domestic question for the ladies?

Question

i think my gf may have ocd she wont let anyone else wash her clothes in the washing machine, she used to be ok yrs ago using laundrettes but she will wash the clothes like 4 times in the washing machine, it all came to a head when i tried to help cos am homeworking and she commutes 13 hrs a day so i took out the clothes in the machine put them in the basket and washed all her other clothes for her and put them out for her, i would do this all the time if she let me, i put the other clothyes back and washed them again, when she came home she went nuts got upset said i dont do it right wghich is crazy i such a metrosexual man and not a slob and said i stressing her out even more, it started a big argument i been with her for years but i dont think i can stand it where i am made to feel useless round the house when i love to help, what can i do

and yes i do alot more i cook almost every day dust clean do the rubbish the lot

Answer 1

try talking to her or ask her how to wash her clothes right. there is a possibility there that she does have ocd. but a lot of people have small ocd tendencies. but try doing other stuff for her like washing the dishes or cleaning up the kitchen. you could make her dinner. there are plenty of other nice things you can do for her besides just washing her clothes. if you have been with her for years and you really love her you will know when you can't take any more and you will know when it needs to be over.

Answer 2

I do all my families laundry. Sorted perfectly, always washed on the right setting and temperature using the correct detergent, softener and bleach when needed. When I do laundry not only does everything look and smell good it retains color and shape. My husband gets anywhere near the laundry and all the blacks are actually put into the dryer, shirts loose their shape and colors fade. Clothes last longer as long as I do the laundry.
The way I see it, if he really wants to do his own laundry that's great but he best keep himself away from my clothes. He has ruined my clothes, and faded my blacks given new shape to my shirts. It's not OCD, I just like things done a certain way when it come to my clothes!!!

Answer 3

Hell, I wish my man would clean my clothes to help me out. I'm pregnant and the most I might get is him washing some dishes and straightning up the living room, everything else is up to me. When I had morning sickness and couldn't do it because even odor from the dish washing liquid or cooking grease, basicially, everything that had any odor at all made me have to throw up, my man was still a lazy ***.


Ur a hell of a man move o to someone who deserves u and will appreciate u, I know a lot of women would

Answer 4

Support her. Suggest she sees a GP. I have mild OCD and most of it focuses around the house and housework. Even if my other half cleans for me, I do it again because he won't have done it how I like to do it. It sounds completely stupid but it's not her fault. I am slowly getting over it though and now am much more chilled out and don't have to clean everything so thoroughlly and so often.

I would reccomend you get her a copy of The OCD workbook. It's basically a book you work your way through and write your feelings down and stuff and it slowly helps you get over it. It's basically the same as what a GP would do with you. Here's a link to it on Amazon:

http://www.amazon.co.uk/OCD-Workbook-Breaking-Obsessive-Compulsive-Disorder/dp/1572244224/sr=8-2/qid=1171624010/ref=pd_ka_2/026-0076575-1963657?ie=UTF8&s=books

Answer 5

Have you spoken to her calmly about this?

It does sound excessive to wash her clothes 4 times.
This may be a very sensitive subject for her and needs to be handled carefully and sensitively.
What do you think stopped her use of Launderettes?

You could urge her to seek help from gp but it needs to be the gp to diagnose if it is OCD.

Answer 6

This could be the beginning of a problem and you are right to be worried. I would talk to her about it and also do some research into the subject first. I'd suggest maybe doing the hoovering or some other household chore and see how she reacts to that too (also it's always nice to split the work!).

Good luck!

Answer 7

I agree she's over-reacting...but just stay away from HER clothes. Do your own, and continue to cook and do whatever chores you currently do, but leave her clothes alone and she may calm down and appreciate the other things you do. OCD is treatable with counseling...good luck. It's very challenging to live with someone who has this disorder

Answer 8

I think you should move in with me!!!!! I commute about 14 hours daily and my partner works 8 hours, but he comes home and just slobs! I think she is a very lucky lady but i think she is also showing alot of disrespect and lack of gratitude!! We all like to be perfect and have things done in our own way, but it has to be give and take. I reckon she has definately got an obsession, either that or she is trying to make you feel inferior!! Pack your stuff, i will give you my address!!!!! lol xx

Answer 9

when you say you wash her clothes, does this mean you shove as many clothes as tightly packed as you can into the machine and put it on a 60' wash as my husband does or do you do it properly? this could have a lot to do with her reaction - ask my husband.

Answer 10

have you tried asking her to show you how she likes her clothes washed as you would love to help her out

i do think she might have a problem though have you spoke about it with her suggest she gets some help before it gets worse
you sound like a great bf