other person into your heart. There must be something lacking in your relationship with your husband if you are thinking about betraying your marriage. If you were truly still in love with your husband, you wouldn't even look at other guys in such an intimate way; you wouldn't be able to hurt him like this. I don't know how far things have gone with this new guy, but I think you should evaluate who you want in the long term, because if it is going to be your husband, stop now and work on things or maybe go to counseling, if it is going to be this new guy, ask your husband for a divorce, because even if you don't love him now, you did love him enough to marry him, so at least do the right thing and let him go now so that he can move on....
2007-02-16 09:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by christina9202 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand completely what you're asking. I am struggling with the same thing. And I can honestly say I don't know what to do. I have been married for 6 years. We have three daughters who range in age from 5 years to 6 months. I know that marriage has changed us both, and I have sought emotional support from another gentleman. Mind you we have never met (so it's not about the sex), yet I feel as though this is some bad secret I am keeping from him. We do frequently email and discuss one another's troubles and encourage one another. I can't do that with my husband. He's just not like that. At first, when we married that was alright, but now with the changes that have taken place, I need more emotional support.
2007-02-16 09:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by sisterchick1274 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the song "you came along one promise too late? " - Basically it comes to this, if you love your husband and want to keep that relationship DON'T CHEAT, leave this otherguy alone and love your spouse - likely this other guy is just a passing thing any way. If you feel you have fallen out of love with your husband, then maybe the two of you should discuss divorce as horrible as that is because it will hurt less then you cheating on him will. If you find you are THAT attracted to this other guy, don't even be friends with him because the temptation will be to much. Ultimately you should honor those vows you took at the alter and the sanctity of manogomy.
2007-02-16 08:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by nemsethcszardescu 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do, is stop and think about your relationship with your husband. What is it that is making you even think about being with someone else? Are you in a bad relationship, do you feel your husband doesn't pay you enough attention, let you know he loves you? After evaluating this cause of your wondering, talk to your husband, let him know how you feel and what he could do to change the situation. If after this you are still thinking about being with someone else, then maybe you are not truly "in love" with your husband anymore, and it is time to move on. Anytime you have more than a fantasy of being with someone else, it is time to do some serious soul searching.
2007-02-16 09:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by catmomiam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u r asking what 2 do if there is someone that u have met that u could possibly develop feelings 4 then u should stay away from that person and b true 2 your husband.
2007-02-16 08:59:38 · answer #6 · answered by clueless 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is a bit confusing, are you asking what do you do if you are married and cheating?
If so, the decent thing would be to leave your husband before you get involved with someone else. How would you feel if he did that to you?
Marriage should be based on love and respect, obviously if you're "cheating" you don't have either quality. Looking outside your marriage for any reason is wrong and I feel sorry for your husband. He deserves better than you.
Best of luck to him.
2007-02-16 08:55:21 · answer #7 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what you are asking. Are you asking what to do if you meet someone and want to see this man on the side? Well if that is what you are asking, then the answer is what ever you want. You know what is right, and you know the answer to you own question. That is why you asked it. Word of advice. DON"T CHEAT. Follow your conscience, and your heart and it will tell you what is right. If you're unhappy, tell your husband. If he doesn't care, leave him and move on. There is always the chance that he will have the desire to make you happy, if you tell him what is broken, maybe he can fix it. But if you cheat on him, you could hurt him very badly. Do you want that?
2007-02-16 08:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by mixedup 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your husband. Let him know you would like to be with other men from time to time. He might like to be other women. That is called swinging. You can love each other and still have fun in the sack with some one else once in a while. If you start cheating and get emotionally involved then you, husband or boy friend ends up getting hurt! That isn’t any fun.
2007-02-16 09:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by bigh5586 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a tough one. Although it is normal for women to stray in a marriage some men can be hurt by this.
Do you love your husband and not want to hurt him? If so you may need to make a sacrifice and miss out on the satisfaction you deserve and need.
Alternatively. You can give into your natural feminine requirements and take what you need. Dang the rest of them. You are a woman with needs!
2007-02-16 08:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋