Yes, I know everyone's supposed to be open and communicate about their sexual needs, but I don't know if you've ever had a conversation where you nervously asked your Very Nice Boyfriend to pull your hair? Oh... it's terrible.
I'm a pretty ladylike, fairly "traditionally female" girl (yes, I know someone out there is gearing up to be totally offended by that, but I just wanted a short way to explain that). This is probably going to sound exceedingly lame, but I would be quite excited to be in a relationship with a really manly man who is amused and approving when i cook him retro roast-based dinners, and who agrees with me that our interests do not have to overlap or match in all areas. And then perhaps he could take me to bed and be quite forceful and pull my hair and demand that I call him inappropriate things....sorry got a bit carried away :P
Where can I find a man like this? How would I even know if he's my type? Do men like this even exist??
2007-02-16 00:36:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yes men like that exist, and you have a small chance at finding one because good me are hard to find just like good women are hard to find. One thing that I would tell you is that there are no telepaths out there and the only way that someone is going to know what you want is to tell them. Remember timing is everything. As to where they are that's going to be random chance, and only you will know if he is your type. I have heard that one must kiss a lot of frogs to find a prince. Good luck!
2007-02-16 00:44:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Uhm well yes, men like this do exist - I have one. My advice is, since it's something sexual, bring it up during sex. My fiance and I have learned tons about each other's kinkiness by just easing into it in the sack. I would suggest the way to do this is to start off everything with some general dirty talk, and then gradually work your way to being doggy style, still talking dirty. Then, just get really into it. The extra energy creates room for that roughness, and he'll gain confidence from how much you are enjoying yourself. Then all you have to do is ask for it in that moment. If something doesn't deeply offend someone's sensibilities (which hair-pulling rarely will) he'll probably be down for it if you ask. And who knows, he might discover some new side of himself that he likes....and that's good for you! :-)
One thing about this method: Please don't try (heavy) drinking beforehand. It won't help nearly as much as it'll hurt, because it'll be harder for the two of you to read each other and what you're thinking. Enjoy and good luck!!
2007-02-16 08:44:10 · answer #2 · answered by Beauty Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, they do. I'm one for sure.
It is hard to find someone who'll do the things you want to satisfy your sexual needs. The only way is to be upfront and discuss it very early on in your relationship. The long you leave it the harder it is to get into that conversation.
I'd love to pull your hair.
2007-02-16 08:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, yes they do exist, but you aren't going to find out until you tell the guy what you like. Sorry, but guys pretty much aren't going to pick up on subtle hints, you're going to have to outright tell him. :P
2007-02-16 08:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Dally 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure they exist but I would get to know a guy before laying this one on them. for real
2007-02-16 08:40:43 · answer #5 · answered by whit g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my God, of course men like this exist- any guy would do that and more, they'd probably like it too.
2007-02-16 08:39:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hellllooooooooo!!! Almost any guy would love that. You just have to tell them. That's all. They will go crazy for this kind of stuff.
My goodness, you are a baaaaad girl. (girly-girly, my butt ;-)
2007-02-16 08:41:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes men like this exist.
Would you like a spankin' to go with that?
tc
2007-02-16 08:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by timc_fla 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah men like that exist, most men are like that, i'm not, i could never feel right about being a jerk to the one i loved, but you have your pick from millions of jerks.
2007-02-16 08:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by d0wnward.spiral 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
wow. this is quite an intresting quesiton. i don't know, maybe look in a bar. or ask? i really don't know.
2007-02-16 08:39:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋