My husband didn't come home last night...what does it mean?

Question

I told my cheating husband that I have had enough and I quit on Wednesday. He told me to calm down and we would go out for dinner on Thurday. Well, Thursday has come and gone without a phone call or an appearance from him. Why is he avoiding me? Shouldn't he care enough to want to talk to me? On Wednesday, he saw what all this is doing to me, yet he doesn't want to be here to make me feel better. Why doesn't he care?

Answer 1

it could mean he doesn't want to come back home to a nagging, yelling, over controlling, uncaring, disrespectful, selfish, angry, and over criticizing wife who doesn't think of anyone else but herself. Well, hope that's not the reason he doesn't wanna come home.

You did mention of him cheating, and everyone else seems to say you're better up without him, he's of no good, he's a jerk and so on. But to me, that's just one side of the matter, i haven't heard your husbands own complain or reason of him cheating if at all he's cheating on you.

A wise woman once discover her husband cheating on her and instead of looking outside for the cause, she looked within, i mean she asked herself serious and honest questions.............what has gone wrong with me? what could be causing my husband to look for love and satisfaction outside? and many more..........................

In the course of her findings, she discovered the problem to be herself and not her husband. She change her attitude toward her husband to be more loving, more caring and more respectful, she change her way of making her hair and way of dressing and finally won back her husband. Her husband feel in love with her again and they were like new lovers.

Plz, not every husband will complain when you've change from that sweet woman he use to know. But sometimes his change of behavior should be able to whisper something into your ear....... don't be quick to confront him but first "look within" if you want to save your marriage.

Answer 2

they don't care, as they already have a life with someone else, it isn't them that's hurting, so they can't see and don't care. if he really wanted to change he would have been there, best to accept it, and realize what u are dealing with, and make plans to move on and forget this. his actions speak for themselves, the worst thing u could do right now is put any trust or hope in this man, if u do it will keep u emotionally upset, u have to make a decision about him now, and stick by it. why doesn't he care? i asked myself the same question once, and came to the conclusion that he was selfish, and was not in love with me, so after accepting that i just moved on and divorced him as soon as i could. never spoke to the man again. yes i still have some pain once in a while but for the most part, i know i did the right thing.

Answer 3

He is being very selfish right now and he does not care how you are feeling at all. More then likely he cheated on you last night with another woman. Since he is a cheater you need to get out and away from him and file for divorce asap! He does not love you at all . This is why he is acting this way towards you. He wants out!

Answer 4

Obviously the fact that you told him you quit doesn't matter to him. If it did, he'd have shown up to take you out for dinner on Thursday. If you take him back under these circumstances, you'll be his doormat for the rest of your life. Why doesn't he care? We can't "make" someone care for us. It has to be their choice. You need to concentrate on YOURSELF and your needs. If he loves you, he will be back eventually, but right now you need to show him your very existence doesn't depend on him. And by the way, where was he all night? Do you really want to make love to a man who is probably having sex with someone else? I don't think so!!

Answer 5

I don't know why he does not care but he doesn't. He is treating bad and doing things that could hurt you. I would divorce him. I would pack his things leave them on the driveway or have them dropped off at the home of whoever it is he is messing around with. If he is going to run to her bed and not care about hurting you then he should just stay there. You are worth more than be treated like that aren't you?

Answer 6

Because he's too wraped up in what's going on with his own feelings. Be them about himself, or you. Either way, he's focused on 'his feelings' and not yours. Not that it should be ALL about you, but there needs to be some selflessness on both sides. Failing to be able to understand the eachother will be your downfall.

It's more than likely he's just as upset as you, and does not know how to handle it. Let alone, what to do next.
Maybe he's waiting on you?

Sometimes when there is alot of guilt, it come across as being really selfish and oblivious to what you really need.
Just keep at it, but don't expect that you have to do all the work, or that it will be easy so soon- it's not.

Answer 7

Apparently the "cheating" and the "I quit" made it quite final for him. Why do you women feel it necessary that the man must always come crawling back begging for your forgiveness? And even more so if you know he is cheating than WHY do you want him too?

Answer 8

its good you confronted him about his cheating on you and the fact that he didn't come home on Thurs well he could be out w/another woman again or maybe he is avoiding you. I don't thik he really cares much about you he should want to work things out if he really did care.

Answer 9

You just try asking him.... why do people have such difficulty in asking their partners why they doing things.

There may be a simple explaination which you may care to find out before you jump on the phone to the divorce lawyers!

Answer 10

As you said you quit he probably took iy literally... Seems like you're better off without him though if he's a cheat plus being so inconsiderate as to vanishing like that seems to me another good reason to leave him.