How do I know if a prospective boyfriend is the type to, um, pull my hair?

Question

Yes, I know everyone's supposed to be open and communicate about their sexual needs, but I don't know if you've ever had a conversation where you nervously asked your Very Nice Boyfriend to pull your hair? Oh... it's terrible.

I'm a pretty ladylike, fairly "traditionally female" girl (yes, I know someone out there is gearing up to be totally offended by that, but I just wanted a short way to explain that). This is probably going to sound exceedingly lame, but I would be quite excited to be in a relationship with a really manly man who is amused and approving when i cook him retro roast-based dinners, and who agrees with me that our interests do not have to overlap or match in all areas. And then perhaps he could take me to bed and be quite forceful and pull my hair and demand that I call him inappropriate things....sorry got a bit carried away :P

Where can I find a man like this? How would I even know if he's my type? Do men like this even exist??

Answer 1

~Yeah, my ex husband is rough like you! No wonder it didn't work, I know.
The only way you'll find out if they do that is ask. Unfortunately, I don't think many would be offended. I personally take it as demeaning.~

Answer 2

Honey, any man can do that. If you want to be sure then maybe you need to be a little more forward in what you want in the bedroom. When I first spoke to my wife, whom I met on-line, I asked her if she was into being tied up or tying me up and she immediately responded that she has her own supply of bondage tape. Now my wife is the most lady like and gentle person you will ever meet, until its playtime. Most importantly, you can't base a relationship solely on sex, it just doesn't work.

Answer 3

Try Italy Spain I would say Germany but they tend to shoot a bit over the target ^^. Or wait for me to visit America, just assume you are American. I happen to be the kind of guy who enjoys roast beef eating and lady slapping/hairpulling.
As for America, well I dont know, Alabama ?

Answer 4

Yes men like this do exist - and they're even the very nice,and "good" boy types too. Oh and its not too terrible to ask your man to be rough, but it is scary as hell when you ask, not knowing what he is going to think about it. - and i should know, i asked. find your right moment to ask and you might be suprised who'd pull your hair - good luck (b~_^)b

Answer 5

Sounds like your a bit of a sub (Hair pulling/domination thing). However, apart from raiding the BDSM sites, I would say that what you are after is an outdoors type bloke. So you need to hang out where they are. Try forums dedicated to outdoor activities or take up a sport that will get you outdoors to meet these people. Sounds like you want a park ranger, farmer or sports man.

Luck

Answer 6

Pull your hair ? Do you mean take you to bed? Definitely if the boy has any interest, he will surely let you know if he wants to jump your bones. If this is what you want, there's plenty of guys who are ready and willing to take you to bed (LOL) !!!

Answer 7

problem is finding someone who will do these things for you and not to you, if you know what i mean. it would freek out some guys (not me) but other guys may take it too far and be generally abusive (prolly not what you're looking for). i know just what you mean, good luck finding the right one.

Answer 8

When the moment arrives, just let him know what you'd like. Speaking for myself, I'd do anything to make her happy.

Answer 9

Just ask him or tell him that you want him to.Yes they do exist!

Answer 10

i recently have been having my hubby "pull my hair" not hard but a good tug, and it is great!!! i don't call him names, but i tell him what to do to me, and we love it.