My husband cheated on me in 2004..he promised that he would never hurt me again, but he has, I caught him having a affair on the internet and he wasn't talking just sex, he told her that he loved her..when i comfronted him about it he wrote her and told her not to write him anymore..that he was in love with me and that it was only a game. The woman made hotel reservations for them and the first time he cancelled but then he apoligized to her and said he would show up the second time..that was until I found out. I love him but I need someone to make me feel good about myself again..my heart is broke...I'm lonely..depressed and revengeful.
2007-02-16 00:25:23 · 35 answers · asked by Barbara 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I hate to say this, but once he cheated on you he won't stop, He will do it until he gets caught again and again. and if you are feeling lonely, find someone that will respect you, and want to be with you. and won't cheat. I know that you love him but is that enough for you to keep this relationship going only for him to keep hurting you. I would do a separation first. and let him see what life is without you. Maybe then you can see his true colors. but the decision has to be yours, not mine or anyone Else's. we can only give you our opinions. good luck. and be happy.
2007-02-16 00:31:38 · answer #1 · answered by misty blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs, never,ever, make a right. If you're lonely, and need someone, then leave your husband, and divorce him. Be the better person, and rather than cheat, do it the right way. As for revenge, it will do you no good, and it won't take away the hurt. Be the adult in the situation, and just move on, and find someone that you can love and trust!
2007-02-16 00:29:55 · answer #2 · answered by grandm 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is never right to cheat no matter what the circumstances are and regardless of what has happened in the past. You need to divorce this man who is ungrateful of the relationship that he has at home. This is not the first time and by the sounds of it, it will not be the last time that he cheats on you. I would leave this man and then you will be free to do what you want, such as find someone who will make you feel good about yourself.
2007-02-16 00:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious that you are not in a healthy relationship at all. Have you considered marriage counseling? It probably would only hurt you more if you were to cheat on him. The sanest thing to do is to get help, separate or divorce. Going to church with an honest heart would also do you some good. Good luck, I'm really sorry you're going through this. God Bless.
2007-02-16 00:28:57 · answer #4 · answered by laurel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's still wrong. Debasing yourself and your character is not going to make things better. It's just going to validate the disrespect that you've already been subjected to.
That being said, it's not uncommon for folks to make this mistake "once". This is the problem with the emotional rollercoaster you find yourself on when a relationship suddenly turns out to be illusory: your emotions start to tell you one thing, and your rational mind starts trying to justify those child-like feelings, and before you know it, you have no integrity either.
My advice, whatever you do keep your integrity, and assert yourself. You deserve respect, and you deserve to be able to respect your partner. You are hurt because you can no longer respect your partner. And stay away from alcohol while you are like this.
2007-02-16 00:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Revenge cheating is never the answer. You need to decide if you want to put up with this guy, or get a divorce and move on.
The best thing you can do is take care of yourself and your children (if you have any).
He was a low life for cheating, don't stoop to his level.
2007-02-16 05:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by Jenn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may think you love him? What is there to love.Staying with the cheater that has no respect for you or your health is going to make you feel worse.Your call except it or leave him. Get a medical exam in case he gave you something. Good luck your not alone there are very few people that have standards anymore ,read the sites & you will see.
2007-02-16 01:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your hubby has turned into an Internet stud wanna be. What would you do if your kids were acting like this on line? Get rid of the computer for starters and get professional help, for yourself. Seems like the relationship is going down the tubes faster than water in a toilet bowl.
2007-02-16 00:33:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First time, shame on you. Second time, shame on me. Altho I believe everyone deserves a second chance, this liar has proved more than twice he can't keep it in his pants, and will continue to hurt you, IF YOU CONTINUE LETTING HIM! Me personally, I would do all his friends... Not really, but hurting him back is certainly a normal fantasy. If you choose to cheat back, keep in mind the ramifications, legal and emotional, for yourself. I know you love him, he probably loves you too in his own double standard way, but if you choose to stay in this marriage, be prepared for a lot of heartache for the rest of your life. You could try counseling, but I doubt that will stop this from happening again. My sincere advice is to file for divorce, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and get back into the dating world, so you can find someone who will treat you as you deserve to be treated, who can love you without hurting you. Hang in there, Sister, find support groups, online and off, surround yourself, and have fun with, friends and family. Teach yourself to enjoy life and get out from under this cloud of misery. Love yourself, cause life's too short to waste on people who are supposed to love you, but can't, or won't, stop causing you emotional trauma. The best revenge is living well! Good luck, and Godspeed! It can, and will, get better if you choose to make it so!
2007-02-16 00:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats really sad Im not married But at sometimes its seems that way You got to live your life for your personal happiness to a certain level even in a relationship Do things that you know is going to brightin up your spirits you are the only one that knows what that might be you are responcible for a lot of your feelins
2007-02-16 00:39:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋