after 20 years a old school boyfriend contacted me over the internet. i have recently gotten married to the man i thought was the man for me . but i was really wrong . the old school friend what if he's a freak?why would he want to see me ? he wrote me and said after 20 years he still thinks of me and wishes i would have contacted him while i was seperated.he says that he is married but his wife cheated on him and he wants to leave her when there son gets old enough.we only went on one date back then . but like i said he is so interested in me what should i do ?
2007-02-16 00:18:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
my new marriage , i have accuatly been with him 7 years trust me our marriage is over when we got married . don't even ask. he does nothing for a living now he lays in bed all day and then we sleep in seperate beds cause he doesn't want the bed moving when i ge t in
2007-02-16 00:32:39 · update #1
I have a sneaking suspicion your old boyfriend may be the cheater in that relationship. He wants to wait until his son is older? Then what? Until he can stash some money away? Then until his wife can find a better job because he doesn't want to leave her stranded? He'll never leave his wife, he's just looking for a little on the side. He's not "so interested" in you if you only dated for a little while. He just looked you up because a previous affair probably just ended. Leave that situation alone and don't look back.
As for your own marriage, just remember that the grass is always greener...Why is your husband no longer "the man for you"? Because someone else is showing more interest? I suggest you seek counseling first for yourself and then with your husband. This is a very volatile situation that could blow up in your face if you let it. Don't.
2007-02-16 00:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by oj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure why you believe the man you married is wrong - is he abusive? If so, get out now and quick. But you did marry him and those vows should not be taken lightly. And I'm not sure I would trust your old school friend. In fact I would not pursue it unless you feel your marriage is truly over and even then I would take it slow and not commit to anything until I found out more.
2007-02-16 00:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by wild_orchid_tx36 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let "sleeping dogs lie"! You're a married woman now...he's a married man. No good can come of this! Let it go!!
2007-02-16 00:24:38 · answer #3 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋