what is wrong with my mom?

Question

why can't i stand her at all. why cant i be in the same room with her or nearby her for even a second without feeling hate? i just don'tlove her. and she is really mean to me. we had a relative live with us when the relative was wrong and the relative told me that my mom was harsh. i know some would think i should be lucky i have a mom, but what if i just cannot stand her no matter what i try?

Answer 1

how abt havin a hrt-hrt talk wit her and tell her exactly how u feel abt her and waz has made u develop that feelin. mayb she will change.

Answer 2

I had the same thing while I was in highschool. I always used to say that I'll never be like her and I was really mean to her as well. Now, only 3 years later, my mom's the best! Probably because I dont see her every day (I live on my own in another town) but also because I grew up a little and started to understand what life's about. It's so ironic cause everyone also always told me that this will happen and I was like "NO WAY, I hate her!".

Don't worry, it will get better, just give it a few years. If it doesn't just move away and go on with your life. She'll probably soften up once she realises that your not around her all the time.

Good luck and pray, it'll definately help!

Answer 3

Without knowing very much about the situation, it sounds as though you're having the same problem many teenagers do. Your mother may be strict with you, and it may be to protect/teach you, or it may be for more selfish reasons. I have no way of knowing and you probably don't either.
I have a feeling your mother knows how you feel. It sounds like you make it very clear. Maybe you should ask your mother why she is so strict with you. And listen to her from HER point of view. It's easy to think "Why won't she let me do X?" Try thinking instead "Would I let my daughter, someone who I gave birth to, raised for X number of years, do that, when I know what can happen?" Chances are, that answer will be no.
Are you always whiny/bratty with your mom? I mean, ALWAYS? Can she count on you to be sulky at breakfast, b!tchy at dinner, and to sneak out after bedtime? She might just be so sick of fighting, she doesn't know how to respond any more except to be nasty back to you. Maybe you should suggest counseling for both of you, so you have a mediator who can help you through these tough times. Good luck and I hope things improve.

Answer 4

I think you should talk to your Mom about how you feel about her and all that. Let it all out. As for your relative should keep her mouth shut because it can cause you to hate or cant stand your Mom more. You need positive input not negative. Just have a quiet talk with your Mom (alone) and that way she will know what is going on with you and perhaps she/you can fix what is causing you to feel this way.

Answer 5

I'm going to assume that your probably fairly young, and in that case, this is actually a pretty natural feeling. You are growing up, and trying to figure things out, and having somebody hover over you, and take care of you when you are trying to take care of yourself can be hard. Trust me, i'm 25, and I still have issues with my mother.


The best thing you can do is to first try to sit down and have a talk with her. I would suggest first writing down all your thoughts and feelings, give it a few days, then go over what you wrote down again. And when you do go to talk to her, try to be mature. Try to simply state how you are feeling, and tell her exactly what she is doing that is bugging you, or hurting your feelings. Don't whine, throw a fit, or get angry. If you want your mom to back off and give you space, you have to prove you are mature enough to deserve that space.

The second thing I would suggest is to keep reminding yourself that she is your mother, and even when she does things you don't like, or agree with, generally speaking she only has your best interests at heart. She is only human you know. Mothers, like anybody else can make mistakes.

The third thing I would suggest is to try and take yourself out of the sitatuation, and look at it from a neutral point of view. Mainly, what are you doing that could be provoking the sitution? As we grow up, we often have a hard time expressing ourselves the way we should. Sometimes, especially when we are angry, we say and do things in a way that if we were to think twice, we would not do. So maybe you should try changing your behavior. See if your mom treats you differently.


Just give it time though. Believe it or not parents are not the mindless idiots they seem to be while we are teenagers. I am not going to promise you will wake up one day and be best friends with your mom. My mom and I still struggle with our relatioship. But we both want to get along, so we have learned to try harder. Remember relationships take two ppl to make, and two ppl to break.

Answer 6

I'm sorry to hear that.I'm a mom with a 18 yr old son.If I knew how old u were I could maybe help.When your at the age of 12 to 17 this can happen. Plus u need to remember that it is harder for us moms to punish or kids and easier just to let it go.Did u ever just try to have a talk with her?When your calm and not mad at her try talking to her.Tell her how u feel.Good luck

Answer 7

My first guess is.... that you are a teenager. Is your mother REALLY mean to you? Are is she just saying no to things that she feels may bring harm to you? Unless your mother is mistreating you, the feelings you have are normal. Most teenagers go thru a period of trying to establish their independence and finding out who they are....it can be a very difficult time. At the same time your mother is scared to let go...that's what us mothers do. So in this process, it is normal to feel a (hatred) for you mother...believe me she's not having a very good time either! So try to understand her feelings while still pursuing what you want for yourself. The old saying...(you pay for your raising) is true...so be very careful with the decisions you make and how you relay your feelings to your mother. My guess is she is just tying to protect you and wants the best for you. You have all your life to be independent and to make your way.....Just try to enjoy what little time you have left being at home with your mom.

Answer 8

pray the most important relationship is the one between you and God seek first the kingdom of god and all these things will be added to you try too find a councilor or a psychiatrist to help

Answer 9

Pray for her, and yourself. ask God to heal your relationship. You can't help any of the problem until you look and assess your self first. (I know that sounds bad, but its true, I had to do it too and I didn't like it either)
The Good Lord helps those who help them selves. Good Luck!

Answer 10

If you're a teenager, wait a few years...you'll feel differently. Trust me.