I was involved with that rich man for some time, the we broke up and then I met the other man. He is wonderful, and he is the best man on the whole planet. He is not rich, just a simple man.
I regret nothing, and I do not want nothing, but I can not bear our
daily routine now, after the first one. I do not eat that much, I do
not care about cars and so on, but the life with the first one was so
exiting, new things happened every day, travels, projects, things.
And now we just plow through life patiently, to work in the morning,
tired to bed at night, and I can hardly bear it.
There is not a single day when I do not cry, and have to hide it, I do
not know to upset my man.
How can I get used to what I have now?
2007-02-15 23:09:25 · 10 answers · asked by cachette 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And should I tell my man what bothers me?
I do not want to upset or hurt him, he is so nice.
2007-02-15 23:10:12 · update #1
I worked hard with the first one too, but it was interesting.
2007-02-15 23:15:40 · update #2
too tired for activities, he does 2 jobs, and so do I. Can hardly wait till weekends to sleep and stay in some.
2007-02-15 23:19:14 · update #3
You are just having trouble adjusting, it is a common problem, whether the change is moving, bereavement, changing jobs. It is hard to get used to things being so different.
Things will get better after awhile as you get used to it. The best way to help yourself get used to it is firstly find someone to talk to. A close female friend is best, one that will be supportive. If you don't have any one like that then talk to your husband. Make it clear to him that you are not criticising him and that you are not blaming him. Just explain you are having some trouble adjusting to your new life.
Also you need to talk to yourself in a more positive way. Concentrate on the fact that you have a wonderful husband and a jjob and that many people don't have either. If you are able to look after yourself then you are very lucky. Appreciate the small things in life, walks in the park, going to the movies, making nice meals. Don't focus on the past, that will not help you as it's not coming back. And don't regret things, just make the best of your situation.
You will feel down for awhile but don't lose hope - things will get better. If you don't feel better then go see a doctor who can offer you counselling or medication. You may not want to take medication but it will help you feel better and help you adjust.
Love is the most important thing - you have chosen love and if you live your life in a positive way and focus on the love in your life then you will be just fine. All the best.
2007-02-15 23:35:52 · answer #1 · answered by Velouria 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
There's a time and a place for everything. Now it is your time and your place to show this man the finer things in life. Yes it may take a pay check to get there. But as hard as he may work saving to do something nice will really help him and you, together and the advancinghim to finer things in life. Never tell him about the other guy. You know you would not want to hear about the last woman he had and she was so great, 1st thought that would come to mind would be, then why aren't you with her.
2007-02-16 07:23:57 · answer #2 · answered by sodgirl6763 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop comparing what you did in your old relationship with your new relationship about cars,trips,projects etc.....
you seems to really miss them and not the man but you got to get over it or you will ruin your new relationship! stop crying because crying because you are only upsetting yourself more making yourself miserable your man is not rich and he is not the only man that isn't rich either you need to take a reality check! Most men are not rich they may have good jobs or work 2 jobs to take care of home you need to find out what is more important to you the rich man or the poor man? Which man? you are saying you are not materialistic but your words say different you miss those things and it's bothereing the hell out of you because that is what you are use to! Can your love for your man survive your wants?What you are doing everyday is the norm when you are not rich so are you going back to the rich man or are you going to suck it in and let the things that you had in your pass relationship stay in the pass and just understand you have experience a good time but now you are moving on
2007-02-16 07:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by crystal_clear_0000 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The only thing I can say is that you have to concentrate on how good your relationship is. Letting go is very hard whether it's money or love or whatever.
Work on non-attachment to the past. Zen meditation will definitely help. In my opinion, telling him will only be a negative experience for him, though it may make you feel better. I'm sure if he could change his situation he would.
2007-02-16 07:15:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The before lifestyle spoiled you! And you shouldnt have let it! Working everyday and being tired is part of life. Rich people just dont GET rich, they work hard for it. They once were tired and worked long days! They pay bills just like us.
Stop comparing your life now to what it was before. Not very smart.
2007-02-16 07:12:44 · answer #5 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Gratitude. Look around you and be thankful for what you have. That would change your attitude. Think about this, some rich people cannot buy happiness.
2007-02-16 09:00:19 · answer #6 · answered by Delta O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATE ! How is he to know? Why do you not propose a few activities that interest you and ask him to share them? Something doable and affordable?
Usually they say that bored people are boring people. Must you have somebody else dictate the excitement?
2007-02-16 07:17:21 · answer #7 · answered by emiliosailez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were the new guy, I'd want to know this, and if I were the new guy and I knew this and I was smart, I'd dump you.
You know why? Because you aren't happy with your lifestyle now, and you cannot even begin to support the lifestyle you crave so much that it makes you unhappy.
You're discontent and dependent in nature. You're not healthy right now.
2007-02-16 07:24:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If he is so nice you should not have a problem discussing this with him.
2007-02-16 07:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
follow whatever he ask you to do
2007-02-16 07:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by ahhhlain 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋