I am in afghanistan, fighting in the war. My wife wants me to call two or three times a day. Since I'm working different hours and not always around a phone, she doesn't understand this is not like a 9 to 5 job. What can I do to help her understand, besides talking to her.
2007-02-15 23:33:00 · 10 answers · asked by Roger 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell her they are making a new rule, you get two 15 minute phone calls a week. I know this is the case in some areas over there. The trick to that is to not have any friends call their spouse all the time too.
Also, let her know, there are people at your base back home that can help her when you can't call. She misses you, but if she gets with other spouses, then things should be easier on her.
I do feel your pain, I been there, done that too, and my fiance wanted me to call all the time, but I told her I just couldn't. Others need to use the phone too, and I cna't hog the phone all the time.
Just be patient with her, and tell her you are going to call once a day. Then, when she gets used to that, tell her that you can't call in a day or two, for classified reasons, like you are doing a mission.
Good luck over there, and keep safe. I will be heading that way soon myself.
2007-02-15 23:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by George P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know what a typical day for you is like, from the time you get up, until you go to bed. It really sounds like her issue is your personal safety; perhaps reassure her about any precautions taken to keep you safe. Bottom line, stress to her that you're a soldier, and your job comes first at this point in time, and it may not always be safe for you to get to a phone to call her. She should join a support group, with the other wives, whose husbands are in Afghanistan and Iraq. If no group is available, she should start one. I truly believe it would help her deal with the reality of your situation. Best of luck, both with your wife, and in defending freedom!
2007-02-15 23:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her how much it stresses you out with the phone calls I mean she ought to understand. She is probably scared for you that's all. Right now all you can do is explain to her how you cant always call promise her once a day.
By the way may God bless you for the job you are doing. i am very proud of you.
2007-02-15 23:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by drightchristy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations, Your wife loves you!
If i were you, I'd try telling her that I do miss her dearly (more than she misses me!) and would do anything to be with her. Overwhelm her with letters and do call as often as you can.
send her a "flat daddy" (giant cut out photo of yourself).
2007-02-15 23:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by j_timberLate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that she is always in your heart and the important thing is that you are always thinking of her and tell her you realy want to call her even 10 times a day but you cant
2007-02-15 23:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by afsaneh_000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her the truth.say that you are bz at the moment,and you'll be calling her as soon as you are free,assure her that you are safe and can,t wait to get back home
2007-02-15 23:45:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing! Just take care of yourself there.
2007-02-15 23:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by exo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her some time she will get use to it. she just miss you
2007-02-15 23:36:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just focus on getting home safe...the rest will take care of itself....good luck and thank you....
2007-02-15 23:39:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She misses you. Why are you talking to us.
2007-02-15 23:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋