im 14, he started when i was 11, he got caught when i was 13
2007-02-15 22:33:48 · 25 answers · asked by koi 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
*marker, not maeker, sorry!!
2007-02-15 22:34:23 · update #1
he is in jail
2007-02-15 22:37:34 · update #2
my aunt caught hm
2007-02-15 22:41:03 · update #3
Go bowling.....
Koi, you need to be talking to your therapist about these things.
When something tragic happens in our lives we sometimes set it up as a prominent date. The passing of a loved one, an accident that mames or cripples, or in your case the day your your uncle started raping you.
Unfortunately we often neglect some of the good things that happen to us as we focus on the bad.
Koi, treat monday, not as any other day but rather as a special day. It was the beginning of something bad that you don't have to deal with any more. So go bowling, have some pizza spend some time with Tyrel and be thankful for the good stuff in your life.
You had your bought with the bad, don't try to relive that, its over and now you can work on having some fun. Make Monday Funday.
2007-02-16 01:20:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I suggest spending the day having fun. Since you are only 14 that would probably be shopping, maybe getting your nails done or just hanging out with your friends especially those who know what has happened and can give you support. I know how difficult it can be to put this all behind you but at your age you still have lots of things to do so don't let this get in the way. I also had a hard time dealing with it. For me it was a cousin who raped me and I still to this day rarely attend family functions where he will be present but mostly because my family just swept the whole ordeal under the rug and pretended it never happened. I hope for your sake your family is supportive. If you need someone to talk to email me and I'll see if I can help or at least give you a listening ear.
I just remembered something my counselor had me do afterwards. She had me write down everything that happened and how I felt about "him" and then take it outside and burn it. I was so young then around 12 or so I don't remember if it helped but it's worth a try.
2007-02-15 22:42:51 · answer #2 · answered by christian_k1 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he got caught, I hope he is in jail. I don't think you can "deal" with it on your own. You need counseling. Is that possible? If possible, please start soon. This is not something you can handle on your own and it will only get worse as you get older. I am so sorry for you. I was molested by my stepfather when I was 13 and I am now 54 and I think about it all the time. I did not get any counseling because it was not offered in that day and time and although the abuse stopped, he continued to be my stepfather until he died about 10 years ago. I hated him every day of my life and still hope he suffered when he died. So, see how long something like this can effect your life. Please get help and I am sending good thoughts your way.
2007-02-15 22:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by nesmith52 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I agree with everyone who says you should go for counselling, or talk to someone you trust. And try to do something fun that will take your mind off of it. The best thing you can do is try to stop thinking about this day in your life, stop making this day important. Instead make the day when he was caught, or got arrested, or went to jail the important ones. Those are the days to think about and celebrate cuz it put an end to your problems, and your being hurt.
2007-02-15 23:36:41 · answer #4 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
unbelieve.....can't believe your uncle can do that. That's kinda of sick, Sorry you had to go through that though. I hope you will recover well. I think that if I was you, Bad things happens and sometimes it is really really bad things, but I take it as a lesson to be learn and it is, I use this lesson to help others when they ask and I take it as what ever happened in the past made me a better person and who I am today. I make the most out of it to be a better person with whatever I had to go throught or live through. hope I made a little sense and you learn a little from it.
2007-02-15 23:33:13 · answer #5 · answered by It'sJust-Me 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking shows that you actually ARE dealing with it..and that is good! You are a survivor! As a survivor myself I would say to you to make a step to recognize your feelings. Confront the trouble maker, perhaps in a letter, and express your disappointment and anger, to them. Then proceed to heal and grow. If you can find some counseling you will see that there are others who have been through similar experiences. Some of them let it get them down, and others have used their life experiences as stepping stones to growth to full and happy lives.It was not right for you to have to go through that, but you will take the experience and use it for the best in life. You have a right to be a complete, healthy and happy person..and you will be!
2007-02-15 23:02:25 · answer #6 · answered by Cassie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that the bastard did that to you. I'm glad he got busted and proud of you for talking about it even if it's in yahoo answers. And that's just what you need to keep doing, talking about it. If you can, it'll be best with a specialist. Talk to your parents if you can or someone at school that can help get you connected with a counselor. You need to get it off your chest and talk to someone that can help to understand why you feel the way you do and how you can feel better about everything.
Never forget that your awesome!
2007-02-15 22:42:35 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that this happened to you! I feel really bad for you, but since your uncle is in jail you should be getting some relief. You should also get some therapy to heal you and your emotions.
2007-02-16 07:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by Hi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope your getting proper counseling, and support from your family. your young and everything takes time...you where victimized once,...dedicate yourself to being strong enough to never let that happen again! Try to become more outspoken, even if it's not your personality.talk often.maybe write a book...You may just have to grow up a little faster and learn to deal with your emotions....Writing this question is a great start!keep talking and writing!...Best5 of luck!
2007-02-15 22:48:21 · answer #9 · answered by Clark in the City 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need some counseling. I was raped when I was really young too and until you get some real help you will fill like crap. Talk to your parents and see if they can help you get the help you need. My moms best friend was a psychiatrist and that was who I talked to and it took years of talking to her for me to come to terms with it. Here is your first bit of help that she told me until you can see someone. It was not your fault, he was the one who did wrong not you. Try hard to believe that and it will help
2007-02-16 02:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by ?Sherbear ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋