I think I got trust issue....I don't even trust myself. I've always cheated on all my boyfriends. I always have more then 6 boyfriend at a time and now that I am married I'm still cheating. I've cheated on my husband while we were dating and I'm still doing that. He knows I'm a cheater b/c I have confessed once to him. But I promise that it will never happen again. I really want to learn how to be faithfull to my husband. B/c at the end of my day He is the only person that I truelllly love and wants to be with. And I am with him, we have a wonderful life together and we do have marriage problem, lots of them. but he is still more wonder to me then bad. Please I need some loving advice.
2007-02-16 00:33:03 · 26 answers · asked by It'sJust-Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
gezz..guys go a little easier on me remember i have marriage problems lots of them...okay..you guys don't know how my husband treats me and so when i said cheat it doesn't mean i sleep or have sex with these men. mostly its just the words that comes out of my mouth. I kindly and desparely need good encouraging words to continue working my marriage not to be yell at or be call by names... that's not helpfull at all rathermore hurtfull and haten. If i didn't want to be a good wife i would of never struck in my marriage all these time when my marriage suck b/c of my husband not loving me enough by not supporting and helping me as a wife or lifetime partners. so...please kind advives and true ones only no more bullsss and bsss or name calling b/c everyone has issue I just happen to be able to share mines w/ the world lloking for help to improve a suckey marriage whwere the husband is only married to himself...okay.. so please understand whwere i'm coming from b-4 u answer this questio
2007-02-16 03:47:15 · update #1
What is wrong with you? If you knew this, then why did you get married in the first place?! Being faithful is not something that you learn. Being faithful is in your heart and not wanting to hurt or betray the one you love. If you "truly love" him as you say, you would not and could not have done this to him.
Loving advice is not something that I can give you. You are a selfish self-centered person.
2007-02-16 00:47:57 · answer #1 · answered by Marjory Stewart Baxter 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel you. I have been married for five years now with my husband. I was also previously married for two years. My second husband and I met at our work while I was going through my first marriage.Before my first marriage ended I had already not only cheated with someone I met, but also cheated again with my husband that I am now married to.Everything was going we'll so I thought with me and my second husband, until baby mama drama started,which led me right back to the guy who I cheated on my first husband with.Crazy.Right. Things happen. Cheating yes is wrong, there is no way to justify that.However, for me I always had guys that cheated on me too so it just seemed like they were getting back what they deserved. In your case I don't know the full story,but learning how to be faithful has to start from within. You have to pray on it and ask for help in that department. We all have weaknesses and there are so many temptations out here all we can do is try to be strong and stay away from those people who may tempt us.Just pray on it and ask God for guidance and strength. I have. Remember the devil always tempts you in the area he knows as your weakness.Stay Strong.
2007-02-16 08:00:12 · answer #2 · answered by Wonderwoman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you like it if your husband was cheating on you? Do you need the attention from other men to feel good about yourself? Maybe you should look into counseling for yourself. Then when you are ready then the both of you can go together. Then maybe when you have both figure out what going on in your marraige then things will be even better. I have never cheated on anyone cuz the guilt would be hard to handle. You need to built that trust back with your husband. If that doesn't work then it is time to move on and let him go. Good luck!
2007-02-16 01:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people may dispute what I say but I really believe this to be true. There are so many different types of diseases in this world, alcohol, drug and gambling are very well recognized by society, all have programs in which to help not only the abusers but families affected by these diseases. I think there are liars and cheaters that suffer the same disease, as well as those that steal. I think it would be wonderful if scientists invented a pill that would cure all of these diseases but for now all we have is counseling and support groups. You need to seek therapy with someone that is trained in dealing with your need to cheat on your spouse, they will help you understand the sociological reasons you feel the need to as well as help you over come the urge to cheat. Like with any other disease you need to control it and work on stopping it, with guidance you may overcome this problem. Good luck to you
2007-02-16 00:47:53 · answer #4 · answered by sassywv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not trying to be mean, but you need to pull your head out of your butt and take responsibility for your actions. If you really wanted to stop doing this, then you would stop. You are awfully lucky that your husband has stuck with you even after your confessions. You need to eliminate any kind of temptation or anything that triggers your cheating from your life. Do not give in to come ons or flirtation. You need to be the stronger person! If you can't do it on your own, then you need to seek professional help. Cheating is unforgiveable to me. I think that it's one of the worst things a person can do. You should be ashamed of yourself enough to stop. If you really truly loved your husband, then you wouldn't be doing this.
2007-02-16 00:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL, seek professional help. Secondly, tell your husband exactly what's going on in your mind. Both of you need to figure out why you feel the need to have multiple partners. You need to be very careful. You could end up pregnant by another man or bringing a disease home to your husband.
2007-02-16 00:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cheat for the first time and admit the mistake, it is OK. But if cheat in purpose than it will not good. So try not to cheat your love ones but your skill can be more useful if you are a business. Think about it!
2007-02-16 00:44:45 · answer #7 · answered by yogasun2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a sex addiction. I recommend Sex Addicts Anonymous, or Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous, both of which are 12-step programs modeled on the much better known Alcoholics Anonymous model. You can find a number to call to learn where and when meetings are held in the phone book, and meetings are free.
2007-02-16 00:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you looking for when you sleep with other men? Love? Sexual Gratification? Adventure? People who cheat need to find out why they cheat and address that issue. Cheating is the result of a problem, not the problem itself.
2007-02-16 00:39:19 · answer #9 · answered by jax0817 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look out 4 those things u think attracts u to other men and make ur husband do the same. look 4 d best in ur husband and dwell on them. also communicate wit him that way he is always on ur mind even at the point of wantin 2 cheat, u ll ve a change of hrt.
2007-02-16 00:43:05 · answer #10 · answered by joddie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋